Partner unhappy with botox & more

I do understand that it may have upset someone enough to cry. We dont know what sort of cry that it was and what exactly was said. You didnt mentioned anything that would suggest your partner was trying to control or tell you what to do with your body which is obviously your thing.
I was personally very shocked that my mum /in her 60s/ had her eyelids cut and I cried several times and still feel uneasy about it a year later (especially when I see her pressing her eyes as it pulls/hurts), but she doesnt know it.

Definitely look at the work of whoever you choose. I actually go somewhere who has special offers on certain days and she's fab. You just need to be sure that they can do it properly.

I considered tear trough filler at one point - for something like that I'd want to make sure I had a review from someone I personally know who had been there. Filler seems more invasive.

OP, your body your money and your choice!

I’m 29, recently got lip fillers, I’ve wanted them for YEARS but my DP always said no. I said fuck it and booked it in, it was the best decision I ever made, and has made me feel so much more confident in my self.

I wish I had done it years ago now, as I’ve always been self conscious about my thin lips.

Do it, take no notice of controlling partners.

Most people who start messing with Botox, start having other treatments so I can see why she feels this way.

And no one has notched my Botox as it’s very subtle but really makes me happy. I’m old, but it was only my frown line that bothered me (thanks, lockdown!) as I felt it made me look tired and anxious. All gone!

It's absolutely up to you what you do with your body. It's also up to her if that reveals a side if you she was unaware of that makes her feel she can't be in a relationship with you. For what it's worth, I

and if my OH acted like this, they wouldnt have to worry about losing the relationship, it would already be gone

I just don’t tell anyone about this stuff as it’s something I do for me and noone else’s business!

How is this not manipulative? Seriously?
Its fine to not like botox (or short hair, or red lipstick) but its not ok to cry about it. It is very manipulative and childish

Your body your choice. Just go somewhere not super cheap with lots of good reviews, I get Botox maybe once or twice a year on forehead and 11s but sometimes I end up with a dropped brow which makes me look stern or spoke eyebrows it can be adjusted and always wears off but if something like happens can be a bit embarrassing, luckily I have fringe.

As for teeth whitening you won't get Ross white teeth you may change a couple of shades at most unelss they really coffee n wine stained, most people won't even notice.

It is your choice.
It also says something about your values. Your partner may be reevaluating your relationship in light of this new information. That could be extremely upsetting if the partner thought you were the one and now isn’t sure anymore.

I’ve get Botox and very subtle fillers as I have thin lips and shadows under my eyes. My husband didn’t know initially, because it’s not his face and it’s not his money. I’m extremely happy with them results and that is all that actually matters. He’s never told me what I can and cannot do, and if he doesn’t like the idea of something he’s certainly never voiced it to me.

It's your choice what you want to do with your body, but she also has a right to her feelings.

I can relate tbh, I would find it unattractive if my partner felt he needed to alter his appearance using chemicals.

Haha, you’re meant to start Botox as young as possible for full benefits! JustFrustrated are you being paid for peddling this line straight from a cometic clinic brochure or is that just your way of feeling better about your choices?

Each to their own, but let’s not pretend the industry isn’t set up to capitalise on women’s insecurities around ageing.

FFS bin the whiny bitch and run. It won't stop there. She's either a deluded idiot obsessed with 'wellness' grift (you might have some fun, if you are so inclined, pointing out the growing connections between the wellness grift industry and fascism), or a controlling abuser motivated by a wish to keep you 'unattractive' so you can't appeal to anyone else.
Neither is a good option. Run.

I am one of the least fuss people I know in regards to preening, but I had a brace on my teeth as a teenager and had my nose straighted and my teeth whitened as a adult. Why would it put people off if you want to present yourself the way you choose. Is your partner against ear pearcing or tattoos, or is that different?

I’ve got Botox and lip fillers and I’m 37 - I LOVE them!!

Your body, your money, your choice.

she cried a lot

This speaks volumes! It’s just not the reaction you would expect from a sane, rational person having a conversation about potential cosmetic procedures.

Why do you think she reacted like this? Does she do this a lot? Is it her way of getting what she wants? Whatever the answers are, as others have said it’s 100% your call and your right to do as you choose/what makes you happy.

I’d be calling her out on such manipulative and childish behaviour in what should be a normal discussion between two adults.

Your face, your choice. Her intense attempt to manipulate you is frightening.

My DH never even notices when i have my Botox and I don’t tell him, it’s none of his business. I’d say she’s the one with issues not you. Have it, it’s fabulous!! I have great self esteem and the Botox makes me feel even better.

I understand she may have concerns and it's fine for her to raise these concerns with you, but manipulating you into changing your mind by crying and threatening to dump you is not on at all.

I want to have a breast enlargement this year as I have virtually no boobs at all after having two children. I only want to go up 1-2 sizes which would take me to a c cup maximum. My dh is very much against it as he doesn't like the thought of unnecessary surgery and we've had a lot of long discussions about it where I've listened to his concerns and he's listened to my reasons for wanting it done. But ultimately it's my decision to make and he'll support me either way. Sometimes you've got to do what will make you happy.

She sounds incredibly controlling. I'm in my early 30s and, touch wood, don't currently need any botox but when I raise my eyebrows, there is more movement in my forehead than there was five years ago. I would 100% get botox as soon as I feel it's necessary. The women in my family also end up with quite deep lines at the side of their nose/mouth - I'm not sure what they're called but it's the vertical line that gives people that Droopy Dog look. Those will be dealt with too when the time comes.

I have naturally straight top teeth but my lower ones have become slightly crowded over the years. I'm considering Invisalign and afterwards I will work with my dentist for whitening.

Personally, I'm grateful that these subtle things are so readily available to make people feel better about themselves. You do you and if she dumps you, she wasn't right for you anyway.

I find it odd that she doesn’t want you to have Invisalign - I didn’t even ask my partner when I had this done, I just booked it.

Is she worried that you are going to be more attractive to others and may be a jealousy thing?