AIBU ..but everyday (give or take a day here or there) dd friends wander back with us. One lives closer and its sort of on route so cant avoid our house, the other friend has to travel by car but they have to park nearby our house - but often choose to then walk past their car to walk down to the outside of my teeny house - and choose to have conversations with each other (parents this is) whilst the kids all play in my teeny front garden.
Often the kids all want to go inside my house now at no point do the parents check with me if this is ok. At no point do they ask what I think. They just speak to their own child and say ok - give a time limit and never stick to it. In the summer they all wandered through the house to the back garden which then left me constantly walking through to check while the 2 parents chat to each other and let me get stressed - some days this has been 20 mins before ive managed to hoof them out.
Some days the kids are asking at the top of the street - and once again im not even considered - they just assume im okay with it and say ok but just 5 minutes when we all know its never 5 minutes.
Recently one parent has been letting themselves into the house - my house isnt a mess but on occassion it just has some family clutter that if I have guests would be tidied up a bit more. This then makes me feel on edge and i just find it rude as said parent isnt particularly chatty and just seems to want to get in from outside more than be friendly and have a cuppa.
I cant do this to either of the other parents - as one is a car distance and the other means im walking past my house and out the way.
I became a sahm during pandemic and the others are working and usually do go home to continue work. i feel like since i've become a sahm they think I have all the time in the world to accomodate their darling children. If we get out sooner and walk home alone I have even witnessed the other 2 stopping outside mine for chit chats. I just find it all a bit bizarre.
If it was occasional fair enough but its happening almost daily and I just like to get in sort kids out and prep tea - or get ready for after school activities but I equally dont feel I should be put in this position to have to say not today when the parents don't consider me?