Never get house to myself and throughly fed up, anyone else

No I get it. Even through all of the lock-downs my DH still had to work, he's a farmer so I still had my space. I like to listen to my audio book and float around cleaning up. Every so often he will be here for near enough a full day and I'm not 100% sure what to do with myself.

Also with my first "real" boyfriend we lived together. When he wanted to go out alone with friends, I was always like off you go and would sit down to watch what ever I wanted for the whole evening it was great.

My dream holiday is one where everyone else just goes without me. Everyone home all the time is driving me mad, thank goodness I work outside the home.

I imagine it's mutual. Why don't you have a chat about it and strike a deal where you each take the kids out for the day leaving the other behind. We do this occasionally and it's great. 😊 They have a fab day out together (doesn't have to be expensive, trip to the park / grandparents or whatever suits would do) you get a day to yourself. Then swap. Highly recommend.

I often see threads like this and I just don't get it. There's nothing I can't do with my husband at home that I could do without him, so why would I want him gone? He doesn't really get in the way.

What is it you want the house to yourself for?

This is why I will never live with my DP!

Even after a holiday together I tell him to go straight home.

I love my space.

Do you give him time in the house alone? What is it you're doing then that he can't do?

Do you have room for a shed or something you can send him to? A lot of men like their own space where they can do man stuff like drink and watch football or play videogames. Alternatively you could make your own space in one.

5 years ago the idea of being home all day with a Partner would have been a HARD NO. I could have thought of nothing worse, I've always like my own space.

Now both DP and I work from home fulltime and have done for a couple of years. So far I've not got to your point, although in our old house were there was only one office, I very much did more often.

Things that help:

We both have offices, and we use them. DP is often in his, door closed on calls for 70% of the working day, so we only see each other in passing until we're both finished for the day.

I'm an introverted home bod, DP is not, but has a hobby that often takes him out of the house at weekends for a day or sometimes both.

When he's not away doing his hobby we still have our own things we enjoy doing, or projects to work on which mean we aren't sitting on top of each other all day. Weekends at home are often much like a week day in that we don't settle down together properly until the evening.

I'm with you. DH has retired and I still work but he's always at home when I'm there. Would love to just enjoy my home on my own.

Yes, me. I love my DP very much, but it is starting to get old now. The end of last year was great (between summer and Christmas) because both of us were back in work for bits of time. Now we are both full time at home and it feels very March 2020. Usually he goes to football a couple of times a week but that has been cancelled until now - last night was the first match of the year and it was so nice to have the house to myself!

We are very lucky to have a reasonable amount of space, and a garden, I know.

I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to be on your own in the comfort of your house.

DH and I have hobbies which does get us out from under each others feet, but even so I still get frustrated.

Last night he should have been out but couldn't be bothered to go as he was tired. Fine, no issue there. But I finished a LONG day at work and just wanted to veg out but he kept talking AT me all evening, then insisted we watched a movie, which he talked through. Hes really sweet, and kept asking me if I wanted something to eat or drink, or he wanted to snuggle up with me.

But I just wanted silence, space and my book. I'd spent all day on the phone with angry people (job hazard), in meetings, and dealing with school issues with my son. I didnt want company, as nice as DH is. I wanted solitude.

I could have gone upstairs but then DH is concerned that there is something wrong with me, or sad that I dont want to spend an impromptu evening with him.

I'm still working in the office, DH is at home. I often drive 3/4 of the way home (it takes that long to warm the car up) then I just park up and sit there for half an hour. Sometimes I read MN or the news, sometimes I watch the rooks in the trees by the river, and sometimes I just sit there in silence in the dark.
It's bliss.

Thank god it not just me.
DH working at top floor of the house not too bad,DS 21 working in his room yesterday nearly drove me mad constant whistling and moving around.
It’s been constant for 2 years I just want my house back at least Dd bought her own in March last year otherwise I think I would had a total meltdown.

Dh had this problem with me - he goes out to work but I now wfh and it drove him nuts, especially as we share an office.

Dd moved out and we've been able to move my office to her room. It has transformed my work rate too.

My DH didn't get it at all when I was out working, he was a SAHP, and between school runs he had the house to himself but I never had any home-alone time, I was coming home to a houseful of people and even if I had a weekday off work he was sitting in the house. He just couldn't see why it might be a problem, and if I suggested he should go out when we were at home, he'd say, "If you want. Where shall we go?"

It's better now that the children have grown up, DH has a job, and we sometimes work different shifts. I love him to bits, but I'd hate to be without those few hours a week of total solitude.

I'm cultivating his outdoor hobbies in preparation for retirement.

I used to go to the kitchen Sunday mornings with the excuse I was listening to The Archers omnibus - my husband had long working hours outside the home but I didn't marry till I was 40 and was used to my own space - and he came with two teenage boys who lived with us so I needed to escape the testosterone regularly. Then I had a boy...
I found I had a four hour limit with my kids before I needed to escape for a cup of tea and quiet for an hour.

I'd just been telling DH to go away, he's in my downstairs space and I need him to at least go upstairs to give me a bit of peace. I struggle to focus on work when he's dotting about underfoot.

Can you send him out to buy something urgent but obscure.

Like a very specific sized part that your important item needs to function. That can be bought somewhere a forty minute drive away.

That you need before Amazon can deliver.

I am so with you. I love him but I need my space. I used to have 1 day off per week which was my day at home by myself. I spoke to him about how it makes me feel and he now works upstairs that day so that I can have a bit more sense of space... but it's still not the same. It is a real strain and I say that as someone who feels their marriage is good and strong. I go out a fair bit myself (working in cafes etc) but it is my dream to just have the house to myself for a week or so!!

Yeah. Me too. I’m WFH now and DH was home Monday and Tuesday. I was so looking forward to today being on my own and working quietly, but ds has had a temperature since yesterday evening, so he’s home now, and I had to take him for a PCR test too.
It’s shit.

Well, if your husband feels the same, talk with him. You go away for a few hours so he can have house all for himself, and he goes so you can have a house for you.

Just talk.

I think a man is a very big presence in a house, and affects the way a woman feels more so that the other way around.

The last couple of years of being together all the time has really damaged my marriage. But was really struggling with not getting any time to myself so took up a hobby which got me out of the house but DH moans about that because I’m not here as I think he likes the whole living in each other’s pockets thing. I don’t. I can’t win.

There is nothing better than being in the house on your own.

Yes me too re being single dressingpafe

I think this is why women traditionally hated it when their husbands retired!