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Who pays for this theatre ticket?

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TenpennyTwat · 15/07/2022 18:13

A friend got tickets for us to go to the theatre. I transferred her the money for my ticket (£40). Now I have tested positive for covid and can't go. (I'm feeling OK but I don't want to pass it on to anyone). I apologised to my friend and asked her if she knew anyone else who could go with her. She has found another friend who'd like to go which is great. But... she has given my ticket to the friend and not asked for any money for it? She said she 'didn't feel she could ask for money at this point'.

I don't really get what that means. The show is tomorrow. £40 is not a small amount for me. As far as I am concerned, my friend has given my ticket away as a gift to her friend without asking me if this is ok. I'm pretty sure the other friend doesn't know I've paid for it! She's not acknowledged it in any way; if it was me I would message the person who'd paid and say "Are you sure that's OK, would you like any money for it?" If they said no I would obviously want to thank them.

I feel pissed off about the whole thing but can't think of a way to express this to first friend as she clearly thinks she's been totally reasonable.

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50mg · 15/07/2022 18:22

If I'd found a taker for my ticket, I'd talk to them about payment, although tbh I'd probably give it, I'm not worse of than I would have been if I'd gone, the money is spent.

As friend had done all the legwork, I don't think you're in any position to object, although in their shoes I would have offered.

MintLampShade · 15/07/2022 18:19

I mean, this could well have been a miscommunication. If you didn't specifically ask your friend to try and sell your ticket to someone, she might have thought you just want someone to take your place (and ticket) and that's exactly what she said to her friend.

I do think you need to be quite explicit in communicating what you want to happen because your obvious might not be the other person's obvious solution.

Could you have got a refund or transfer your ticket to another show?

Idontgiveagriffindamn · 15/07/2022 18:18

They may have only agreed to go as it was pitched to them as a spare / free ticket. So it might have ended up not being used.

Mally100 · 15/07/2022 18:16

Yanbu, the other person should have reimbursed you. They have essentially got a free ticket somewhere, how can someone think this is ok.