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High earners - how do you spend your salary?

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Citygirly · 21/05/2022 10:03

DH and I earn just under £140k combined.

We do maximum pension payments (his is 9% as NHS) and we also give about 10% a month to charity.

Other than that, we plan to start overpaying the mortgage. We invest £1k a month (so £500 each) and save £1k for holidays. We of course do general/specific savings but then have a good chunk left over for disposable income.

AIBU to ask other high earning households how they tend to allocate their money? Just want to see if we could be using it better or this is about right for comparables.

OP posts:
lancsgirl85 · 22/05/2022 13:22

For example my role is a senior role within mental health, and I'm on band 8a (salary range 47-53k). I don't think that's poorly paid. I think my nursing colleagues are poorly paid for what they do, however.

lancsgirl85 · 22/05/2022 13:20

@Lincslady53

NHS pay scales are graded according to profession and years of experience. A domestic (cleaner) is typically band 1/2, on circa 18-19k, the average nurse will be band 5 or 6 which ranges from 25k-39k, and a clinical psychologist will start on band 7 after qualifying (40k) with opportunity to progress as far as band 8c (75k) at consultant level. Consultant medical doctors / psychiatrists / surgeons can be on as much as £108k at band 9.

Not all NHS roles are poorly paid. It depends on the profession.

Lincslady53 · 22/05/2022 13:13

I thought that people in the nhs were badly paid?

Robinni · 22/05/2022 13:12

workintums · 22/05/2022 12:55

@Robinni but when was that? The closest grammars to me are extremely competitive and virtually every child is tutored to go there. Excellent state schools now have tiny catchments with astronomical house prices, when I grew up I went to good schools despite not living that close to them.

Of course school has a role & education can lift people out of circumstances. Nonetheless someone on 120k with zero parental help will still be behind someone earning less but who was helped onto the ladder in their 20s.

This is going off on a bit of a tangent….

Someone else posted saying they were of the opinion that people being impoverished was some sort of conspiracy.

I commented that I felt the lack of HE in schools now in particular and other support was unhelpful. And feel all schools should be educating kids on how to manage their interests/lives…

Yes of course those from wealthy backgrounds have a head start, however better support and education helps to make life better for those who don’t have the same privilege.

We have family in both secondary and grammar right now and there is a stark difference. As there was when we were at school decades ago.

However my point was that all kids in all schools should have HE education/pastoral support to equip them for life on a more level footing.

Could we get back to the topic of the thread?

workintums · 22/05/2022 13:07

wasn't a particular point just a reply to your original point.

Robinni · 22/05/2022 13:04

workintums · 22/05/2022 12:57

@Robinni your link excludes London which is what I was referring too? but I found it on this

www.nasuwt.org.uk/advice/pay-pensions/pay-scales/pay-scales-fringe-outer-london-and-inner-london.html

Hadn’t realised, I don’t quite see the point though?

London is one city. Nurses have a higher pay scale there, as most professions do due to the higher living costs.

workintums · 22/05/2022 12:57

@Robinni your link excludes London which is what I was referring too? but I found it on this

www.nasuwt.org.uk/advice/pay-pensions/pay-scales/pay-scales-fringe-outer-london-and-inner-london.html

Robinni · 22/05/2022 12:55

@TomatoorChips

They are working from here but getting the income. Sorry should have made that clear!

workintums · 22/05/2022 12:55

@Robinni but when was that? The closest grammars to me are extremely competitive and virtually every child is tutored to go there. Excellent state schools now have tiny catchments with astronomical house prices, when I grew up I went to good schools despite not living that close to them.

Of course school has a role & education can lift people out of circumstances. Nonetheless someone on 120k with zero parental help will still be behind someone earning less but who was helped onto the ladder in their 20s.

Robinni · 22/05/2022 12:53

workintums · 22/05/2022 11:59

for a teacher you’re talking starting salary circa 25k, max salary for a head would be 120k.

I thought it was 32k for a london teacher

@workintums

www.nasuwt.org.uk/advice/pay-pensions/pay-scales/england-pay-scales.html

TomatoorChips · 22/05/2022 12:45

Robinni · 22/05/2022 12:43

I completely agree. But I also know a lot of working class people who went to secondary vs grammar and the ones who went to grammar got enormous amounts of pastoral support, extra guidance etc. On money, Uni applications, social support, filling in the blanks of what their parents couldn’t/wouldn’t provide.

One is now a doctor another is in Silicon Valley on 120k pa… parents still live in council houses.

School, and what is offered within the school environment, is extremely important.

Silicon Valley on £120k is 1 step off poverty

Ruraljurer · 22/05/2022 12:44

Prep school x3
Live in a nice house
Investing in property
Investing in stocks and shares
Decent quality food
Charity

We don’t do big holidays because we worry about the environmental impact, we are trying to limit long haul to once every 5 years. We are going to wales for a week this year.

we are not flashy at all, we live very average lives other than the private schools and the big house. I think people might be surprised by how much we have in the bank.

After seeing my parents living through extreme financial difficulties when I was little I do not take our finances for granted and I’m grateful every single day that (for now) we don’t have to worry. Things can always change.

I noticed in my work that often the richer people got the stingier and weirder they got. We are very very careful not to conflate our self esteem with our wealth. We have been extremely lucky, that’s all.

Robinni · 22/05/2022 12:43

workintums · 22/05/2022 11:40

It needs to come from school. Many parents do not have the experience themselves to give guidance.

I agree in part but for the majority money goes to money & for most what your parents have will determine your prospects. We already see this with housing, dc with parents who own their own homes & have parents who can help eg live at home to save or a cash gift are more likely to own their own homes.

I completely agree. But I also know a lot of working class people who went to secondary vs grammar and the ones who went to grammar got enormous amounts of pastoral support, extra guidance etc. On money, Uni applications, social support, filling in the blanks of what their parents couldn’t/wouldn’t provide.

One is now a doctor another is in Silicon Valley on 120k pa… parents still live in council houses.

School, and what is offered within the school environment, is extremely important.

Lovemyheathershimmer · 22/05/2022 12:43

The person who originally posted this knew fine well she was going to cause controversy, that’s why it was posted. Bragging about your wealth is vulgar. Have a little respect on folk that are struggling to feed their families. Also it bugs me folk on high incomes keep harping on about they made it by working hard! Wtf millions of folk on low and minimum wage jobs work hard for their wages. Nurses, teachers, bin men, care assistants. They prob work harder than any of you high earners ever know. I’m logging out of this thread.

NohoHank · 22/05/2022 12:19

Oscarthedog · 22/05/2022 12:05

The bitterness to those who have gone out to work and earn good money is staggering on here. We should be celebrating the op who is obviously paying tax so the lower earners don't have to. Well done @Citygirly and all the other successful women on here. I am lucky I have 2 sisters both on decent money one earns more than me and one about 2/3 but all are well in the top 10% of earners. We can discuss this others might not be so lucky and I as the oldest and first to get there relied on a forum (not this one thankfully) to seek advice on high earning tax efficiency and spending.

Hahah your post is hilarious! I can't tell if it's satire or if you're actually being serious.

Robinni · 22/05/2022 12:10

Katypp · 22/05/2022 11:04

@lancsgirl85 but there's no point to either post on either thread is there? The posts from those struggling on threads like this are clearly plopped in to make the poster and others in the same position feel shit. So I would be open to the possibility that they were being a dick, actually.

@Topgub But those who enter nursing can earn a lot more too. Many in the professions I mentioned above will not progress much either. In every job, there's those who will reach the top or middle and earn well and there is those who don't for many reasons. Why is nursing so different and worthy of special sympathy?

@Katypp Omg, because nurses are the ones who wipe your backside in hospital. They’re the ones who give you a bed bath after surgery. They’re the ones who use a catheter to help you pee so your bladder doesn’t explode. They hold your hand when you’re frightened. And they have a vast knowledge base and generally hold shit together when it goes tits up…. Much more so than those higher qualified who don’t have the time to spend, or frankly the people skills.

That is why nurses get a special focus they have a huge responsibility and are essential, but underpaid for what they do. Many stay grade 5-6 and don’t progress because the higher paying roles are few and far between.

Topgub · 22/05/2022 12:09

@Oscarthedog

Is being a higher earner the only measure of hard work and success?

Bit of a contradiction to praise the op for paying tax so the lower earners dont have to (wtf?!) and then advice she finds out how to be 'tax efficient' (ie avoid asucj tax as possible. Something lower earners don't have the luxury of

lancsgirl85 · 22/05/2022 12:08

What can the high earners say? What should they say?

Well I'm not "high earner" by these standards, I'm somewhere in the comfortable middle I guess. And my own response was to feel sad for another person's suffering and to express that. I mean, it's just empathy that comes naturally. I guess we aren't all that way, so if you need a script for what to say someone less fortunate than you, then I can't help I'm afraid,

lancsgirl85 · 22/05/2022 12:06

@SofiaSoFar

I don't "expect" any response, my point was that you cannot compare the motives and intent of^^ someone coming on a thread like this to comment on not being able to afford bread, and the motives and intent of a high earner going on a poverty thread to say "I can't help, I have plenty of money". That was my point with that comment. The two are not comparable.

One is clearly expressing sadness and frustration at one's situation relative to others', the other is being a first class dick.

Oscarthedog · 22/05/2022 12:05

The bitterness to those who have gone out to work and earn good money is staggering on here. We should be celebrating the op who is obviously paying tax so the lower earners don't have to. Well done @Citygirly and all the other successful women on here. I am lucky I have 2 sisters both on decent money one earns more than me and one about 2/3 but all are well in the top 10% of earners. We can discuss this others might not be so lucky and I as the oldest and first to get there relied on a forum (not this one thankfully) to seek advice on high earning tax efficiency and spending.

workintums · 22/05/2022 12:02

For someone in finance, a starting salary could be 90k with fantastical salaries up to 500k+

Even in London there aren't hundreds of thousands of people on 500k plus.

workintums · 22/05/2022 11:59

for a teacher you’re talking starting salary circa 25k, max salary for a head would be 120k.

I thought it was 32k for a london teacher

Robinni · 22/05/2022 11:54

Katypp · 22/05/2022 10:14

This kind of thread always goes the same way. Despite the fact most of MN seems to be high earners, most of MN seems to hate high earners.
I am sick of every thread being hijacked by well-meaning virtue signallers talking about those who can't afford to buy a loaf of bread. The OP can - so what?
I am not a high earner, but I don't hate those who are and I don't think being a high earner means posters have a free pass to be as unpleasant and snarky and spiteful as they want to them.
And one last thing - LOL at the reference upthread implying teachers and nurses are low earners. The unions have done a great job to brainwash people into thinking this. For info, a newly-qualified teacher starts on nearly £26k and a newly-qualified nurse starts on just under £25k. Both can rise to a lot more. There are plenty of professions which need a degree and training - mine included - that start on less than that, so spare your sympathy for those people not the 'poor' teachers and nurses so often trotted out.

@Katypp for a teacher you’re talking starting salary circa 25k, max salary for a head would be 120k.

For someone in finance, a starting salary could be 90k with fantastical salaries up to 500k+

Not saying that teachers or nurses are not well off. But that hard work does not have an equal outcome.

The amount earned is dictated by the profession pursued and the ability for an individual to access education/money to start a business etc. in the first place.

CaliforniaDrumming · 22/05/2022 11:54

Nothappyatwork · 22/05/2022 11:51

I don’t suppose he’s a data architect by any chance is he ? I could have him a new job by lunchtime.

No :) but thank you.

workintums · 22/05/2022 11:53

Don't ever talk to even your close friends about money.

I do think it's harder these days, everyone can see what you paid for your house for one.

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