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To think that having to have a DBS check to home educate is unfair.

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Grimed · 25/05/2022 14:56

Baroness Garden is intending all homeschool parents to be DBS checked. I don't think this is fair. What makes Homeschool parents more likely to be abusive? Surely regular checks from the local LA should be enough? If the education system is failing so many children perhaps that is what's needs examining not parents. What's next? All pregnant women get DBS checked?

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JemimaPuddlegoose · 30/05/2022 08:49

There are already multiple safeguarding measures in place for home educated children.

What "safeguarding measures" considering it's terrifyingly easy for parents or guardians to simply deregister a child and vanish entirely? That some LEA don't even do a once a year check, or require any documentation at all?

Studies have shown home educated kids are twice as visible as schooled children

What studies?

JemimaPuddlegoose · 30/05/2022 08:46

when even the powers that be who have all the information cannot come up with a single example where concerns about a child was not already known about by all the relevant agencies.

This is just a complete and utter lie.

ForestFae · 30/05/2022 07:24

A DBS check would be pointless and is discriminatory - it puts an additional cost on home educating families when other parents are not being DBS checked to look after their own children. If someone is trusted to look after their children during evenings and school holidays, or pre school age, then there’s no difference with them doing it during school hours.

I’ve not seen anyone answer the question about whether parents of pre schoolers should face the same regulations - I have pre school aged children, I’m a stay at home mum and I’ve never seen a health visitor as we opted out (which yes, you are legally entitled to do). Should I be DBS checked to look after them? What about grandparents who babysit or have children for parents who work? Should they also be DBS checked?

There are already multiple safeguarding measures in place for home educated children. Studies have shown home educated kids are twice as visible as schooled children due to them being out and about more often, home educated children are already registered with GPs, their births are registered, it’s not like people don’t know they exist. The DBS check would add nothing except serve as a financial barrier to home education

Upamountain43 · 30/05/2022 07:18

I love the way so many people suggest that it is a fact that Home Education is sometimes used as a cover for abuse - when even the powers that be who have all the information cannot come up with a single example where concerns about a child was not already known about by all the relevant agencies.

What is a fact is that some Home Educators are abusive to their children and we know this because the current safeguarding procedures have picked this up time and time again.

No Home Educator is against safeguarding children - what we are saying is the current safeguards for identifying children at risk work as well as - if not better - for HE children than they do for those in school.

Where there may be argument for changes is how agencies should work together to protect a home educated child where there are concerns as this is where all the serious case reviews have shown there to be an issue. Not on identifying and finding these children - that is working really well - but in the agencies knowing who is responsible for what after they have been identified.

So instead of using resources on an area of work where there is clearly a need for improvement the government plan to spend these resources on looking at thriving happy families.

Upamountain43 · 30/05/2022 06:57

This comment about DBS checks was made by a single person in the Lords who clearly has no understanding about DBS checks or EHE.

Perhaps we should all be more concerned about how someone so stupid got to be involved in the law making process and governing our country.

luan85 · 30/05/2022 01:21

KateW73 · 29/05/2022 23:26

Wow, so many responses to this are so ignorant of what home educating families are like.
You know how you all spend evenings, nights, weekends and school holidays with your kids? You take them to other places, too, right? You don't just hide in your houses all weekend. Well, home education is like that but for longer periods of time. We're not another species - we're the same as other parents doing what we need to for our kids. Most of the home educated children I've met started off going to school, but the two biggest reasons for parents taking them out of school was unmet SEND needs and bullying. Any of you parents looking with suspicion at home educators now could be in our shoes at some point in your kids' lives.
If home educated kids need checking up on without there being any evidence of abuse, just random checks 'in case', why wouldn't all children need to be checked up on during those long summer holidays when they're out of school? A lot could happen in six weeks, after all. Perhaps when local authorities want to charge the rest of you for DBS checks, you might think to object then, but it'll be too late - there will already be a precedent set that some families have to have their homes' inspected and their children questioned by strangers without their parents being present - so why not yours?

Spot on! So many narrow minded people on here

JemimaPuddlegoose · 30/05/2022 00:24

KateW73 nobody is talking about you and HE parents like you.

They're talking about the parents who are not like you, the ones who DO abuse their kids, who DON'T take their kids places, or to regular medical checks, or to bloody Brownies or whatever else people keep banging on about.

It is a fact that some parents pretend to HE as a front for abuse. So far not a single HEer has suggested ways to protect those children, and some are flat out denying that we exist because they'd rather sacrifice abused children for their own ideological purposes (exactly the same as TRA, basically).

Some of the posts from HEers on here have shown total ignorance of what abusive homes are like, and are acting like child abuse is some incredibly rare thing that nobody should care about because "most parents love their kids."

Nobody so far has been able to give a good reason why basic safeguarding is bad. Just a lot of froth about how introducing even very basic safeguarding will lead to mandatory forced abortion for any woman who ever shoplifted a lipbalm as a teenager.

KateW73 · 29/05/2022 23:26

Wow, so many responses to this are so ignorant of what home educating families are like.
You know how you all spend evenings, nights, weekends and school holidays with your kids? You take them to other places, too, right? You don't just hide in your houses all weekend. Well, home education is like that but for longer periods of time. We're not another species - we're the same as other parents doing what we need to for our kids. Most of the home educated children I've met started off going to school, but the two biggest reasons for parents taking them out of school was unmet SEND needs and bullying. Any of you parents looking with suspicion at home educators now could be in our shoes at some point in your kids' lives.
If home educated kids need checking up on without there being any evidence of abuse, just random checks 'in case', why wouldn't all children need to be checked up on during those long summer holidays when they're out of school? A lot could happen in six weeks, after all. Perhaps when local authorities want to charge the rest of you for DBS checks, you might think to object then, but it'll be too late - there will already be a precedent set that some families have to have their homes' inspected and their children questioned by strangers without their parents being present - so why not yours?

NeverDropYourMooncup · 29/05/2022 20:49

user1493039869 · 29/05/2022 16:46

I'm not going to pretend I've read all these comments, but from the page and a half I have read, geez you guys are so ignorant!
If they want to come at home ed parents like this, they'll come for all you school parents next; they'll want you to have a DBS check to make sure you're fine to have your child during school holidays, and don't forget the home visits for all your kids in the 5 yrs before school. Then they'll probably expect you to do a DBS check at your first midwife appointment, and if you don't pass, then abortion or the child will be taken from you at birth.
Oh and don't ever think you'll be able to take your child out of school because they are battered by bullies and teachers, school's the best place for kids right? 😹😹

That's no problem - they'd be able to check both mine and DP's current DBS (Enhanced), registered with the Update Service so they're live documents.

No worries about 'passing', because neither of us have committed criminal offences.

Whatalovelydaffodil · 29/05/2022 20:37

Thelnebriati · 29/05/2022 19:14

Again, this isn't aimed at the home ed community; but at another, less savoury community that hides behind them.

Illegal schools should be closed. I don't understand how they can stay open.

Whatalovelydaffodil · 29/05/2022 20:34

Perfect28 · 29/05/2022 18:46

Purple you may do, as many others do. But some do not. Some keep their children away from authorities and claim to be homeschooling. That's rather the point is it not? The total lack of checks.

But as long as there are abused children who go to school and are "seen" every school day and nobody finds out about it how many checks do you think home educators need ?

I would really appreciate it if someone who wants "more checks" could tell us if you think parents of pre-schoolers also should be subjected to the same checks. And what about during school holidays? Lots of us have asked this question but I haven't seen an answer.

JemimaPuddlegoose · 29/05/2022 20:25

Any child who is deregistered from school to be home ed is known to the LA. These parents have to write reports. So the children ARE NOT HIDDEN.

After 16 pages of numerous posters sharing their personal experience it's really abundantly clear that situations vary hugely from district to district.

Some LEAs are overly oppressive and make inappropriately strict demands on parents.

Some LEAs do nothing at all and don't request any reports or conduct any visits or checks.

It is clearly not factually correct to say ALL HE parents have to write reports. Some do. Not all.

Whowhatwherewhenwhynow · 29/05/2022 20:22

JemimaPuddlegoose · 29/05/2022 20:14

Sorry you feel the need to troll-hunt Minky3. I assure you there is nothing extraordinary about having been abused as a child.

Happy to DM you a link to a major media article about my personal case published in 2009 (which only happened because I advocate and write about child abuse; the media generally ignore child abuse and have no interest in covering it).

going through serious case reviews recently and noticed several with home educational as a complicating factor.

user1493039869 · 29/05/2022 20:15

JemimaPuddlegoose · 29/05/2022 19:34

Are you honestly that naïve to think that had you, or the other 'survivors' would have not been abused had you not been home educated.

I can tell you absolutely 100% FOR A FACT that if I'd had the opportunity to speak to an adult outside of my household to be able to ask for help (ask them to ring the police for me) that I would have been rescued. Absolutely 100% no question whatsoever.

Please do not call abuse survivors "naïve" for commenting on their own personal situation. I know my personal situation, and you do not.

You could have spoken to neighbours, family, friends, anyone, you chose not to

No I absolutely could not. There is no "chose not to" about it.

I wasn't allowed access to a telephone.

I didn't have any family except my mum (who was being controlled by her boyfriend) and one grandparent who lived in warden flats hundreds of miles away and who I never saw.

Neighbours ignored it.

I didn't have contact with friends since I was no longer in school. Besides I was a child, meaning all my friends were children too (or do you expect children to have adult friends?). Even if I did have some way to contact my friends from before I left school, what do you expect children to do?

If I'd been able to speak to a teacher then I could have made them listen, I could have told them enough detail to make them understand how serious it was, and then they could have advocated for me. Police and social services would have listened to them.

All the people that saw you on a regular basis.

Literally not ONE person laid eyes on me for two years, except my mum and her boyfriend. That is literally the entire point: that there are kids who no one ever lays eyes on. Who are these people you think were seeing me on a regular basis???!

Any child who is deregistered from school to be home ed is known to the LA. These parents have to write reports. So the children ARE NOT HIDDEN. The LA know of these children, and know what their education is like. So you were known to the local authority, they just let you down, like most government organisations.

JemimaPuddlegoose · 29/05/2022 20:14

Sorry you feel the need to troll-hunt Minky3. I assure you there is nothing extraordinary about having been abused as a child.

Happy to DM you a link to a major media article about my personal case published in 2009 (which only happened because I advocate and write about child abuse; the media generally ignore child abuse and have no interest in covering it).

Bondi41 · 29/05/2022 20:02

Yes I know plenty of people who are dealing with social services due to this and their kids go to school. I also know some who convinced social services there was nothing going on and I have seen myself there is..... As for LAs overstepping, there are many who make demands which aren't within the law (demanding copies of work etc) and then threaten SAOs if you don't comply. There were issues with the home education officer at our LA for quite a while, she was overstepping the mark, she has now been replaced and so far so good with the new home ed officer from mine and many other families opinions..... I'm not concerned about my family as we have nothing to hide, but I am concerned for families where the parents may have a criminal record from when they were young and stupid and have completely turned their lives around who home educate..... Who is going to decide what crimes are deemed unsuitable and how long ago offences matter for? I get that violent and sexual offences will definitely be on the list but what else will be?
And I think many people are of the same thinking as me that this is a completely pointless and ridiculous idea. As I said if we as home ed parents should be DBS checked so should all parents as they're left to look after their kids outside school hours and in school holidays.

RidingMyBike · 29/05/2022 20:00

Who are all these HCPs who regularly see HE children?! I have a kid who is in school. We saw the health visitor once at 3 weeks and once at 6 weeks, when she refused to offer any support for my PND. We then never set eyes on her again. To get a developmental check for my child I ended up complaining to my MP because my area wasn't even offering basic checks. If I hadn't done that, no HV would have seen my daughter after the age of 6 weeks.

She's seen the GP once in six years for a rash. She's seen the optician once after several years of trying to get an appt and getting fobbed off. Our area doesn't have any NHS dentists so she has only seen a private one - a high percentage of children don't go to the dentist at all because of the NHS dentist shortage. What is the school nurse service?! She's been seen once briefly by someone administering the flu spray in school, no other access to a nurse?!

It would be really easy for abusive parents to avoid all these interactions with HCPs. Most of them I only got after a lot of persistence!

And many areas don't seem to check up on HE children - the family I have concerns about the council doesn't follow up, doesn't ask to see work or what they've been doing etc.

Minky3 · 29/05/2022 19:58

This reply has been deleted

We've deleted this post as it felt like it was minimising childhood abuse.

luan85 · 29/05/2022 19:58

AppleWax · 28/05/2022 17:01

Home Education should be seen more as individualised private education, perfectly legal and is actually the default. Parents who send their children to school have taken the decision to let the state provide education to their children via the school system.

One of the reasons that OFSTED exists is to check the state school is meeting agreed standards and report back to the parents if the school is achieving this, and if not, the measures being put in place to correct this.

If you have been educated successfully through the school state system then surely your education is at a high standard and you should be more than capable of educating your child to at least that standard? If not, then could you argue that a state school education is a poor standard of education and it is understandable that parents are looking for better alternatives their children.

It would probably surprise people just how many ex teachers home educate because they have lost faith in a school system that is not fit for purpose, failing both school teachers and schooled children.

👌👋 yes. Lots of ex teachers in the home ed groups we are in. That to me speaks volumes

LearnwithSandS · 29/05/2022 19:48

As a child who was beaten at home and at school for the entirety of my childhood I would never trust a school or authority again. A DBS check wouldn’t have flagged anything up at all either. Schools routinely fail children day in and out, I now suffer with childhood trauma/PTSD. This affected me so deeply that I have only just had my first and only child at the age of 36 as I was so convinced that I would do the same to my own child and have lived in constant fear my whole life. I am now at a stage in which I’m truly happy but it took a long time to get here.

I don’t know what the answer is to safeguard all children but I do know that a DBS in majority cases won’t help. However I do agree that something needs to be in place to ensure all children whether at school or not are heard.

What I don’t agree with is penalising and stigmatising all home educators which is exactly what this is doing, more support and funding would be a better starting point to me.

JemimaPuddlegoose · 29/05/2022 19:47

Home educated kids do have access to home visitors, doctors, opticians and people who safeguard like any other child would.

Except for the ones who don't.

We submit yearly reports for our children's learning and achievements

Except for the ones who don't.

They aren't locked in a cupboard, dirty and left to fend for themselves!!!

So fuck the ones who are, because my kids are alright Jack.

Most people love their kids.

Most people love their kids so let's not bother having any safeguarding?

If most people love their kids then how come child abuse and child exploitation is so common?

We do have checks by LAs. Our kids visit groups, see doctors, opticians etc. What difference would it make if they attended a school or not?

Because the checks aren't designed to protect kids like yours, but to protect the kids who never see a doctor, never visit groups, and aren't checked by LEA.

youdroppedthis · 29/05/2022 19:40

Scorched · 25/05/2022 15:03

It’s a brilliant idea. All children have a right to safe guarding, why should be worried about what they may find

How do you think it would work?

What crime on a DBS would not have already prevented the parent from being in close contact with the child?

luan85 · 29/05/2022 19:39

Bondi41 · 29/05/2022 18:04

So you would be happy to have to have a DBS check for no reason other than you have children?
It is a huge waste of resources and will cause delays for people who actually need DBS checks for work.
But why should home ed families be targeted with this? All parents should be DBS checked if they are going to do this. As there are so many parents who send their kids to school who abuse and neglect their children. I know of plenty that do.
It starts the process of giving them so much more control over everyone's lives and gives the LAs more reason to overstep the mark, there are plenty that do already without this. When will they stop at what they control and decide on your behalf?
Also who will decide what crimes that show on DBS checks will deem you unsuitable to home educate? And if you are deemed unsuitable to home educate your own children, then should you be parenting at all?
I feel this would be a huge waste of time. Also who would foot the bill for these DBS checks? If they expect parents to pay then this is again unfair, we pay for everything for our children's education already with no funding to help with these costs, we pay for resources, tutors, exams. Everything that is provided in schools we pay out of pocket for.

Yup. 100% agree

MadameMinimes · 29/05/2022 19:38

@user1493039869 ”most people love their kids” may be true but you are very naïve if you think that means that abuse is rare.
I’m a safeguarding lead in a school and the number of children dealing with abuse at home is staggering. In the last month I’ve dealt with so many cases of abuse and neglect that I’ve lost count. In this academic year a quarter of our students have had some form of safeguarding concern raised about them. They may be a minority, but they are not a small minority.
I’m not sure that DBS is the way to go, but there is good reason to make sure that HE children are monitored and that they have contact with professionals who can raise the alarm if there are issues.

A completely homeopathic lifestyle would be inherently neglectful anyway. Trying to avoid unnecessary medication is one thing, but leaving a child without proper medication and only using placebos could be dangerous or leave a child in unnecessary pain if they have a significant illness or injury.