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To ask how many people you've slept with?

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ErinAndTonic · 21/06/2022 18:27

Do you even know the number.. I was thinking today that I've never actually 'tallied' it (not sure if it's a more male thing to do!) but I think it's around 9 or 10.

I've no idea what's considered high/low for women.. and I assume mens are higher.. although my partner tells me he's only slept with 2 people which shocked me! 

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Garlicnorth · 26/01/2025 03:22

Over 40 but probably not 50. Can't remember every one. I started late (19), was married for a total of 15 years, and last had sex at 51 ... which goes to show I crammed them in while young & single 😂Some nice memories, one or two funny stories and a few utter arseholes.

Thanks, guys, I'll be thinking of you on my death bed! Well, some of you.

Edit: I'm only including PIV. Thanks, PPs, for the reminder! Also 2 women and a few guys that - well, I changed my mind. I don't think any were blowjobs only, and definitely no standalone PIA.

Good thing I'm coming up for a namechange 😳

NattyGuide · 26/01/2025 03:11

Back in the day I was a bit promiscuous I’m ashamed of how many people I slept with from the age of 16 to mid 40s including a few relationships in-between, is probably over 80 men and 2 women most of the men I slept with were one night stands or fwb from age 16 to 32, 2 women apparently but can’t remember that’s how drunk and stupid I was, now I’m in my 40s I’ve not had sex in 5 years, I like sex in a relationship hate ons

mast0650 · 22/06/2022 13:34

9 people. I'm 50, but it was the same number at 22. That's if we mean PIV sex!

CoalCraft · 22/06/2022 13:34

2 - my first serious boyfriend and my current husband. I don't think it's a number that really matters and I wouldn't worry about whether or not your own number is "normal".

xogossipgirlxo · 22/06/2022 13:33

One. I met my husband very young, so we were first partners to each other.

TheVillageBaker · 22/06/2022 13:32

1 for me. DH about 25.

Turnthatoff · 22/06/2022 13:29

More than Kate Middleton, less than Madonna.

CloseYourEyesAndSee · 22/06/2022 13:28

Between 40 and 50
DP is 78
we are swingers 😁

DivorcedAndDelighted · 22/06/2022 13:25

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Perplexed0522 · 22/06/2022 13:13

22 and I wish it had been more 😂

I remember them all and I remember the thrill and anticipation of not quite knowing what I was about to experience. They all had a range of qualities and skills and I feel like every sexual partner I had gave me a new insight in to sex in some way.

I’ve only slept with one person in the last 12 years (my husband) and sometimes I do miss the feelings of excitement, novelty and anticipation that come with having sex with someone new for the first time.

Sahara123 · 22/06/2022 12:42

@BaronessEllarawrosaurus wow that was me too . I wouldn’t have been able to elucidate that at the time but now I can see that I thought someone really liked me if they slept with me and this would be a long and loving relationship.
I've never admitted that before, nor heard anyone else admit it . Thank you !

Isis1981uk · 22/06/2022 12:19

12 (I'm 41, was married for 9 years of that). Most of mine were in my "wild" year travelling around Australia. My partner is somewhere between 20-30 (he's 41 & was married for 3 years of it).

AllAloneInThisHouse · 22/06/2022 12:00

LikeAStar1994 · 21/06/2022 19:34

And I'm happy.

Same!

EBearhug · 22/06/2022 00:53

Also I'm confused what's so twee about using the term 'slept with' it's a fairly common phrase where I'm from!

Because it's such a euphemism. I've had sex with around 40 people, but I've literally slept with 8 of them. Someone asked me recently what I most fantasised about, and I said literally sleeping with someone I really want to be with. Not that sleeping with someone is so great - the most one woke me in the middle of the night shouting (he has been mega-stressed lately.) So I suppose it's really a fantasy around trust and acceptance.

Still, I've had some awesome sex with some of the ones I haven't slept with.

Greenginghamdress · 21/06/2022 23:19
  1. Good memories of the majority of them. Only 1 for the last 10 years.
ChiefWiggumsBoy · 21/06/2022 22:48

I think mine's about 15. It's all a bit hazy now tbh.

WhereIsVillanelleWhenNeeded · 21/06/2022 22:30

Fooled around with 2 guys where we did most things but not intercourse. Doing the actual do, just the one person. So is that three or one?

Christmastreejoy · 21/06/2022 22:29

Depends what we class as sex I guess? 2 probably. 4 if we count other things. My husbands total is 1. We’ve been together since young

LaFloristaCalista · 21/06/2022 22:28

No idea

ChagSameachDoreen · 21/06/2022 22:25

Two women and nine blokes.

MovinOnUp · 21/06/2022 22:24

Somewhere between 30 and 40 I'd say.

Before I married my ex I averaged around 5 per year, Be those flings or ONS.

Was married for a long time then had 2 years of being single before meeting the current Mr MovinOnUp, During which I added 3 flings to my running total.

IfYouOnlyKnew · 21/06/2022 22:23

10 including DH. Would have been 11 but we were interrupted!!

Nothappyatwork · 21/06/2022 22:14

More than Princess Di, less than Madonna

Vikinga · 21/06/2022 22:11

I'm in my 50s - 11

JaceLancs · 21/06/2022 22:08

Without sitting and making a list heading towards 30