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To be sad at going grey already

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AHungryCaterpillar · 18/04/2022 12:55

I’m so depressed about going grey at 33! I’ve found loads of grey hairs, I’m only early 30s surely this is too early? I already feel really old and past it anyway so this has just made me feel worse, I’m not ready to embrace them and don’t now want to spend the rest of my life dying my hair at 33. Doesn’t help that I’m allergic to hair dye so now what am I suppose to do. Aibu to think 33 is too early for this?! 😳

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SeekingBalance · 18/04/2022 13:10

Dry shampoo now comes in colours could that help? I'm dark and the same age as you, luckily I'm not allergic but I'm not embracing it! I can't afford the upkeep of dying it so tying it up helps and the dry shampoo when down in-between dying it.

Blossomtoes · 18/04/2022 13:10

I was 16 when I found my first grey hair, my brother had loads at 21. I can’t see how you can do anything other than embrace it if you’re allergic to hair dye.

Cocomarine · 18/04/2022 13:09

That’s really normal.
Embracing it doesn’t mean going grey completely - you’re most likely years off properly being grey.
Just embrace that your hair is many different shades, and one (small amount) of odd shades is grey.

Isonthecase · 18/04/2022 13:09

That's pretty standard. I'd take a look at henna shampoo and conditioner, you just use it as normal and it dyes the hair slightly to make the greys less noticeable.

zingally · 18/04/2022 13:08

I found my first grey hairs at about 35/36 (or actually my DM pointed them out to me - thanks mum!) and thought I'd done pretty well to get to that age without any.

Most of my friends were getting some grays from their late 20s, and my poor cousin found her first grays at 14!

I'd say you were about average!

RosieRoww · 18/04/2022 13:07

What about henna?

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AHungryCaterpillar · 18/04/2022 13:06

Absolutely not embracing it!

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Electriq · 18/04/2022 13:05

Embrace it

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AHungryCaterpillar · 18/04/2022 13:03

My hair is dark brown/black, I use to dye it occasionally when I was younger but my whole head swells and I’ve ended up in hospital because of it. Henna looks like a pain compared to regular dyes.

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TheOriginalEmu · 18/04/2022 13:02

At 33 I was probably 50% grey. At 41 I’m about 60%
If you’re dark it shows up sooner

LBF2020 · 18/04/2022 13:00

I've just turned 30, but started getting grey hairs from 27. So I think by 33 I'm going to be pretty grey. Are you allergic to all hair dye? Have you tried henna for instance? Is your hair very dark like mine?

Blossomandbee · 18/04/2022 12:58

I would say it's pretty common to have greys in your 30's or even earlier.
If you don't want to embrace them then you could look at natural dyes like henna or maybe some foil highlights (so it doesn't touch your scalp) to blend them.