Why are there so many scared woman drivers ? Woman up and learn how to drive !

You’re fucking right OP!
I just passed and after being yelled at by DP’s uncle (as a learner) my confidence was rock bottom. I was close to test standard before stupidly practicing with him. Took my lovely instructor 2 months to correct the damage.

Honestly women should trust themselves, watch YouTube driving and if you stall, or are too slow etc do not worry, put P plates on and GO. The majority of drivers have been nice to me, even truck let me through as a P, only one person beeped.

Everyone was new once, and it’s a hell of a lot harder as a newly passed nowadays because of the sheer volume of cars.

The best is my idiot non-driver DP who comments on my driving EVERY TIME he gets in the car. If you’re so brilliant I said why haven’t you gotten your license? He still tries to give me advice, but I just repeat the above and if he really annoys me I’m stealing his provisional, booking him in for the theory and sending him in unless he STFU.

Haven't had a chance to read this thread yet, but I stopped driving at the time I started menopause. I have tried in the years since, even buying two cars at different times but I just had to give up, having anxiety over it, it made it impossible. If I was going anywhere, even a well known route I had to go over and over in my mind the way to go and what lane etc, it was just to stressful in the end.
its annoying as I live alone now and end up not going to places as It's hassle getting there.

I don't drive - tried learning when I was 17, didn't enjoy it, thought "not for me". I don't expect DP to drive me anywhere (just as well because he doesn't drive either!). BIL occasionally offers a lift which I always turn down because he's the most aggressive driver I've ever come across and I'd sooner get a bus than be stuck in a car with him.

Genuinely don't understand people who judge other people's choices though - I don't give any head space thinking about who does and doesn't drive, couldn't be less interested. And I NEVER ask for lifts anywhere in case that gets brought up.

Fairly obvious point but the only way to become a confident driver is through practice. Women I’ve known who’ve been nervous or unwilling drivers haven’t driven very much, perhaps because there was only one car and partner usually drove it.

Must admit, I have been rather surprised by the number of women on this thread admitting they are nervous of driving or don’t drive at all.
I thought my mother’s generation was the last one where this was true - I was born in the 50s, and all my female contemporaries at school couldn’t wait to start driving lessons as soon as they hit 17. It was very much the era of “Women’s Lib”, and having one’s own car keys was a symbol of freedom.
I love driving - used to do over 100mph when on call as a junior doc, happily split the driving with DH on touring holidays, including doing 110mph on German autobahnen with no speed limit.
My DDs actually bought me an hour’s tuition with a racing driver as a birthday present a few years ago! The card from them read “Now you can do it legally..!”
I think any woman who is nervous needs to drive more, not less, to build experience and confidence. If like me, you are widowed young, you will have no choice but to be sole driver.

I have read it and I understand that you are not talking about disabilities. You're now not reading my post.

What I'm saying is, you have assumed that women who are nervous are all afraid of being judged by people (i.e. men). However, they might just be nervous because driving at speed is a huge responsibility and an accident could kill you. People aren't obligated to tell you why they are nervous so you don't really know their reasons, you are just assuming and insisting that it's fact.

unfeelingwife I hear you about women shying away from being demeaned and belittled by aggressive male judgments.

This is something that women are working on across the entire spectrum of human experience. The problem is male dominance, and female withdrawal.

Your “woman up” injunction might just have sounded like a jeering voice instead of an encouraging one. Hard to gage tone on the internet and all that.

Why not blame the men then rather than the women? Your way round is a bit victim blaming.

I hear ya OP. There are way too many women on here who can't drive. And fear seems to be a key factor.

But women are the safer drivers. Men hold 90% + of 'dangerous driving' and 'causing death by dangerous driving' convictions.

But how do you know the reasons other people can’t or don’t drive?

It’s interesting on MN what we are allowed to judge and what we aren’t.
So I can’t judge someone shouting and screaming at their children because ‘they might be having a bad day’. I can’t judge a fat person as they probably have ‘health issues’. Or I can’t criticise someone who has numerous days off work because they have poor mental health.
Good to know I can criticise nervous drivers I’m sure that will help them.

Really has wound some people up hasn't it.

Again, this is what I mean when I say your tone is shite. You sound combative, lacking in any compassion and just determined to stick to your guns. Even though your "guns" are just an assumption you've made and not based on anything anyone on this thread has told you.

It was more the tone of your response rather than what you were saying. "Yeah I mean I'm not going to feel like shit about any of this" reads like "pffft, not my fucking problem". I didn't actually list any of those things to make you feel like shit, it was just to show that not every woman dislikes driving purely because they're afraid of men. It too complex an issue to just write people off as being pathetic when you have no idea of their reasons.

My husband never learned to drive because he's scared so it's not just women.

You judge me for not driving, I judge you for being an intolerant arsehole. Tis the way of the world.

I live in the US and we don’t seem to have this. If you don’t drive, you’re stuck at home. I don’t know any non-driving adults.

Who designed roads, road signs, cars and who evolved the micro and macro aggressions of driving culture?

Is it a female/ mother/ mother and child/ mother and children - friendly experience?

Do garages feel welcoming to women? Are there lots of women mechanics ?

Is Top Gear a gender neutral tv programme…

Etc

It's not because I'm too scared though. I just don't want the expense of lessons. I have never once encountered a situation where I couldn't get somewhere without a car so I don't feel the need.