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To only just realise it was Peter Andre in the wrong not Katie P!

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Macbeth8 · 30/06/2022 23:40

This is a random thread..if you arent interested in Katie and Peter please dont bother reading...
Just had a binge watch of old episodes of Americas Next top model on youtube and it showed me Katie and Peter stateside - their opd documentary..I used to watch it and love them as a couple together. Was gutted when they split but like everyone else at the time I remember thinking how awful Katie was and how she was in the wrong during that infamous massive row they had in that shop in LA.
It pops back up and so I watch it again, near in mind this is after years of me seeing ir. And cant believe it! Its like a brand new argument - completely saw this in a different way.
Pete was the onein the wrong, not Katie. In fact he was awful, actually abusive? Swearing at her calling her a f*king b**ch, "a cow", "you think youre gonna get away with it?"
Bleeding hell, if this isnt abusive I dont know what is! Im more in shock because I remember all the stick KP got, the hate campaign and the "team Pete" . He deserves a medal and all that bollocks.
It just doesnt make sense. How can anyone see it for what itnwas? In fact watching it again, KP hardly spoke..it was all Pete winding her uo, qlmost goading her and then blasting her when she bit back at him..Im just really shocked I guess....😶 makes you wonder how things can get so easily misrepresented.
What does everyone think?

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lemmein · 01/07/2022 20:00

I can't stand PA. I always thought he was abusive in their shows. One episode he was whining on that they hadn't had sex for ages - after it was reported that KP had a miscarriage at the same time he was pestering her for sex. No wonder he was furious the MC story had come out, it exposed him as the misogynistic, abusive fucker he is, but he needn't have worried because people overlooked it just to hammer Katie a little bit more.

Not keen on Katie either, she's her own worst enemy but she isn't pretending to be anything else - he, on the other hand has made a living out of being 'Poor 'loves his kids' Pete!' 🙄

RaleighDurham · 01/07/2022 19:38

And out of the two of them, who is it with the criminal convictions, with numerous court appearances? Who has had SS at their door? Whose partner has been banned from contact with their children? Who was filmed about "loving the coke?"
Certainly not Peter. HE is the one who has given the two elder children a stable family and upbringing, with a decent education.

RaleighDurham · 01/07/2022 19:30

Gosh, it's almost as if there were some kind of orchestrated "let's discredit Peter" campaign going at the moment, as some kind of deflection.
Now, who would that be in the interests of?

That footage in LA was an unpleasant snapshot of a relationship that had become toxic and was in its dying throes. Lots of people are not behaving their best at that sort of time. Peter and Katie are no different. I don't think that means that he is abusive. Get some perspective, fgs.

hookiewookie29 · 01/07/2022 18:55

Peter Andre wouldn't be where he is now if he hadn't met Katie in the jungle. She was his meal ticket
He'd still be playing pubs and clubs if it wasn't for her.

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 01/07/2022 18:34

Thread being allowed to stand cos we're knocking PA? If we're reading the same thread, there's a lot of KP knocking/hating going on. Nothing justified PA's apparent abuse, there's a lot of handmaidens of the patriarchy on here. I'm suprised MN haven't knocked it on the head for the misogyny, presumably expressed by women on here. Makes me Sad and Angry

Allnostalgic · 01/07/2022 18:31

Just because she's not a hood mum doesn't take away Peter Andre being a creepy as fuck, lying abuser.

Grapewrath · 01/07/2022 18:26

im no fan of KP and most of the time I think she’s awful but I remember watching that show when it aired and thinking Pete was a manipulative, controlling, gaslighting cunt. He’s awful- I don’t get the adoration for him

RaleighDurham · 01/07/2022 18:19

And what sort of "good mum" calls other mothers and school staff in her child's playground "fucking cunts" in front of all the children, too.
Yeah, great mum.
And is repeatedly caught on camera with her young children in the car without being strapped in to car seats?
Hmm, great mum, yes.
And chooses to remain with the boyfriend that is banned from seeing her children? Come on, this is MN. You KNOW that SS don't do that lightly.

burnoutbabe · 01/07/2022 17:47

don't forget her revenge porn claim re against Alex Reid (and maybe also data protection - as she was holding personal data- a video- and she allowed it to be revealed), she was liable for misuse of private information too and harrassment.

RaleighDurham · 01/07/2022 17:42

How the hell has this thread been allowed to stand?

Oh yes! Because it's a man everyone is slagging off.

And Katie Price is a good mum? Don't make me laugh - she is an utter disgrace. Oh, and while we're at it, let's forget to mention the numerous driving convictions she's got, not least for driving at twice the legal limit for alcohol and drugs, whilst already banned. And that's just for the time she's got caught. She is alleged to have been driving on the back roads around her Mucky Mansion all along.s

anon2334 · 01/07/2022 17:40

Everywhere I've read about KP is she has shared access with her kids. Where is this 2 hour supervised àccess she is supposed to have that's only on mumsnet?

Rosewaterblossom · 01/07/2022 17:02

I find it odd the friendship/relationship he has with her ex kieron (the younger 2 kids dad.) I get siblings should have relationships and the parents should be civil, but it's like they've forged a "us poor exs of KP" fanclub, where they are "amazing" dad's and she's the villain. Forgetting that Pete treated her like shit and kieron cheated on her repeatedly with other women, two of whom were her best mates!

Dibble135 · 01/07/2022 16:36

Dibble135 · 01/07/2022 16:32

He said the same about natural birth, which is unfair as KP’s doctor explained on the show Harvey was a big baby and his birth damaged her meaning it was safer to have sections with Junior and Princess.

Sorry that was meant to quote the post about breast feeding!

Dibble135 · 01/07/2022 16:35

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 01/07/2022 14:14

He didn't adopt him and it didn't seem like it was his choice not to continue seeing him at the time

He wanted to but Dwight York said no, which is ironic given he wanted nothing to do with him.

Dibble135 · 01/07/2022 16:32

He said the same about natural birth, which is unfair as KP’s doctor explained on the show Harvey was a big baby and his birth damaged her meaning it was safer to have sections with Junior and Princess.

JudyGemstone · 01/07/2022 16:26

CrazyAllAroundMe · 01/07/2022 10:11

I think she's neurodiverse herself. It would explain a lot of her behaviours, relationship issues and impulsiveness . She needs help but won't take any as there will be full denial of a problem existing it's always someone else's fault and likely she'll feel insulted at the suggestion - it's difficult to watch someone you love self destruct I've been there and lived that life.

I agree PA is a dick but they prob bought the worst out in each other.

I’ve also wondered if she may be on the autism spectrum, I’ve worked with a few young women who are that present quite similarly in many ways.

I’ve also always quite liked her, she’s funny and sweet, but clearly isn’t able to function very well and doesn’t understand healthy relationships.

deedledeedledum · 01/07/2022 16:18

He has always struck me as someone with the rage simmering just beneath the surface. It's the over the top 'niceness' that sometimes cracks to reveal something dark underneath. It doesn't surprise me that he married a woman young enough to be his daughter. Controllable.

Earpieced · 01/07/2022 15:16

brighteyesburninglikefire · 01/07/2022 14:59

My ex behaves exactly like this, yet SS think he's fine to have access.

It is speculation but it’s more serious, the children witnessed something awful and that’s why access was stopped. There is enough speculation online and info to show a serious police investigation that went on and during this time, access was stopped likely as she went back to her partner after the incidents. I would expect she has been given opportunities to make other choices

Earpieced · 01/07/2022 15:13

I’m not a Peter fan I don’t like him

Peter wasn’t an unknown but he was uncool and a bit of a joke. I gather he had mental health issues depression and eating disorder so he went off the scene as a combination of this. Similar happened to Craig -David after Bo selecta
Peter has said before he was good with his money and had invested it. I was a teen in the 90’s - I remember him very well.

He then wanted a come back so he got on I’m a celeb as a Tv personality but with the intention of reviving his music. His music was still not very cool and quite awful but the Romance was very lucrative so they both ended up down a path that clearly made them both very unhappy. You can see from the documentary that Pete was always trying to keep his music going and she would put him down about it knowing it was a weakness. He was pulling her down as well about her looks and behaviour. I can’t imagine that the Tv show helped either of them or made them happy. Katie wanted a stable family life and a dad for Harvey. It was doomed to fail as it wasn’t a fairytale romance

Pete has managed to find a career in musicals and TV presenting so has a steady income as no one wants to buy his new music (but fans will go see 90’s revival music) and he’s had subtle surgery to look good for his age and he’s kept himself in shape. He has a respectable wife and made friends in TV circles so he’s doing ok.

KP can’t sing and has tried her hand at lots of things including ghost written books and clothes but really her only venture that works for her and earns money is exposing her life all over TV and in tell all memoirs (and now only fans). I don’t know whether this is laziness or bad management, someone who was so lucrative in their clothing and perfume lines shouldn’t really have gone bust so early on but this is in part due to all the bad exposure she gets and bad business and personal decisions. She struggles to be taken seriously as she’s seen as such a car crash, it makes good trash TV material but she has less options as she’s now an actual criminal. Personally I think she tried to do too much too fast, she had bad advice to keep setting up companies and should have just focused on one or 2 areas.

She now mainly only has fans who feel sorry for her and this is not a good fan base. No one should be getting 4 concurrent facelifts by the age of 41, and someone who built a career on modelling is going to struggle to keep that going the more she keeps messing with her face and body which is why she is now having to do really low budget jobs to keep going (currently collaborating on only fans with someone from love island)

she needs better management and to get away from her awful boyfriend but I don’t think that’s what she wants to do

brighteyesburninglikefire · 01/07/2022 14:59

Earpieced · 01/07/2022 07:30

Some of the girls from the playboy mansion gave an interview that when Harvey was a baby, she left him to go to the playboy mansion in the US for ‘work’ and when she was there she got so inebriated on drugs and alcohol they were afraid she might die.
This is before Pete
I watch those videos on Tiktok and he’s being absolutely horrible to her and she looks really depressed and detached. I’ve never doubted she has mental health problems and Pete made them so much worse. He is/was an insecure man and the way he pressured her for sex was really awful. I don’t like him he’s just got good PR and he’s grown up a bit.

But she has committed crimes like drink & drug driving whilst banned and given up/lost custody of her kids choosing men, surgery, fame and holidays over having a stable life with her children so I don’t see how you can say this is all ‘mens’ fault and she means well and is a great mum. She’s chosen to stay with her current man even thought it’s meant she’s lost almost all her custody. She goes on holiday on all of her kids birthdays, first days of school, she doesn’t put seatbelts on them in the car, she admits she never does homework with them and she has embroiled princess in at least 3 very scary and inappropriate incidents (princess being present or involved with Katie’s man drama).

If a man behaved like Katie has the past 10 years you wouldn’t want your kids having unsupervised access, much of this more recent situation is her own fault. I can’t believe she keeps having surgery, it’s making her look so bizarre and she needs to stop going to cheap surgeons as they do not have her best interests at heart just publicity. I agree she has issues and I do feel sorry for her, but more so for her kids especially the little two

My ex behaves exactly like this, yet SS think he's fine to have access.

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 01/07/2022 14:31

Funnily enough the UK isn't the only place in the world and even I know his music did better in Australia than over here and mysterious girl certainly wasn't the kind of music I listened to as a teen

Idontlikehim · 01/07/2022 14:28

He was a one hit wonder from the 90s who piggybacked on KP’s fame and that’s the literal only reason any of us know who he is now. Mysterious Girl wasn’t even a good song and if he hadn’t met KP he would have been one of the obscure artists in a never mind the buzzcocks line up parade. He was a nobody before he met her.

I feel sorry for her, most if not all of her issues stem from choosing the wrong partner in a desperate bid to be loved/wanted.

Fizbosshoes · 01/07/2022 14:16

He had a career in the 90s hence why he was on I'm a Celeb. Now he is appearing in the west end. So you can't say he made his career from divorcing KP.

What was his 90s career? I'm pretty sure he was famous for 1 song and getting his abs out. He would be about as successful as Chesney Hawkes (ie not particularly) if he hadn't got together with Katie Price

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 01/07/2022 14:14

ekinsu · 01/07/2022 13:47

i find it pretty awful that Peter adopted harvey and then when they split up stopped seeing him. Why adopt a child if you only want a relationship with him when with his mother

He didn't adopt him and it didn't seem like it was his choice not to continue seeing him at the time