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Argument over Billy Bear Ham

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Yebbie · 02/05/2022 18:20

DC had friends over for play date, I provided lunch (baguettes, cucumber, cheese and billy bear ham, apple and yoghurt for pudding)

Yes it's processed and gimmicky, we are all vegetarian in this house apart from my 3 year old, so it was the only meat we had and they asked for ham in their baguettes.

Friend fuming I fed her son Billy bear ham, very dramatic about it, don't you know what's in that? I'm not one for processed food particularly, but my 3yo loves the stuff and has an otherwise balanced vegetarian diet so what's the issue, in my opinion. AIBU?

OP posts:
SnackSizeRaisin · 02/05/2022 21:55

It's no worse than cheap sausages, burgers, chicken nuggets, chicken goujons, chicken steaks, most types of ham that come in a pack from the supermarket, chorizo, pepperoni, salami, corned beef, and probably loads of other processed meat products that most people eat at least some of. I'm sure lots of these things are in school dinners for example.

Blinkingheckythump · 02/05/2022 21:44

Must remember not to feed Los minion "Ham" to any visiting kids for fear of being tarred and feathered

Honestly though I can do without "friends" that are that rude and ungrateful

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Yebbie · 02/05/2022 21:36

Maydaysoonenough · 02/05/2022 21:11

Can you not just say to your dc it is meat and you don't /they don't eat meat?. My dc is vegi and wouldn't be agreeing to that.. Even at 3.
Odd.
What if he wanted something else inappropriate?

My husband only went veggie 6 months ago so until then he cooked meat for both of them. I don't want to force my 3 year old to never eat meat again he eats it at nursery and if ever gets a McDonald's asking for more judgement there aren't I I can't get worked up about a slice of billy bear..

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Reallyreallyborednow · 02/05/2022 21:26

But buy decent ham if you buy ham at all

it’s actually fairly difficult to buy “proper” ham, you need a butcher or deli counter. Our local
sainsburys have just closed down their deli so for me it’s a seperate trip to a butcher.

last time I looked all the packet stuff is “formed” ham, even the expensive versions.

TolkiensFallow · 02/05/2022 21:23

She was rude.

id never feed it to anyone because it’s foul but it’s still rude of her

TheChurchOfEli · 02/05/2022 21:21

Apparently it's 66% pork and the rest is other 'stuff'
Higher meat content than some sausages on the market but I bet there wouldn’t be the snobbery about kids being fed bangers for tea.

lovehearrrts · 02/05/2022 21:17

StrychnineInTheSandwiches · 02/05/2022 21:13

as long as my dc has been looked after and been made to feel welcome I couldn't give two shiney shites what they were served for lunch. The very idea of critiquing what another parent served to my child is just cringesome.

This!

This thread has a fair few snooty sneery replies about a bit of meat.

If you are that picky about what your child eats send a packed lunch or pay for professional childcare where you can dictate exactly what the kids are fed.

lovehearrrts · 02/05/2022 21:15

Maydaysoonenough · 02/05/2022 21:11

Can you not just say to your dc it is meat and you don't /they don't eat meat?. My dc is vegi and wouldn't be agreeing to that.. Even at 3.
Odd.
What if he wanted something else inappropriate?

The OP wasn't asking for tips on how to stop her kid eating meat she said they're not vegetarian and seems ok with them having the odd bit of meat 🤷🏼‍♀️

StrychnineInTheSandwiches · 02/05/2022 21:13

as long as my dc has been looked after and been made to feel welcome I couldn't give two shiney shites what they were served for lunch. The very idea of critiquing what another parent served to my child is just cringesome.

lovehearrrts · 02/05/2022 21:12

Bigboysmademedoit · 02/05/2022 20:12

I’ve never fed it to my kids - it’s rubbish. YABU.

Would you like a medal?

It's meat in the shape of a bears face. Not heroin.

Maydaysoonenough · 02/05/2022 21:11

Can you not just say to your dc it is meat and you don't /they don't eat meat?. My dc is vegi and wouldn't be agreeing to that.. Even at 3.
Odd.
What if he wanted something else inappropriate?

lovehearrrts · 02/05/2022 21:10

@ExtraordinaryBehaviour

Don't! 😂this week tractors mean so much more. I could cope with Billy but tractors 😮

GrinGrin

Mariposista · 02/05/2022 21:07

I agree with her that the stuff is vile, unhealthy and not worth the money it costs, but seriously, what is wrong with mothers nowadays? Can't they keep their traps shut? It's YOUR house, if you want to feed crap under YOUR roof while providing free childcare, then that's YOUR business and she can feed her child what she deems fit in her own house. So rude! Opinions are like bums - important to have one, but better to keep them covered up.

SaintVal · 02/05/2022 21:06

Apparently it's 66% pork and the rest is other 'stuff'.

I don't buy it but I do like it. I'm a child of the 70s and it reminds me of spam (or is it luncheon meat?). My Dad would say 'eat it up, it'll put hairs on your chest' 😂

2MinuteRice · 02/05/2022 20:55

I'm vegetarian, DS isn't. His favourite 'meat' used to be 'dinosaur ham'. I'm assuming Billy Beat has taken over from the dinosaur?!

DS is now an adult and will cook pork, chicken, beef etc and apparently cooks it really well.

Turns out dinosaur ham didn't hurt him or his tastebuds Wink

Overthewine · 02/05/2022 20:44

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Onlinemum22 · 02/05/2022 20:37

I don't understand why you'd even think about buying it 🤮 and I'm not veggie.
I wouldn't say anything to you but I wouldn't be coming round with my kid again 😂

Stomacharmeleon · 02/05/2022 20:34

I like it sparingly
As does the dog.....
But I also like corn beef, garlic sausage and chicken paste In a jar :)

SirChenjins · 02/05/2022 20:29

You’re feeding them a couple of slices of Billy Bear, not offering lines of coke - fgs. Your friend was rude.

Beelezebub · 02/05/2022 20:25

YANBU

It’s not like you gave the kid a whole chocolate orange and a bag of wotsits.

jackstini · 02/05/2022 20:25

YANBU and if this is the only thing your friend has to worry about she should be grateful!
It's a tiny bit of processed food in a much bigger diet fgs

Bigboysmademedoit · 02/05/2022 20:12

I’ve never fed it to my kids - it’s rubbish. YABU.

whynotwhatknot · 02/05/2022 19:49

oh well no more play dates for their son then

KittenKong · 02/05/2022 19:49

I worked on a deli when I was a student - it was very popular - very - and all the people buying it would say ‘I know it’s not great but… it’s fun/a treat/their favourite’.

it’s not like you were giving them beer and fags.

AngelinaFibres · 02/05/2022 19:49

When