AIBU to not want childs friends to walk into my house everyday

How not hoe 😒

Hoe the fuck did one of the parents just let themselves in to your house?? I can't even fathom that!!
Hitch your big girl pants up and toughen up!! No is a full sentence and all that!!

Tell your ch no one is playing this week and it's fine to say "sorry mum says we can't have anyone in".
Lock side gate
Could you drive home or go to a shop on the way home to try to get rid of them.
Get the kids to ask if they can play at the others' houses.
Say a firm, "I need to get tea on now so I'll say bye" as you walk up to your house. Don't stop and chat, walk up to the door in deep conversation with the kids. Straight in and lock the door behind you!
Job done

Be more assertive. Blunt if you have to be. Model boundaries for your child. Be brave and just be blunt. What’s the worst that will happen? If you let people walk all over you then you’re showing your children that it is OK for people to walk over them too.

I presume they all invite your ch round to play, probably not and they're being cf

Dont lie, dont make excuses and definitely do not explain.
Just say..' not today, bye'
And go inside and close the door and lock it.
If anybody gets pushy... 'not today, bye'.... on repeat...
Tell your kids beforehand rhat they are coming home, straight into the house and there will be drinks and biscuits...or whatever you normally do.
Just keep doing this until the day comes when you actually want to put the kettle on and cater for the masses... then you say as you walk towards the house..'anybody fancy a cup of tea... been ages since we had a catchup'...
Stay calm and in control of your boundaries.
They are being really cheeky and pushy... so push back!

Is your front door always unlocked so they can just walk straight in?
I would stop at the gate and just say bye, see you tomorrow. If kids ask to come in say no we have plans, same then to the cheeky mothers of they start with Oh just for 5 mins.

If it still continues then you are going to have be blunt. They are massively taking a lend of you.

I think you need to tell your kids before school that in the afternoon you’re going to say something to the mothers. When they try and shove through you need to say “Listen, you’re deliberately not taking the hint. This isn’t a childcare centre. If you keep this up, I’m going to start charging you. You’re absolutely taking the piss and you know it.”

Firstly lock your door…..always, just get into the habit of it.

You need to take action. We have stuff to do today so can’t stop, repeat every day. If they ask what stuff just say family stuff.

I wouldn’t have anyone coming into my home uninvited. I used to childmind and a parent started opening my front door onto porch and I soon started locking it so that didn’t happen again! My poor family should have that happening.
Say anything
Oh I dont feel great
We are doing a family activity
We have guests coming
We are tired
If for some strange reason they don’t listen to you just repeat, ‘I said not today’
For some reason I feel really uncomfortable about your post and your ability to look out for your own family and set boundaries

I wouldn’t make up events or excuses as that doesn’t send the message, which is even if your not doing anything they can’t just come in.

Maybe the message to send if about asking and agreeing a visit….

So saying something like “no playing inside today because we’ve planned a quiet afternoon, but if your mum agrees you can come in to play for half an hour on x day after school (assuming you want them coming in at all”.

Then the next day you can say “We’re having a quiet afternoon again, but looking forward to the play date on….”

If you struggle I’d view it as a challenge that, if you complete it, will prove to be a useful assertive skill you can use in the future to hold boundaries.

Look at this from their view point @underthesea123 - they have no objections to being rude to you, to taking liberties where you time and your consideration is concerned.
Start being a bit firmer in your discussions on the walk home
"Now, we have plans for this afternoon so unfortunately, we'll have to say goodbye to you here (when you reach the car of one of them).....bye now"
and as for the one who has to walk past your house
"Ok, we're going in now and can't have any guests today.....bye now" and walk in and close the door behind you.

I'd say that parent who 'has' to park near your house doesn't really have to park there at all. There are plenty of other places to park but they have cottoned on to the fact that you'll pop the kettle on and they can have a good old chin wag standing in your garden while you don't object.
Time to start objecting.
Could you invent a relative that is working nights that has to stay in your house for the next 4-5 weeks while they are having work done on their place? That way they can't come in as they are sleeping and they can't hang around the front garden chatting as their sleeping at the front of the house?? And it would give you 4-5 weeks of no extra visitors???

You can do it OP! Do it tomorrow and let us know how it goes

One thing I found worked (not with school mums but with NDN who wanted our kids to play together every sodding afternoon) was at the end of a meet I would say “Well we are busy for the next few days so shall we do this again on Thursday/whenever?” and if they try to muscle in before that you say, “As I said, we are free on Thursday” She soon got the idea.

How old is your child, is there a reason you can’t tell them?

Lock your door before you pick up kids from school . Then when you get back, nobody can run in/through your house.

Same when you're at home. Lock door so adult acquaimtance can't just walk in, has to knock and you can say "sorry, too busy, must rush, byeeeee".

WTAF Don't you have any boundaries, OP. You have a front door, right? When you get home, shut it and that will indicate to others that you are on one side of it, and they are on the other. Don't put up with any more nonsense, they are treating you badly. I can't believe they would let themselves in. Make sure that cannot happen. If you need to speak to any of them, just be clear that you are not available for visits by kids or parents. The parents will soon find somewhere else to hang out. Believe in yourself and your right to privacy in your own home.

You don’t need to make up a reason, just say ok bye! Or sorry you can’t come in, we’ve got stuff to get on with.
And yes, definitely start locking your door.

I would be having none of that!!! If they can be so rude and use you blatantly, then you can politely and charmingly say with a smile, ‘Busy tonight, sorry’ - every night!!!!

They are absolute cf’s!!!

Also yes lock your door

You don't need to lie. Having stuff to do can be sorting out homework, making tea, watching TV. You don't have to specify what stuff you plan to do.

When the kids ask their parents say “no, that doesn’t work for us today” before the parents can say “yes”.

Walk separately from them, close your door after you. If they are there lying in wait, can you say something like “kids eh? See you tomorrow, must get on!”

Lock your door so that the children can’t just walk in and then if it’s suggested by a child or parent just say sorry not today snd don’t unlock the door until everyone understands.

If you lay down ,like a door mat
Don’t be surprised when people wipe their feet on you .
This is all your own doing ,by not stopping it the first time .
Come on
Grow a back bone
Set a good example of how to be assertive to your children
They are learning from your example

Lock door once you’re in.
Say not today if they try and come in.
You don’t have to lie. You have other plans. You’re busy.