I was really rude and possibly discriminatory to my boss. What should I do?

I’d be dismissive of that situation, too. Because it would be in vanishingly rare circumstances. I’m sure someone will start Googling to find such a case, but, yeah…literally couldn’t give less of a shit.

I wouldnt be remotely offended if I was preaching about my views on gay rights, say for example gay marriage, saying I thought it was wrong (I dont at all btw) and someone said to me why do you have that view though when it is unlikely to affect you as a straight woman?

I also think the fact you was in a room full of men agreeing with him is horrendous and they should be ashamed of themselves. Even if that is their views keep it out the work place.

I'd let it go. If you're used to talking political issues then of course he's entitled to his opinion and its going to be based on his beliefs. You're entitled to your opinion and its based on your belief. It doesn't matter that he's a man so doesn't have the problem of unwanted pregnancy but it doesn't mean he doesn't get to state his view.

I'm not affected by the HS2 works but I'm still allowed an opinion. To say that someone isn't entitled to give an opinion because it doesn't directly affect you really limits your options.

Except she didn't say that. And actually yes, the opinions that should count most are those belonging to the people most affected.

The bottom line is no one has a say on another persons body. It doesn’t matter if you’re male female gay straight, bi, black, white anything. If you need to use someone’s personal make up to silence them then you’ve lost the argument and you do other women no favours.

I wouldn't apologise. What you said was true. I doubt he'll take if further, but if he does I would claim that he was discriminating against you and your female sex by advocating the rolling-back of women's reproductive rights.

A gay man is unlikely to accidentally/ unintentionally get a surrogate pregnant though 😂🙄.

I don’t think you said anything wrong OP. I do think being gay means he has less of a stake in this issue, therefore it was a relevant comment.

We will have to agree to disagree, but at the end of the day she learned her lesson not to let emotions get the better of her and will unlikely say anything like that again.

His behaviour was much worse - plus he also stated he doesn’t care about being PC etc - so can’t see how it will go any further without him getting in more trouble than OP.

Don't apologise. It was a frank exchange of views, which he initiated.

Just noting - you didn't say you have no say, which would be an opinion, you said it has no bearing/won't impact you. That is a straightforward fact. His sexuality is relevant because it won't impact him via a female partner.

It would be disingenuous to pretend that a gay man is as likely to be impacted by an unwanted pregnancy as either a woman or a straight/bisexual man.

Not being as likely doesn't make any difference here. The OP's language was still discriminatory.

She brought up his sexuality and basically told him his opinion counts for zero because he's gay.

Nope, don't apologise, no one wants to listen to him spout his offensive right wing views in a work meeting. Giving him a slap down in front of colleagues was entirely appropriate after all as your boss he sets the tone of the meeting. If he strongly believes in free speech then he shouldn't have a problem with you also exercising that right.

@Dirtylittleroses

she didn’t behave terribly but he did

i don’t agree it’s as relevant to gay men at all. I’d stand by your comments, OP. well done.

This.

@Hotchox completely agree - I find the whole idea of being gay but really right wing hard to get my head round.

Being part of a group that has had to fight for their own rights usually makes people a bit more sympathetic and open minded.

@Merryclaire that doesn't make what the OP said any less discriminatory.

This wasn't an appropriate workplace discussion and personally I wouldn't have got involved at all.

Whilst it was probably unwise to reference his sexuality, I don't think what you said was discriminatory. It would be disingenuous to pretend that a gay man is as likely to be impacted by an unwanted pregnancy as either a woman or a straight/bisexual man.

Discriminatory is treating someone unfairly. It's not unfair to point out that a gay man will never be impacted by abortion law.

There's harassment which is a different thing - intending to cause distress or alarm.

You did neither, absolutely do not worry on those grounds. He may have it in for you now though, just because you bested him. Depending on your relationship I might think about apologising for 'responding to your views on women's rights more heatedly than I would have wished' or similar.

Well... the right wing has a very strong opinion on LGBT rights and not only they believe that life starts at conception but that god created marriage to happen between a man and a woman. A gay man voting for right wing is a bit like a black man joining the kkk. You basically vote for a political ideology that sees you as a loser person with little rights due to your sexual orientation.

This said your boss has no business in using a work meeting to voice his political ideology, not only it's not the place forte but your employees might have a different one (most probably). He knows he can get away with it because he's the boss.

What a lovely guy to work for. A visit to HR is not a bad idea.

In this day and age it’s more likely the surrogate is subject to a contract where the ‘parents’ can force her to abort if there is an issue with the baby, or prevent her from doing so if she is unwell.

What reasoning does a gay man have for being anti choice other than just being a cunt?

There are a number of gay men who have been very loudly campaigning to reduce regulation around surrogacy so that it is easier for them to have a family. I’d imagine that the inevitable outcome of banning abortion, i.e., more babies available for adoption, is also going to be welcome news to some (not all) of these campaigners.

Nope. A straight man still doesn't get to dictate whether or not a woman aborts his child.

A surrogate would be unlikely to insist on a termination though.

Yes, unlikely but not impossible. Therefore the OP was wrong to discriminate.

I think saying that he is a man and has no say is enough, no need to bring up his sexuality. Straight men have no more of a say? The irony is it's mostly heterosexual men making these laws anyway