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Argument over Billy Bear Ham

136 replies

Yebbie · 02/05/2022 18:20

DC had friends over for play date, I provided lunch (baguettes, cucumber, cheese and billy bear ham, apple and yoghurt for pudding)

Yes it's processed and gimmicky, we are all vegetarian in this house apart from my 3 year old, so it was the only meat we had and they asked for ham in their baguettes.

Friend fuming I fed her son Billy bear ham, very dramatic about it, don't you know what's in that? I'm not one for processed food particularly, but my 3yo loves the stuff and has an otherwise balanced vegetarian diet so what's the issue, in my opinion. AIBU?

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Whostoblame · 02/05/2022 18:29

YABU to buy billy bear at all its disgusting 😂 I'm 36 and was fed it as a kid and I can still remember how awful it was. It got thrown under the table for the dog to eat.
On the whole YANBU, I wouldn't complain if someone fed my child this.

NoSquirrels · 02/05/2022 18:28

Was your friend there when you fed child, or fuming after the fact?

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Yebbie · 02/05/2022 18:27

3yo specifically asks for Billy Bear Ham and doesn't like other ham apparently. I don't push as we don't eat meat anyway and it's only a bit in a sandwich sometimes. Is it that much worse than normal ham? He's a stubborn thing I can't see him backing down so it's Billy Ham or no ham!

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toastfiend · 02/05/2022 18:27

I wouldn't personally choose to feed it to my DS, but I certainly wouldn't kick up a stink if he ate it at someone else's house - I'd just be grateful they fed him and he'd had a nice time, tbh. Your 'friend' was very rude.

MrsWooster · 02/05/2022 18:26

Tell her she’s welcome to send her child with his own food in the unlikely event of another invitation.
(But buy decent ham if you buy ham at all)

stimpyyouidiot · 02/05/2022 18:26

I occasionally give it to my dd as she likes the shape of it. Wouldn't ever complain to anyone about them providing food for my kid!

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Yebbie · 02/05/2022 18:26

He had it at my mums house a few times and sometimes asks for it when we are shopping. She bought it saying we loved it as kids I didn't remember the stuff, but I'm still alive though I do hate meat now

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BobLep0nge · 02/05/2022 18:24

YANBU, a bit of processed ham isn't going to hurt the child.

Laiste · 02/05/2022 18:24

What is in it?

apart from Billy Bear

HellyR · 02/05/2022 18:24

It's no worse than other processed food, sausages etc.
What I don't understand is how your house is veggie yet you have this in? At some point someone must've actively chosen to buy this instead of decent ham (which is expensive, I realise).

Flopisfatteningbingforchristmas · 02/05/2022 18:23

It’s not something I would feed my children but if someone feed them it I wouldn’t say anything.