MiL gave baby first ice cream

DDs grandparents are a bit crazy for firsts too! But it works out quite well long term so stick with it… want to buy her her first bike? Sure. First laptop? Great, thanks. First big bed? Be my guest! - so you kind of have yp suck up some other firsts. Her really significant firsts (walking, crawling, first words etc) were all with me.

YANBU

Of course it’s a special moment otherwise she wouldn’t be explaining how she reacted to you. If it wasn’t special there would be nothing to say.

The fact that she is telling you all about means she knows, I think it’s a little mean.
Not terrible but a little mean.

I’d be aware that she has form for this and may try and do first Easter egg hunt, Christmas outfit etc which some would not give two hoots about, but others value as ‘firsts’

Overall it sounds a great set up currently. She is very lucky to have a whole day with her grandchild. You are lucky to have some tome for yourself.
You can be grateful, but so can she. So don’t worry too much about honest conversations.

YABU. Be grateful that they will look after her one day a week, that's incredibly generous of them. If you want full control over what she eats and does, then look after her yourself.

YABU but I get it and your feelings are totally valid because it’s your baby and what milestones and firsts you find important or significant is totally up to you.

My only suggestion would be to politely explain to MIL that you’re also excited about seeing baby’s firsts, so if she comes across any other milestones to not tell you and let you get around to it on your own. Like.. what you don’t know doesn’t hurt you. Nursery’s often do the same with things like first steps 🙈

a cute milestone of having her 1st taste of ice cream? Oh dear, you're being a bit ridiculous.

I get it.
If it were important to me I think while she was describing it, I would say something like "aw I can't believe I missed her tasting her first ice cream, I'd have loved to have been there for that" then at least grandma will know that this kind of thing is important to you.
My parents in law wanted to do a lot of firsts for mine too and it drove me a bit nuts. They insisted on being the ones to give her her first pet etc. All the things that mattered to her. It has annoyed me over the years but my daughter doesn't remember any of it so it doesn't really matter

I would be more concerned about them deciding when the right time was to give a baby refined sugar. DD was over a year old when I gave her cake/ice cream. However if you are taking free childcare from them it’s difficult to police what they do. If DDs grandparents babysit I wouldn’t dream of telling them what to do (although I always send her with enough food to last the duration of the babysitting) but it’s only once a month or so so it doesn’t matter too much if they give her sugar.

Have you given your in laws a definitive list of what firsts they have to avoid?

Did you also miss first sweet potato? First broccoli?

They aren’t mind readers and first ice cream really isn’t a “thing”. So unless you had explicitly expressed a desire to do this first you are being 100% unreasonable.

This is a wild thing to get annoyed about 😳

I think some posters have given you an unnecessary hard time! I understand entirely OP.

The good thing is, your little one will more than likely react the same when you give her her next taste! So you’ll still get to see her little gorgeous face all excited x

There'll be sooo many other "milestones" in your child's life. Some you'll witness, some you won't.
YABU.

Honestly, in years to come you will look back and laugh.
It seems a massive thing now but it really isn't, I know it is hard but try to relax on this. YABU.

Yabu, if you expect grandparents to act as loco parentis then they can feed the baby what they like. If you'd rather they didn't do or experience any milestones with your baby, how about you try taking care of her yourself? How would you even address it without causing offence and making them feel they have to run every little thing by you? I'd put it to one side and move on. Maybe reiterate if there are certain foods you would like to avoid just yet such as chocolate etc.

You’re being daft.

Easter is nearly upon us. Careful about first Easter egg!

I completely understand why you are upset. You wanted that "first" and you asked her not to give any new foods However, it's not worth falling out over.

If you use family for free childcare you definitely have to accept there will be moments like this . I'll be honest I do get a bit where you're coming from especially with your first when expectations fe food are high (give it a year and it's likely you won't be so worried about the odd drink of juice ) but it would be a minor peeve to me and certainly not something to bring up.

I’m not so bothered about the sweet aspect

That is the thing I would be bothered abot TBH. Like others, I don't see giving your child their first taste of ice cream as a significant event.

Have only read OPs posts.

OP. You have to let stuff like this go or you will go mad. Or you have to look after your child 24/7 yourself until they leave home.

These "firsts" are generally a bit hokey anyway. But they are for you not for your child, no? so the first time you give your child ice-cream is for you. Ad infinitum.

And if you think your MIL is a complete monster who gives the occasional sip of juice? pay for other childcare.

OP get over yourself

YABVU this is so PFB and silly. I’m sure you’ll look back on this and feel a bit embarrassed.

The best thing about recording this on mumsnet is that you get to read it back in a few years and see how funny you were. I was a dick.

Nine months old and you are already projecting food fetishes onto her.

Its just food, don't elavate it into something magical to be sought out at every opportunity.

Why is the post about shit on Mumsnet Madness, but not this one?