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Never get house to myself and throughly fed up, anyone else

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velvet24 · 19/01/2022 10:09

Since the pandemic now work at home for the foreseeable future , I like it most of the time but my husband is also here too and its driving me crazy, the kids come and go with work and college but he is here all the time, and I just want to scream I WANT THE HOUSE TO MYSELF!!! Sometimes he goes out and I am so happy to enjoy my home with just me in it, but that rarely happens. He had to go out today and I thought great , pop some music on and clean but nopehe's back already after half an hour.

Our marriage is good but this constant being here together 24 7 is starting to grate on me, anyone else.....?????

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CatherinedeBourgh · 19/01/2022 10:24

@TimmyNook

Why don't you just tell him what you need? Maybe DH and I are weird. We both 'get' the need for being alone and needing space from each other. So we make sure we give it to each other. Even if it's just a couple of hours one afternoon a week.
Same here. Every so often dh and the dc are invited to go for a long walk without me. Very healthy.
DressingPafe · 19/01/2022 10:23

There is nothing that made me more glad to be single than lockdown! I need time to myself and lots of it. Any relationship I might have been in wouldn’t have survived, so I can imagine how you feel. On threads like this people will often suggest the OP gets a job out of the home, but that doesn’t solve the issue of wanting the actual house to yourself! Can you get him to take up a hobby that would involve being out each week?

TimmyNook · 19/01/2022 10:22

Why don't you just tell him what you need? Maybe DH and I are weird. We both 'get' the need for being alone and needing space from each other. So we make sure we give it to each other. Even if it's just a couple of hours one afternoon a week.

SleepingStandingUp · 19/01/2022 10:21

Perhaps your DH agrees with you and wishes you'd go out more.

Thewolvesarerunningagain · 19/01/2022 10:20

No, not just you. It’s making me rethink retirement plans :-)

FinallyHere · 19/01/2022 10:19

Do you have anywhere in the house that is your 'own space' ?

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velvet24 · 19/01/2022 10:17

Thank god its not just me i am going MAD

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IsThisNameTaken · 19/01/2022 10:17

Absolutely! I had the house to myself yesterday afternoon for a whole hour and half ... was bliss, just me and the cats!

Now this morning DH is WFH, water company are digging up the pavement out the front and neighbour has his power tools out in the back garden - even the cats have abandoned me Smile

Shannaratiger · 19/01/2022 10:14

Yes, DH has been off sick since 2018. Just occasionally I would like quiet time, last night he went to bed early so I had 1 hour to turn the TV off and read my book in peace, was heaven!

BackInBlackAgain · 19/01/2022 10:13

yes, i sometimes feel i cant breathe, he does go out in the evening but then i am with DD so i still dont get the house to myself.

HairyFanjoBanjo · 19/01/2022 10:12

If you have a garden and can afford to build a separate home office / outbuilding type thing, I highly, highly recommend it.

Rainallnight · 19/01/2022 10:09

Oh God yes