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To ask how many people you've slept with?

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ErinAndTonic · 21/06/2022 18:27

Do you even know the number.. I was thinking today that I've never actually 'tallied' it (not sure if it's a more male thing to do!) but I think it's around 9 or 10.

I've no idea what's considered high/low for women.. and I assume mens are higher.. although my partner tells me he's only slept with 2 people which shocked me! 

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BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 21/06/2022 18:36

Wouldn't be able to add it up but its going to be high. I was searching for love and affection as a young adult, unfortunately for various reasons associated that with sex.

prissywakeup · 21/06/2022 18:35

Around 100

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ErinAndTonic · 21/06/2022 18:35

theyhavenothingbuttheaudacity · 21/06/2022 18:32

Yes you are. Why does it matter?

It doesn't really, I'm just interested. I agree with the comments that it's not about the number, I was just curious. I'm in a long term relationship myself and I guess wondered where I fell on the spectrum. No need to reply if you're not comfortable - I feel anonymous enough on here to share.

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LuckyStone · 21/06/2022 18:35

2, but Im youngish and have time on my side to up that number significantly 😄

the80sweregreat · 21/06/2022 18:32

1

theyhavenothingbuttheaudacity · 21/06/2022 18:32

Yes you are. Why does it matter?

IncompleteSenten · 21/06/2022 18:32

I can't remember.
Quite a few.

MajorCarolDanvers · 21/06/2022 18:32

3 for me.

I have no idea for DH as we have never discussed it. I suspect around 20.

roarfeckingroarr · 21/06/2022 18:31

No idea but probably around 40. Very few of those in recent years!

JLwac · 21/06/2022 18:31

One and a half. The first one wasn't really the full thing.

dudsville · 21/06/2022 18:31

I also don't know. More than 3, less than 10? The number isn't meaningful, its the experience that makes meaning and that might include a large or small number.

Fiveinthebed22 · 21/06/2022 18:30

2 & DH is 2 also. But I guess it depends when the relationship started - we were teenagers so chance of a higher number if you met later in life

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ErinAndTonic · 21/06/2022 18:30

I never asked my partner nor has he me, it just came up.

I'm not particularly sensitive about it.. didn't realise so many people were Smile

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Justmuddlingalong · 21/06/2022 18:29

No idea. More than 1, less than 50.

balalake · 21/06/2022 18:28

You can ask, but I'm not going to tell you.