MiL gave baby first ice cream

Perhaps you have too much time on your hands leading you to over react to silly things. If you were that bothered you would be making the most of your time together before you return to work.

Gosh people are being mean on here. Even if you think it’s silly, there are kinder ways of saying it than mocking a first time mum who’s upset over something.

OP, I understand; the pleasure from something sweet is different to the pleasure from something like broccoli. I know you aren’t going to say anything to your MIL and I think it’s the right decision, but I can understand why you’re sad about it. just think when the weather gets warmer about all the lovely things you’ll get to try with her.

Don't be that parent, I don't even remember when they had ice cream or cake first, I don't remember many things - once they are older you realise that the only thing that's important is that they are happy and healthy

Yabu

Ask around - you won’t find a single parent who even remembers their child’s first ice cream. This isn’t a milestone and you’re being ludicrously PFB.

You give her boring food that’s what parents do. If your grannie doesn’t get you treats is she even your grannie?

Fwiw I have absolutely no idea when any of my kids had their first ice cream. It's honestly not something you will remember as a milestone.

Ice cream isn’t a milestone…

You’re mad. First ice cream isn’t a thing! 😂

I am focusing less on the ice cream first than on the day of childcare, given lovingly and freely to allow you to have a whole day to yourself whilst you are on mat leave.

I would start counting your blessings op and stop counting firsts. You have come across as selfish and ungrateful. Just be glad your dd has two people who love her dearly and who are generous with their time as well as their love.

I can sympathise that you feel like your toes have been trodden on, but when you hand your child over to someone else, that's the risk you run.

Your MIL is kindly helping you here, I think you need to focus more on the postitives - that you get a day to catch up with yourself (most people don't have that!)) and that your MIL is building a good relationship with your child.

I think you’re being unreasonable. My parents took my daughter to the playground and she had her first go on a swing without me there. I was a bit annoyed at the time. However my dad passed away less than a year later and I now realise how special that first time on the swing would have been for him and my mum.

And? She gave her something perfectly normal for a grandparent to give her.

Yadbu

My child turned 18 this year and I missed her first Jagerbomb.

She probably hit that particular milestone early. 😂

Please , please come back when your child is 8 to let us know if any other issues have eclipsed " ice cream-gate"

Your baby is going experience many firsts as she grows up that you may not witness. She is here to live a life, guided supported and loved by her parents, grandparents teachers friends lovers nature God the weather. You cannot control her experience. So let go a bit and be very grateful that she has lovely grandparents.

My dad gave my EBF daughter a roast potato at 5 months, 20 years ago.
The look of delight on my dads face as my daughter devoured the roasite was amazing and it's a treasured memory I have of him.

Accept, your not always going to be there for your child first experiences and enjoy the delight it gives those that are.

thing is she won't know what is important to you and what isn't. When my mum started looking after my LO she asked me to write a list of "firsts" that I wanted to be the one to do.
Mine was very minimal but I know when she did the same with my sister it was quite long. Would something like that work?

Give over OP

I remember my pfb first ice cream. I remember being interested in his reaction. I can’t remember any of the others, no idea when they had some. I get what you’re saying but it doesn’t really matter - there will be tonnes of firsts and some you’ll witness and some you won’t.
You should have a conversation though because juice and chocolate buttons are not far behind, in fact they usually come before an ice cream.

My child turned 18 this year and I missed her first Jagerbomb.

I understand that you feel upset over this and I'm not going to piss on your feelings. I looked after my grandson a day a week from 6 months (still on call and he's 13 now) and his parents were just delighted when I had a fun moment/experience with him - they were pleased for me and that I got to enjoy him as much as they did. Would that be an easier way to look at any missed milestones?

YABU sorry!
Ice cream is a bit of a fun/special food yes, but 'baby's first ice cream' isn't a milestone
In fact this exact thing happened when grandma or MIL was looking after my first. He had his first taste of ice cream with them. I wasn't bothered, just happy they were having fun together.

What a silly reason to be upset about. Be prepared to be upset over a lot of first milestones that you’ll miss 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️