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Original poster

To feel like fucking crying?

419 replies

WeirdlyKind · 06/04/2022 15:15

My partner has a stomach bug. He caught it off the kids and he's had a couple of accidents.

Came in from work today to find the house stinking of shit. It's everywhere - our bed is going to have to be replaced, the bedroom carpet is ruined, it's on the stair carpet and the hall carpet downstairs.

I've just spent 45mins scrubbing the (tiny) bathroom because there was shit literally everywhere.

Can't really afford to buy a new bed but the mattress is heavily stained, now on both sides. It's going to cost hundreds for that and the carpets. Genuinely feel like crying my eyes out. Probably not helped by the fact he's doing nothing to help (like putting his soiled clothes in the shower rather than just leaving them). I've got piles of washing to do still too.

Aibu to be utterly fed up?

OP posts:
MotherofTerriers · 06/04/2022 15:41

Hire a carpet shampoo machine and use the pet enzyme shampoo

PriestessofPing · 06/04/2022 15:40

There is no fucking way a grown adult should be shitting on mattresses or the floor with a stomach bug ffs. Why isn’t he cleaning it up? Bet he didn’t clean up after the kids when they had it. Disgusting. if this is real I cannot believe you are cleaning it and if it isn’t get some help Biscuit

Original poster
WeirdlyKind · 06/04/2022 15:40

[quote Pumperthepumper]@WeirdlyKind yes, I do. That's exactly why I'm asking.[/quote]
Here, have a pic of the bedroom carpet. I've chucked the hall carpet out.

imgur.com/a/Whbr75u

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TonyBlairsLover · 06/04/2022 15:39

Does he have any weird fetishes by any chance?…

Fupoffyagrasshole · 06/04/2022 15:39

I just recovered from the same bug OP! I warned my husband to not touch my puke bucket and ensured he used his own hand towels and I cleaned the toilet after every incident myself - I wanted to ensure him and my baby were protected as much as possible from catching it!

ClaudineClare · 06/04/2022 15:39

How long has he been ill for?

KeepYaHeadUp · 06/04/2022 15:38

I've had the worst stomach bug ever and it was both ends. I made a horrendous mess in the bathroom but I banned my OH from upstairs until I'd scrubbed everything down with bleach, soaked the toilet seat in the bath, etc. The mess was unavoidable (once) but I bloody well cleaned it up.

Your OH is a pig

SmallChange11 · 06/04/2022 15:37

Yeah I call bull shit

Fupoffyagrasshole · 06/04/2022 15:37

im sorry but this is absolutely shocking.

I'd be out the door to a hotel or my mums or anywhere until he's well and has cleaned up his shit

NorthSouthcatlady · 06/04/2022 15:37

I voted YABU as l don’t know why you are cleaning it up. He sounds like a puppy who hadn’t been house trained. I had norovirus last autumn and didn’t shit all over the carpets or the bed. Does he not wear underwear or trousers?!

MrsTerryPratchett · 06/04/2022 15:36

@WeirdlyKind

No additional needs. I think part of the problem is that our loo is downstairs and he's just not making it in time.
So you sit on the toilet all day. Or get a duvet and camp next to it.

You don't shit all over the house. And get your wife to clean it up. That's abusive.

Ozanj · 06/04/2022 15:35

I think he should be cleaning it up personally. He clearly was going downstairs naked or in his boxers if he managed to shit everywhere. Lazy bugger. I bet he never lifts a finger even when he’s well.

blisstwins · 06/04/2022 15:35

Get an enzymatic cleaner like used for dog poo and use on the mattress and then bleach after. Add a mattress topper once it air dries and it will be fine. Can you rent carpet cleaners by you?

Pumperthepumper · 06/04/2022 15:35

I'd actually like two pictures, the hall carpet with a thumbs up and the stair carpet with something yellow in the foreground.

TonyBlairsLover · 06/04/2022 15:34

@Pumperthepumper same I’d like to see the photo

Hoppinggreen · 06/04/2022 15:34

Really?
Firstly why would he do this and Secondly why do you feel the need to share it?

User34352515 · 06/04/2022 15:34

This has to be the most disgusting thread on MN if not an actual poo troll. Surely you cannot reach adulthood with a partner and two kids without realising it's absolutely not normal for an adult to poo anywhere else but the toilet even with a stomach bug?

If it's genuinely so bad then call an ambulance and let him shit the inside of someone else's property full.

Pumperthepumper · 06/04/2022 15:34

@WeirdlyKind yes, I do. That's exactly why I'm asking.

TonyBlairsLover · 06/04/2022 15:33

Is it on the walls

Original poster
WeirdlyKind · 06/04/2022 15:33

@Pumperthepumper

Can you post a picture of the hall carpet and your hand with a thumbs up?
I mean, I can, not sure if anyone really wants to see that but if you feel like I need to prove I'm not a troll.
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ifyouturnonthelight · 06/04/2022 15:31

That is gross

MyCommentWasDeleted · 06/04/2022 15:31

If he’s that I’ll then wouldn’t he just sit on the toilet all day like other normal people? Or in the bath tub? Or the shower? Or have a bucket? Or some old towels?
Or does he have some sort of mental / physical illness that means he can’t do that?
If there’s no underlying medical reason for him not being able to get to a toilet on his own then it sounds like he’s just been shitting all over the place to annoy you.

daisychainsandrainbows · 06/04/2022 15:31

Did the kids he caught this from shit all over the house too or did they manage to use a fucking toilet?

It's truly vile and if he had one accident he should have quickly learnt to stay put in the bathroom. I would not be dealing with this. Check into a hotel with the kids and leave him to clear up his own mess the dirty bastard.

00100001 · 06/04/2022 15:31

How has he managed to get it absolutely everywhere? Is he not wearing clothes?
Is he walking round whilst leaking? Why isn't he on towels etc in the bed?

I'm genuinely confused

wakeywakeyeggsandbacy · 06/04/2022 15:30

I have only ever once shit myself as an adult, and that was when I was about 38 weeks pregnant with my second child, and also had a stomach bug. It was an accidental fart which just managed to seep a small amount into my knickers when I wasn't expecting it. It didn't get any farther than my knickers as I pegged it to the toilet and sorted myself out (most likely binned the knickers too, can't remember as it was years ago).

Ill or not there is no excuse for shitting everywhere. LTB.

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