Finger in bum

I’m glad! I can’t change my mind and feel differently. We are all entitled to our opinion and that’s mine.

Perhaps that poster is under the mistaken impression that having sex with people known well to you is some kind of guarantee of safety...how unrealistic all round.

I suppose your view is quite refreshing. You’re saying that all men are dangerous animals who don’t understand consent (and even if they do they’ll ignore it), so what on earth did OP expect by having a ONS - she was lucky it was just a finger up the bum? To be honest, I’m so sick of hearing people bleat ‘NAMALT’ about male violence that it almost makes a welcome change to hear someone at least acknowledge that yes, all men are like that.

So sexual assault is ok on one night stands for you because the person should accept that if they have sex with a stranger?

And what about in the OP's case where it's a ONS with someone who isn't a stranger? Is that more or less acceptable to have unwanted things inflicted on you?

No wonder rape and sexual assault convictions are so low if people with such views are so prevelant.

@Scentedstock

This thread proves the madonna whore complex is not isolated to men.

Wrong. I would have exactly the same thoughts about a MAN who had a one night stand with a stranger, and then came onto a message forum complaining that she tried to do something he classed as 'non-vanilla.'

100% agree with @Whodoiwanttobe I know it doesn't sit well with some posters on here - saying something like this poster said, but trust me, plenty of people will be thinking it.

And tbh OP I would report him to the police for sexual assault if it were me. People should not tolerate this. Unlikely to result in a successful prosecution but I'm bearing in mind that I'm a lawyer and perhaps have a difference experience of being taken seriously by the police than many others (should not be the case and not infallible). Also difficult to do when you simply want to get on with your life and forget the little creep.

Its clear that the issue of consent isn't properly (a) legislated and (b) enforced. If you have sex, you do not consent to sex within all orifices or other practices, such as choking. Like with vaginal intercourse, permission should be sought. But we can't even prosecute rape properly so what hope is there for this? Its so antiquated. I hope people in 100 years time will look back and be astonished at the lack of protection for female bodies as we are when we look back aghast on things like women not being allowed to own property on their own.

In fact, consent is now increasingly used as a defence in cases of sexual assault/rape/strangulation causing death. And no-one can give a cogent explanation as to why the special measures introduced for witnesses giving evidence in rape and sexual assault cases aren't generally used (e.g. giving evidence behind screens, recording of evidence, etc).

This very mundane case always stuck in my mind: vocal.media/criminal/man-convicted-of-indecent-assault-after-grabbing-woman-s-breasts-during-consensual-intercourse. A medical student was convicted of indecent assault after injuring a woman's breasts during intercourse so badly that she was was unable to go to work for days afterwards due to pain. The conviction was overturned on appeal, largely due to lack of evidence as to lack of consent. It happened in Jersey, and it seems that the magistrate likely got the issue if not the standard of proof correct first time round but that might not even have happened elsewhere in the UK. if you read some of the social media comments on the case at the time, its clear that many, many men simply do not understand the law concerning consent or simply don't care because its near impossible to enforce. Its a recurring problem in rape and sexual assault cases and the law clearly needs to be clarified and updated to protect women. Penetrating the anus without consent clearly is sexual assault/rape but as it stands it would be well nigh impossible to prosecute in the absence of serious and perhaps permanently disabling injury, and even then it would be debatable.

Staying that a woman who has a ONS doesn’t have respect for herself is such a nasty attitude.

women have so far to go when even other women hold such attitudes

Some of these posts are absolutely sick.

So once a woman’s consented to penis in vagina sex with someone she’s not in a relationship with, that means she’s consented to the man doing anything to her body? Anal sex? Being tied up? Being penetrated with a foreign object? Being choked? Or is it just a finger up her bum that she’s assumed to have accepted through her slatternly conduct?

Another what? Person who has some respect for myself! I literally don’t know why you’d be surprised.. a finger up the bum is prob the least of your worries!!

Haha, I haven't bought the image rights and I'm in Aus so it probably won't work out, but I do love the idea!

IMO you’re having sex with a stranger so you’re trusting them without even knowing them. You don’t know them, they don’t know you and can and may do anything. I’m not saying it’s ok but you’re putting yourself in a dangerous situation so what exactly do you expect? I can’t imagine letting a stranger touch me let alone penetrate me! Maybe have more respect for yourself?

“Women like it”?! Oh dear. No you’re not unreasonable. That’s just a weird thing to do without some sort of discussion.

I'm a bit late, but loved the tshirt idea so...😁

Why does she need a strap on finger?

Coz that's what he put in her anus - his finger.

I can't tell you how thrilled I am to be too old to be dating and having ONSs.

If you see this bloke again, OP, tell him you've bought a strap on since you thought men liked it.

Sorry, posting issues. To quote earlier poster: ducks in the park won’t be aware that the anus and vagina are separate orifices, because for them they’re not. They have a single opening called a cloaca, which everything is plumbed into, including a retractable penis in males.

Ducks in the park won’t be aware that

AT least we know what kind of stuff YOU watch now @FlippityFlapperty

A finger of fudge is just enough to make a girl retreat.
Bleurgh.