If you lose weight do you want people to comment on your weight loss?

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Starryskiesinthesky · 01/02/2022 01:19

I am someone who doesnt tend to notice weight too much unless someone loses loads and I then notice, or gains loads, again making it noticable.

A friend from work used to get upset that i hadnt commented on her weight loss whereas I just tend not to make personal comments.

Am i being unreasonable to not comment on someones weight loss?

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TwentinQuarantino · 01/02/2022 01:52

I'm the same and don't notice weight change either unless it's really significant. My BF is a little diet obsessed and thinks she has a lot of weight to lose (she really doesn't). She's constantly asking me if I noticed changes good or bad and I can never tell. It's unhealthy for people to be so fixated on size and annoying for the rest of us.

booplefloof · 01/02/2022 01:30

I hate it when people comment on my weight. Why does it matter? I have many more layers to my person, and I hold no value to people giving their value on my physical appearance.

Save your breath. Unless you are my DH or bestie and I have specifically asked before I go out.

DysmalRadius · 01/02/2022 01:29

No! It makes me self conscious and feels like the vocalising of societal pressure!! I never comment on other people's weight loss (or appearance at all, generally, unless the other person brings it up) for the same reason - I feel that too much emphasis on the way people look undermines their other qualities.

gwenneh · 01/02/2022 01:28

I don’t comment on weight loss without context. There are good and bad reasons to lose weight.

Feather12 · 01/02/2022 01:22

You are not unreasonable not to comment. I don’t. But many people want it to be noticed, and why wouldn’t they, it’s a huge achievement. I tend to only comment when brought up in conversation, but I frequently tell people when they are looking great.

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