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To wonder if I will have a conversation with my son one day

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BigBugEyes · 14/03/2022 23:41

My lovely DS turned 3 in January and is speech and language delayed and possibly has ASD. I know that nobody knows, but I can't help dreaming about the chances of him having a conversation with me one day. He points to request, understands some simple commands, is generally well behaved, eats and sleeps well and has gone from being completely non verbal a few months back to now saying 40 single words (in context) and a few phrases, "go away", "rain, rain, go away", "climb the tree" etc. His speech is still pretty unclear, but it's a massive improvement from 0 worfs and let's give the boy a chance to get started. Smile Any positivity appreciated. I'm a proud parent, but I long to chatter away with him...❤

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BigBugEyes · 15/03/2022 07:39

Thanks everyone

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x2boys · 15/03/2022 07:20

Well he sounds like he's making great progress,so maybe I have a non verbal 12 year old ,you do come to accept it's not the end of the world tbh

Colourfulrainbows · 14/03/2022 23:53

Hello hope you are OK. Just read your post. I get it I really do. I have a nearly 21 year old with autism and learning disabilities ( plus genetic condition). When he was 3 he had about 75 words and half was hard to understand. Now he has a multitude of words ( including swearing) and has developed over time to the stage he is at. Yes can have a conversation ( abet about buses and on his terms). The reason for my reply is just to say whilst I personally don't know how your child will develop and how much he will talk. If he has some speech and noises I was told years back is room to grow the communication. Lots and lots of just talking as though having a conversation and repeating words. Makaton we use as an aid not instead.

And I just want to say I get it. Took years before I heard I love you from him. And I used to be at work and customer would complain about there 3 year old never shutting up and I at that time would of given anything to hear mine chatter.

Just wanted to say is hope don't loose hope and trust yourself and your child when it comes to the rate they develop.

If you have any questions feel free to ask and sorry long.

ShaneTwane · 14/03/2022 23:48

Bless him that's great progress. My DN has severe ASD and is still classed as non verbal but like your ds has progressed to having lots of words and now at age 6 answers simple questions and sometimes tells little stories and has started saying "I love you mummy" to dsis! There is so much hope for your little boy it's disheartening when it feels like it will never happen but look how far he has come already and he's still only 3!

StillMedusa · 14/03/2022 23:48

My son had no speech at ALL until he was 5... first diagnosed as having a global developmental delay and severe speech delay, then autism.
Attended special school all the way through school
His speech was very very hard to understand until he was about 9 or 10 ..but just kept coming.
Now he's 24. He never stops talking! Yes he has autism and some learning difficulties, but he is friendly and very chatty and his Rainman tendencies mean he has an incredible knowledge of his special interests and can hold an incredible conversation about them!

He attended a special needs college, did a Mencap traineeship and has now had a job in our local Asda for 5 years!

If someone had told me he would achieve that when he was 3 I'd have cried and laughed in disbelief.
The fact your son has words coming now is fantastic... he will chat to you in the future for sure (I also work with children who have severe autism and other disabilities and any speech by 3 is a VERY good sign!)

PeppaPigWorld · 14/03/2022 23:46

I'm sure you will! I'm no expert, but if he's got that many words already and understands what you say then I'm sure it's only a matter of time.

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BigBugEyes · 14/03/2022 23:42

Words*

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