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High earners - how do you spend your salary?

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Citygirly · 21/05/2022 10:03

DH and I earn just under £140k combined.

We do maximum pension payments (his is 9% as NHS) and we also give about 10% a month to charity.

Other than that, we plan to start overpaying the mortgage. We invest £1k a month (so £500 each) and save £1k for holidays. We of course do general/specific savings but then have a good chunk left over for disposable income.

AIBU to ask other high earning households how they tend to allocate their money? Just want to see if we could be using it better or this is about right for comparables.

OP posts:
MinnieMountain · 23/05/2022 06:17

It’s £40,000 @SlightlyGeordieJohn . DH puts that much in every March.

Some of the top law firms pay NQ solicitors six figures now.

catfunk · 23/05/2022 05:28

Not what you asked but I'd be saving for an early retirement.

fridaRose · 23/05/2022 05:15

'I'd love to know how OP earns £85k at 27 years old
Reported for the background check.'

@Overthewine 'reported' 🤣🤣🤣
Love some people's thinking: 'I don't live like this, so it can't be true'.

I'm on slightly more although I'm a bit older. But lots of younger colleagues in my team on the same money.
We work in data.

If you have a STEM job then it's not that difficult to earn well.

SlightlyGeordieJohn · 23/05/2022 00:33

OliveTreees · 21/05/2022 16:00

Both of us are very, very high earners but apart from people who know us well, no one would suspect it as we don't have a flashy lifestyle (no fancy cars, no holidays to the Maldives, no expensive clothes and restaurants...). Generally speaking we don't want to attract attention/jealousy and aren't interested in these things anyway. We also don't have much time for leisure these days... We spend a lot of money on private school fees and children but other than that the money goes to buying properties (for investments or secondary homes), financial investments and savings/pensions.

How do you manage to fund your pensions? Very, very high earners are only allowed to put £4,000 per year into them.

SlightlyGeordieJohn · 23/05/2022 00:25

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Graduates in banking, law or a couple of other areas can start on £50-60k per year, and progress relatively rapidly from there.

OP could easily be on double that amount by 27 if they were doing well in one of these professions.

SlightlyGeordieJohn · 23/05/2022 00:13

Citygirly · 21/05/2022 10:03

DH and I earn just under £140k combined.

We do maximum pension payments (his is 9% as NHS) and we also give about 10% a month to charity.

Other than that, we plan to start overpaying the mortgage. We invest £1k a month (so £500 each) and save £1k for holidays. We of course do general/specific savings but then have a good chunk left over for disposable income.

AIBU to ask other high earning households how they tend to allocate their money? Just want to see if we could be using it better or this is about right for comparables.

We don’t spend it all, or have a formal allocation for all of it.

We have a joint account for household spending into which we put £3,500 each, and then each of us does what we want with the rest. I’ve a budget that I try to stick to for cars and motorbikes each year, and then everything else tends to get swept into my investments.

Fifi0102 · 22/05/2022 23:52

Caviar and champagne dahlings 🤣. I can't decide if this thread is taking the piss.

Aghh · 22/05/2022 23:44

Fresh semen - mostly from well known dressage horses.

Also, fitted saddles, horse massages, trainer, lorries, entry fees and away show stable hire. But all of this is just pennies compared to the semen and getting the semen where it needs to be !

Londoncallingme · 22/05/2022 23:22

DH earns a bit less than £140k which pays for DD Uni rent and 2 DS School-fees and the rest is good food holidays. And my coffee.😋

Robinni · 22/05/2022 23:09

Btw @Jmaho didn't see you answer @Mummybud

Genuine question: if your children (who sound brilliant) grow up with the potential to have “high flying careers and salaries” but in order to make
those careers work they need to send their kids to private school because they wouldn’t be “able to attend every school event, help with homework and eat dinner together around the table at night” - would you want them to do it? Or forego their
ambition and earning potential to be (in you view) more “present”?

Because a lot of us are those kids.

Icantfindmykeys · 22/05/2022 23:08

Talliah · 21/05/2022 11:39

Perfect Mumsnet thread. We should get a bingo card going.

Omg I’d this for real or a wind up … oh my days!

Robinni · 22/05/2022 23:00

Jmaho · 22/05/2022 21:46

I've insulted 3 people on this thread. The first was a poster who made sweeping statements about state schools and the children and families who attend them. The second was my brother in law who is an obnoxious, bigoted idiot and the third was a poster who corrected my spelling. There is no need for anyone else to be insulted by my posts. I'm not anti private school, I'm not pro state schools. I'm anti generalisations and snobbery.
I gave anecdotal examples of the only children I know who are privately educated. The poster who I replied to originally gave anecdotal examples of state school children. But I'm the only one who bit it seems. It got my back up, both the tone and content of his/her post.

@Jmaho you're not supposed to actively insult or personally attack anyone. It is against talk guidelines.

I am the person you called a snob unless I've read you wrong - Because I gave a list of advantages of private schools commonly cited in school prospectuses, including a safer learning environment.

FYI I wanted my child to go to a state school so he would be around all types of people, I am now reconsidering as I say due to the class size but also because both my niece and nephew have had difficult issues recently where they were physically attacked, albeit in different schools and it's made me concerned for later years. I don't recall children behaving like that at Prep.

As @Howmuchwood aptly put it - in state schools well mannered children can get overlooked when the teacher has to spend all their time dealing with the 5 or more disruptors.

Please bear in mind people are largely not like your brother in law and that any angst you have on account of his behaviour should be directed towards him. If your nephews are spoilt and poorly behaved it is likely a reflection of said obnoxious BiL, rather than their education.

ChloeHel · 22/05/2022 22:57

TomatoorChips · 21/05/2022 11:50

We were young when we earned £140k

Mortgages
Children
Holidays

Now older and earn more
Holidays
The Pub
Children

Spend £100k on 2 cars every 10 years and keep them

My dog eats Lilys- that quite expensive

Save your money and stop buying Lilly’s, they are poisonous if ingested by dogs!

SoManyQuestionsHere · 22/05/2022 22:51

@169cliftonroad, can confirm; I was on a similar trajectory at the same age.

Not finances but professional services.

169cliftonroad · 22/05/2022 22:48

For those doubting OP earning 85k at 27, it is common in finance/legal industry and especially in London. My friend's dd at 23 who is only only 1 year into her job, not even qualified yet, is on 120k, recently given a 20k increment.

As for how we spend our disposable income, we have joint income of 170k (but we are old, in our early 40s, and in our industry the income is unlikely to rise very much), kids in state primary , minimal childcare cost, no expensive hobbies, no flashy cars.. we put anything over 50k into sipp, so we live on 2x50k per year. Essential bills + other necessities come to about 2k pm. We invest the rest into isa and when the time right , withdraw it to buy properties. Our very first family home is no.6, we kept that for rental when we moved to a bigger house so it started as incidental landlord. Since then , coindentay , our second btl is no.1. Last year we bought a no.5. We said jokingly that we will retire once we have collected no1 to no.6

SoManyQuestionsHere · 22/05/2022 22:46

Haven't RTFT but, as to the question in the OP:

I basically don't!

Grew up working-class. Make in excess of 200k pa now, a mere decade post graduation (first kid in my family ever to graduate from university).

Truth be told: I wasn't taught how one does "being loaded", so I keep on operating on the "hold back, money might be tight come next month" script that I was brought up to know.

Frankly, I'm swimming in cash. And I have no idea what to do with it, because everything I was brought up to think of as "fun stuff" won't burn through it - and yet, I still haven't quite understood why I should care about flying 1st class. To me, it still reads "money out of the window for a few hours of mostly status signalling - ain't nobody got time for that".

I'm not complaining, by the way, just pointing out how very strange the "grew up poor, ended up rich" experience can be. I consider myself truly blessed despite being as irreligious as they come.

scooterbe1982 · 22/05/2022 22:39

Is this thread a piss take? Genuinely can’t differentiate from the people posting as satire and the ones posting for real! Seriously, if you have to ask a Mumsnet forum how to spend your high income in a cost of living crisis, you need to give your head a wobble! 😂

gotthis · 22/05/2022 22:37

This thread reminded me of that song 'I'm minted' on Horrible Histories.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 22/05/2022 22:37

Woundabout · 21/05/2022 12:02

I wouldn’t call that particularly high earning but I guess depends where you live. In London it wouldn’t go far - I’m single but earn quite a bit more than half of that and don’t feel high earning so money goes on usual things - holidays, house, mortgage, going out.

This thread cracks me up

eastegg · 22/05/2022 22:35

NohoHank · 21/05/2022 12:15

I wouldn't call that particularly high earning

Bingo!

😂

Haven’t rtft; have we had ‘tone deaf’ yet? (NB, I’m not saying it isn’t tone deaf).

gotthis · 22/05/2022 22:28

OMG12 · 22/05/2022 19:09

Well I’m glad it’s made your evening - but it’s a real concern, after all this time DH is having to face up to the fact he can’t in fact ride a bike - he was at boarding school since conception and he just never found the time between lessons on being posh and the ever popular “how to look down your nose at pauper plebs” class, not forgetting the extra curricular class on how to manage on only £1mill a year.

😀

lancsgirl85 · 22/05/2022 22:22

lightswitchmoment · 22/05/2022 22:19

We turn the heating on.

😂

lightswitchmoment · 22/05/2022 22:19

We turn the heating on.

123ROLO · 22/05/2022 22:13

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Everything about that post screamed superiority complex

Topgub · 22/05/2022 22:07

@RosesAndHellebores

Oh dear.
I was interested but never mind.

Funny you got to not owing society very quickly from being so concerned about the lack of education opportunities for those less hard working and not as lucky as you.

We're all very grateful for your contributions