Finger in bum

The poster I quoted was slut shaming the op, claiming that because she had sex on the first date she couldn’t ‘hold the moral high ground’. How fucking dare that poster say that? Consenting to vaginal intercourse does not equal consenting to anal penetration, be that by a finger, penis or other object. This is a very simple fact, one that everyone should be able to understand.
but it seems some are happy to write the op off as a slut who deserves what she got, eh?

SHE is slut shaming HIM!

pixie5121 - are you still going? And what are you drinking? 🤣🤯

Yes I am painfully (really") aware of that - thanks to a cheating long term partner - never caught anything from a ONS - awkward? No not really

no she is calling him for doing something without consent - that's NOT the same thing at all - slut shaming (as you are repeatedly doing) is assuming all women who have sex on the first date (usually longer than 5 mins btw) are consenting to everything because they are obviously somehow morally corrupt but also because there is some arbitery time limit in your head about when it becomes to actually respect a woman's wishes and feelings - anyone engaging in sex has the right to be treated respectfully and to consent to sexual acts regardless of how long they have known someone or how quickly they engage in sex

SHE is slut shaming HIM!

Imagine if a man had come on here and written this about a woman:
is it just me or are men becoming increasingly blatant with these porn type moves when you have only just met? Maybe I am naive. AIBU to feel men should stop pulling these weird moves during a fling. It just seems to expected now a days. I just want a bit of missionary and a glass of wine to liven up my weekend - not feel like an extra in a porn movie.

So you don't realise you can get HPV, herpes and genital warts even when using condoms? Awkward.

What’s with the slut shaming?

I would have kicked him in the face

We can all do Google searches however I have a medical degree so I tend to rely on that more than Dr Google. But it’s absolutely not true to say that it’s ‘very common’ to get a prolapse from regular anal sex.

And I note you never addressed the point I made pulling you up on your ridiculous comment about men who want anal sex bring closeted gays… how do you account for women who like anal if that’s the case?

My 30 second Google search gave me data that I can supply you with all day long but the facts are that women have a weaker sphincter muscles
and therefore are more likely to have issues with prolonged stretching. That might be caused by constipation, sticking a dick up it or vase actually isnt unheard of apparently.

more fibre and less objects seems like a natural cure. Or you could spend your old-age walking around with shit dripping out of you, anything goes these days.

The plural of ‘anecdote’ is not ‘data’, as the saying goes. Everyone who has worked in ED has loads of these type of stories, it doesn’t make their claims about anal sex very commonly leading to prolapse true, though.

@sammylady37 given the number of people that she sees in A&E on a weekly basis with things that they have fallen over landed on and they’ve gone up their bottoms for her to retrieve I’m afraid I’m gonna take her word for it rather than have a crack myself, excuse the pun.

‘Very common’, ‘likely’…
funny the Mayo clinic doesn’t mention it as a risk factor, so…
www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/rectal-prolapse/symptoms-causes/syc-20352837

Your friend the nurse should know how dangerous it is for professionals to casually throw around phrases like ‘very common’ when they’re not actually true.

Likely to have a very sore arse and a prolapse one day.

The subject came up with the nurse friend because of current partner who’s X shits herself regularly due to the fact that she’s rather partial. Apparently it’s very common.

Luckily I’ve been in a monogamous relationship for about 15 years…but I was perhaps a bit promiscuous before than and there was definitely a sudden ramp up in men who thought licking or fingering the arsehole was fair game on the first shag. It’s not in my book.

If a man wants to stick his penis up an arse does he actually need a woman for that. Is he a closet gay but he can’t actually come out and admit that so the next best thing is to use a woman’s anal passage with all the biological implications that come with that

oh ffs. Are you really this ignorant or just bring goady?
Do you know that some women like anal sex? What does that make them, in your head?

Oh give over 🙄

If he put his finger up her bum without consent then he sexually assaulted her. No we do not routinely name sexual assault victims in the papers in this country and nor should we.

One time I had a one night stand the guy decided to suck my toes. I have a hatred of anyone touching my feet, and we were in a tent and had just walked across a wet muddy field and my feet were not exactly clean. Totally killed the mood for me. I think I would have preferred the offer of a finger up my bum at that point 😁

Am I the only one who got a pop-up of a newspaper article, while reading OPs post, about this exact thing?
Woman took man to court for poking finger up her bum during a one night stand!
Named him but not her, and in my honest opinion they should have named her, too, or neither of them!!

Its like guys who try to shove their penis in your mouth without so much as a look. I mean yes most women will give blowjobs, and yes they are mainstream etc etc, but I still get a choice and the chance to say no, otherwise its not the kind of man I want to be having sex with

😂