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To feel like fucking crying?

419 replies

WeirdlyKind · 06/04/2022 15:15

My partner has a stomach bug. He caught it off the kids and he's had a couple of accidents.

Came in from work today to find the house stinking of shit. It's everywhere - our bed is going to have to be replaced, the bedroom carpet is ruined, it's on the stair carpet and the hall carpet downstairs.

I've just spent 45mins scrubbing the (tiny) bathroom because there was shit literally everywhere.

Can't really afford to buy a new bed but the mattress is heavily stained, now on both sides. It's going to cost hundreds for that and the carpets. Genuinely feel like crying my eyes out. Probably not helped by the fact he's doing nothing to help (like putting his soiled clothes in the shower rather than just leaving them). I've got piles of washing to do still too.

Aibu to be utterly fed up?

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Mummytobe93 · 06/04/2022 15:47

He should only drink, no solid food, wear a pad and if it continues I’d take him to A&E, he must be dehydrated at best.

TonyBlairsLover · 06/04/2022 15:47

It won’t let me post the pic soz gals

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momtoboys · 06/04/2022 15:46

I'm sorry but the responses here are making me laugh.

ComeSailAway · 06/04/2022 15:46

You will probably have to save "the discussion" for when he's well.
In the meantime try to keep being kind. I had Norovirus once and it was utterly horrible. (And I say that as a person with a brain tumour!)

123cupcake4 · 06/04/2022 15:46

Maybe he should go to a and e. That's nor normal

Pumperthepumper · 06/04/2022 15:46

It's not working for me - did you click on it?

saraclara · 06/04/2022 15:46

WTF with people wanting pictures? And I'm so glad that my husband didn't take the view that nearly all of you have, and think that when it happened to his wife, I was some disgusting pig that did it on purpose.

Yes, OP's husband should be cleaning it up, but believe me, this can happen, albeit it rarely. No-one wants to do this. It's horrifically mortifying, and some of the horrible comments on here make me want those posters to experience it, to be honest.

Chikapu · 06/04/2022 15:45

OP, do you think he'll be mortified when he's better or will it be no big deal to him?

Mummytobe93 · 06/04/2022 15:45

NO WAY 😳😳😳

I had an acute appendicitis, was shitting and vomiting at the same time for hrs. I simply stayed I the bathroom that day

I CANNOT comprehend how an adult with no additional needs can shit all over the house, no matter how ill. If it’s that bad he needs a pad.

You’ve got my sympathy OP

BarryKentPoet · 06/04/2022 15:45

Why did I click on that photo Sad

Dancer47 · 06/04/2022 15:45

Oh love!
That needs a carpet cleaner on it asap - 24 hour rug doctor or similar, asap.

Can't sort that completely by hand.
Your partner being upstairs when the toilet is downstairs is the problem - he should have camped outside the bathroom if he couldn't camp out in it.

beenaroundtheblox · 06/04/2022 15:45

@daisychainsandrainbows

Did the kids he caught this from shit all over the house too or did they manage to use a fucking toilet?

It's truly vile and if he had one accident he should have quickly learnt to stay put in the bathroom. I would not be dealing with this. Check into a hotel with the kids and leave him to clear up his own mess the dirty bastard.

While I agree about the hotel etc being a nice idea it's a bit tone deaf really when she's already said she's going to struggle to pay for new carpets, mattress etc. Not everyone can just check into a hotel!!
Original poster
WeirdlyKind · 06/04/2022 15:45

He's downstairs on the the couch! He really does look properly unwell and I'm worried about him on top of being annoyed. ☹️

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ladydimitrescu · 06/04/2022 15:45

Bloody hell op. I'm actually devastated for you. I'll admit I was 100% sceptical but you poor poor thing.

stuntbubbles · 06/04/2022 15:45

@Pumperthepumper

That link isn't working, can you add it to the thread?
The link is working. It’s gross. Stop being obsessive and weird over wanting to see someone else’s shit.
stuntbubbles · 06/04/2022 15:44

@Hoppinggreen

Really? Firstly why would he do this and Secondly why do you feel the need to share it?
For the same reason any of us share our despair and horrible life moments on Mumsnet – for help and advice. I’d certainly want a handhold, some tough love and some solidarity if my DP shit over our entire house and left me to scrub it.

OP, where is he now and why isn’t he cleaning up?

Original poster
WeirdlyKind · 06/04/2022 15:44

@Pumperthepumper

That link isn't working, can you add it to the thread?
Honestly I'd rather not - I'd prefer them somewhere I can delete them!
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Chikapu · 06/04/2022 15:44

@Pumperthepumper

That link isn't working, can you add it to the thread?
Honestly, no one needs to see that picture on a thread. It's disgusting.
diamondpony80 · 06/04/2022 15:43

This is NOT normal. I’ve had stomach bugs and the worst food poisoning (non stop both ends) and I NEVER had an accident. Yes I spent most of the night in the bathroom, but obviously as an adult you do what you have to. DH is the same. You really shouldn’t be cleaning up after him and definitely need to be having a word with him about basic hygiene. Sick or not, there is no excuse for this.

Original poster
WeirdlyKind · 06/04/2022 15:42

@NorthSouthcatlady

I voted YABU as l don’t know why you are cleaning it up. He sounds like a puppy who hadn’t been house trained. I had norovirus last autumn and didn’t shit all over the carpets or the bed. Does he not wear underwear or trousers?!
Christ, I don't know how to say this without being overly graphic!

It seems like he can't control his bowels at the moment. Literally goes through his undies and trousers!

OP posts:
amatsip · 06/04/2022 15:42

The advert at the top 🤣🤣🤣
It’s a message for you op

To feel like fucking crying?
Pumperthepumper · 06/04/2022 15:41

That link isn't working, can you add it to the thread?

Chikapu · 06/04/2022 15:41

This is not normal even for Noro, a fully grown, fully functioning adult has zero need to shit all over the house.

Geezabreak82 · 06/04/2022 15:41

I had norovirus in a house with one bathroom and six adults. We all had it over the course of 3-4 days and no one shat on a bed or the carpet.

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