AIBU to ask your most ridiculous PFB moment...

This is brilliant. I told nursery I would bring in natural yoghurt for my 1 year old PFB as the idea of sweetened yoghurt with actual sugar being a possibility (in the 3 days a week he attended) seemed completely unacceptable. I’d like to say my 3rd was allowed what ever she could find at that age and I completely got over myself.

There also seems to be an assumption that all the things people had time to do with the first but not with other children was a total waste of time, but actually I'm sure I saw some research that first borns / oldest child are generally more successful. Certainly seems to be the case from my admittedly small sample of people I know. So just because you didn't have to do certain things with subsequent children, doesn't mean they wouldn't have been better of if you had.

I’m not really sure why this winds you up so much, but I’ll leave you to it.

Lots of people don't have the luxury of doing the over the top things - anxious or not!

Yes but it comes with an assumption that everyone treats their first born like this. I was also a very anxious first time mum, but didn't have the time or inclination to do any of the over the top things (most of which examples actually aren't anything to do with being 'anxious' - ironing baby grows because you're anxious creases might harm the baby? )

Not me, cluster feeding a newborn, but DP - if baby slept too quietly DO would wake him to see if he was okay!
Had to out in a if you wake him, you take him rule…

Agree!

I know you were referring to your pp @Londonforestmum , I just wondered who they were, but it sounds like you come across people who, like many of us, were very anxious first time mums and who went completely over the top - until we realised that a)babies and children can cope with more than we realised and b)having multiple babies/children in the house means we had neither the time nor the inclination to do what we used to do with our first. It’s not smugness, it’s just reality.

Lots... but I warmed the wipes in the microwave for my Dec baby and ironed all his onesies.

I googled PFB as I didn't know what it meant then came across it! I think it's the assumption that everyone is the same as them and peeling grapes etc for their firstborn then basically letting the others fend for themselves in a pit of lions lol and loving telling everyone proudly about it. And to clarify by 'them' I mean certain mums I know in real life (not all of them!).

Why have you resurrected a 2 year old thread @Londonforestmum just to tell us all that you can't relate to it 😂

The people I was referring to in my previous post.

Who’s ‘they’?

Yeh that's totally understandable. But they seem to love telling everyone about it too 🤣 Most of the things I'm like wow I never had time to do that my first either lol.

I don't think people are boasting as such - just that parents tend not to have the same time to devote to their subsequent children as they did with their first.

I also find it ridiculously smug when people boast about how little effort they put into looking after their subsequent children, as if everyone with just one was exactly like how they were with their PFB

As a single parent to a preemie since my son was 3 months old I don't relate to the Precious First Born stuff at all, I feel like he's been brought up like at least a 2nd or 3rd born purely because I didn't have the time or energy to do all the unnecessary crap people talk about doing with PFB!

Peeled grapes.

Spent a whole day in the kitchen batch cooking home made organic fresh fruit and veg for weaning. Did that for both of mine. Second child wouldn't touch the stuff, was far more interested in grabbing solid food off his sibling's plate! They both ate solely organic for the first year...cost a bloody fortune!

Used a breathing monitor on both if mine until they were about 4!!!!

I didn't realise how anxious I was, looking back.

A mermaid 🧜‍♀️?

When pregnant with my 1st i wouldn't continue my regular swim in the sea right by my house. Somehow i thought infection or bacteria could get in there and turn the baby into i dunno what

I would totally have done the helium ballon thing if only I'd thought of it!

Not content with that, we get sent the digital versions via the family WhatsApp group as they’re taken.

I got told off by my inlaws for not replying to her constant messages with photographs. Wtf.

In the rare occasion I sent a photo of my newborn, I never got a reply from any of them, so I gave up.

My H mentioned the disparity (half jokingly) and was told by his parents that his sister was much too busy and important to concern herself with replying to our picture.

She’s a doctor. GP. Works two days a week. Sure.

(Sorry any excuse to bemoan my batshit inlaws).

Aww I love these stories. With pfb (now 13) I also did the wiping of shampoo in my eyes (glad I'm not the only one). I also rushed her to minor injuries at 18 months because she had fallen and bumped her face which was bleeding. I look back at the photo I took - it was a small graze on her cheek. 🙄 The nurse was lovely and just wiped it for me. I also used to panic about the room temp as I'd been told it needed to be 18 degrees. A friend of mine whose children were older gently pointed out that children are born in much hotter countries than the UK. 😁

DH went to a party store 30 mins drive away to buy one helium balloon to tie to PFB's ankle as my baby book said it was mentally stimulating. I insisted it be red as that was what was in the photo.

@Traumdeuter it won't let me quote your post but OMG that is absolutely epic and I am howling here! Totally something I could see my own DH doing 😂thank you for the LOL