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To ask how many people you've slept with?

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ErinAndTonic · 21/06/2022 18:27

Do you even know the number.. I was thinking today that I've never actually 'tallied' it (not sure if it's a more male thing to do!) but I think it's around 9 or 10.

I've no idea what's considered high/low for women.. and I assume mens are higher.. although my partner tells me he's only slept with 2 people which shocked me! 

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DailySheetWasher · 21/06/2022 19:40

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Grin

Could only find 1 willing to do it, more like.

Idroppedthescrewinthetuna · 21/06/2022 19:39

Chasingclouds100 · 21/06/2022 19:37

Idroppedthescrewinthetuna - I shall be following you up that ladder..

I hope you have a tall enough ladder. Hallyup89 clearly is sitting high!

DorothyZbornakIsAQueen · 21/06/2022 19:38

Absolutely loads. Some good experiences. Some shit ones. Been with my dh for 20 years now, so just him since then.

EvelynParker · 21/06/2022 19:38

Both dh and I have slept with 6 people.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 21/06/2022 19:38

@Hallyup I have plenty of respect for myself. For cunts like you? Not so much

Chasingclouds100 · 21/06/2022 19:37

Idroppedthescrewinthetuna - I shall be following you up that ladder..

AllAloneInThisHouse · 21/06/2022 19:37

SavoirFlair · 21/06/2022 18:40

This kind of thread doesn’t ever end well because the women who have lived a happy, consensual, adventurous sex life, get subtly called the kind of names that belong in the 1950s or 1960s.

or the head tilting question of “how could you possibly have the time?” Or “doesn’t it get exhausting trying to remember all the names” kind of stuff

Then you get the other side of the coin which is “1 or 2 (including DH) and proud of it” kind of thing

Me? I’m somewhere between 50 and 100. I am happy with this and no regrets. My attractive (to me) OH has a fair bit fewer in his number but he was in a very long relationship from 21 to 33 years of age.

the key is, we both have very similar matched sex drives which is why he’s happy with my number and I get his.

Sorry, but why shouldn’t women with low/no number be proud?

You started your thread with happy….etc.
So sound your content, proud (?) of your past.

Why aren’t women on the other side of the spectrum aloud to be the same?

I’m getting really tired of the prude and virgin shaming here.

stressedsloth · 21/06/2022 19:35
  1. I'm currently separating from my husband and hate the thought of this number getting higher. :(
LikeAStar1994 · 21/06/2022 19:34

And I'm happy.

SpaceJamtart · 21/06/2022 19:33

@Hallyup89 I respect myself in many ways, the people I chose to sleep with have no bearing on that.

I also respect myself and other people enough to avoid being a sanctimonious arse

Idroppedthescrewinthetuna · 21/06/2022 19:33

Neither DP or I can work out our own histories.

I clearly do not have self respect. Tell you what, I will grab a ladder to climb the pedestal you are sitting on amd you can teach me! 🍆 💦

DinoWoman · 21/06/2022 19:32
  1. I met my DH when I was 18.
cadburyegg · 21/06/2022 19:31
  1. I'm 34 and separated from ex 18 months ago after 11 years. So that number will increase at some point I hope!
AuntieMarys · 21/06/2022 19:31

Loads. I'm in my 60s. Maybe 30?

AllAloneInThisHouse · 21/06/2022 19:30

0 for me.

Koffee123786 · 21/06/2022 19:29

1 and that's because I've been in a long term relationship since a teenager (now married).
I would believe that if I hadn't of been in a long term relationship from a young age my number would definitely be higher.

Albgo · 21/06/2022 19:29

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What an unpleasant thing to say.

RidingMyBike · 21/06/2022 19:28

One.

Although if we're talking slept with as in just 'shared a bed with' then more like seven Wink.

Albgo · 21/06/2022 19:28

No. I think around 40, but not totally sure.

MolliciousIntent · 21/06/2022 19:27

21, though only one in the last decade. DH's is 11. We both have plenty of self respect.

Blowyourowntrumpet · 21/06/2022 19:27

I'm not sure. 10ish

Bunnyfuller · 21/06/2022 19:26

entropynow · 21/06/2022 19:23

Let's not mention the 'are you really asexual/frigid/prudish' for the low numbers women...
Cos that never happens, right?

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I don’t think anyone has judged low numbers

sammylady37 · 21/06/2022 19:26

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Didn’t take long for the judgemental attitudes to arrive.

why do you think women who choose to engage in pleasurable, lawful, activity lack self respect?

Housemartinshappyhour · 21/06/2022 19:25

11, and I'm 31

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 21/06/2022 19:25

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One.

I don't agree with this at all. A lot of PP's who have slept with loads more than me probably have more self respect than I do, I stayed with a guy who treated me like shit because I loved him. I'm sure a lot of the women who have slept with a lot more men wouldn't have put up with that.