Never get house to myself and throughly fed up, anyone else

My husband has been told he's going to be based permanently at home in 6 months time, I can't stand not having a bit of time to myself, he's already been working from home for almost 2 years.

YANBU at all! I have a chronic health condition that means I can't work but have been a sahm while dh goes out to work. Just as school runs/driving to after school activities lessened as dc got more independent, covid struck and dc and dh were at home! I didn't realise how much I love my peace and quiet and how vital it is to my wellbeing until we all ended up living together 24/7!
All my routines have gone out the window, exercise sessions are difficult as dh is working right in the middle of the house and the sound travels so much...I watch TV with subtitles so his colleagues can't hear it, I spend the day keeping the dog quiet, I'm fed up making lunches. I want friends to be able to visit but there's no possibility of private conversations!
Dh has no hobbies, I feel guilty sending him out to walk the dog on days I feel well enough to do it but just crave the 30mins peace and alone time! Dh may or may not get to go into the office 2 days a week from April...I am crossing everything it happens

I was actually in tears today, BEGGING him to just try to summarise what he needs to say

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🍷🍷🍷 I feel your pain

Yup. DH never goes out

He conversely is VERY chatty and sociable and with WFH he just doesn't have the outlet anymore and it's making him agitated. But he refuses to do anything about it. That said he's actually going away with mates this weekend leaving Thursday. I am buying a bottle of wine and celebrating!

Yes. Sometimes I have a proper breakdown about it. You anbu.

I started a thread about this a while ago and was called selfish.
I need DH to get back in the office at least one day a week. I want to sit in my home and not listen to work meetings etc. Some days I would like to ring his employer and say fuck off

It’s not DH that’s the problem in my house. It’s the bloody kids! Oldest has been WFH since March 2020, middle two are now at Uni but living at home and only go in a few different days a week if that because most of its online.

I was a SAHM but now WFH as well. DH works out of the house but he generally has a day or two off during the week which before Covid, we would spend having lovely long sex sessions while the DC were at school, college or work as DC are up late and we always worried about making noise,

We still could (as long as I keep jumping out of bed to log on- desk is in bedroom) but DC are always home so we can’t!

Bloody infuriating!

DH took his DM on a nice long weekend to the coast in the autumn. He was slightly surprised I didn't want to come. OH GOD BLISS. I did try to look pleased to see him when he returned.

We've both WFH for years but he used to go out for long, late days to meetings and sometimes overnight as well, at least once or twice a month. Now? Nada. Apparently every fucking meeting can happen on Zoom (where his webcam shows me trooping back and forth with my tea).

It's all right for him, I visit my elderly DM every month or so. Worse, he probably actually misses me.

Sometimes he follows me downstairs just to go on talking to me. He's a dear man but Oh My God.

It's my husband's birthday today and he went out for the football for a few hours.

Bliss!

There's just no feeling like having the house to yourself. I wouldn't want it all that way, but too long without a breather of alone time and I start to feel crushed.

My late dh went off sick in1991 and retired in 1993 on health grounds. From then til he died in 2018 I very rarely had house to myself because he could not really go far without someone- gave up driving and poor mobility. I went back to work and I envied the time he had on his own.

Although I miss him I really appreciate having time on my own!

Totally feel your pain. Can you encourage him to find a hobby? Or to take up walking?! Invent a challenge!

They really do not ‘get’ that we need alone time. We have the majority to do with the kids and a little peace and quiet is not a lot to ask but seems so hard to find. My husband has retired young yet we have two small kids so I’m living like a retired person with young kids 😂

Fuck yes, totally with you. I have a two year old and DH works from home. I crave a whole day and night in the house by myself!

Yep, this is me. Never home on my own, haven't been since covid started. Husband is going to Cheltenham races in March, I will have a whole day on my own 😁

I would be really fed up if my partner was trying to get me to leave the house (especially to take the kids with me, as some posters have suggested) so they could have alone time.

My DH has worked from home since well before the pandemic. I WOH 30 hours a week in a job where I am talking and listening constantly, so although DH is lovely I do crave solitude on occasion. I'm off work tomorrow, DH is out all day for a face to face client meeting (first one in over a year) and the DC will be at school and nursery so I will have the house to myself for 6 whole hours!

I would be excited I am convinced that one of the DC will come down with covid symptoms or the school will close or DH's meeting will be cancelled at the last minute...something is sure to come along and ruin this for me, it's the parenting law of sod!!

I have covid and dh is currently out ferrying the dcs to their activities (I'm the last one to have it still so sure they're not infectious) - it's bliss!

It only bothers me because there’s a noticeable difference between what my husband expects- hours of uninterrupted alone time to play on his computer- and his expectation that I will cheerfully pause whatever I’m doing every time he wants something. He also spends a lot more time and effort encouraging me to go out than he does thinking of reasons to go out himself.

In response I have a new attitude towards seeing his family. I don’t do it, because when he goes to visit them I get some precious house-to-myself time. And I don’t invite them round here either. He hasn’t joined the dots yet, I suspect it will be a while.

Is it wrong to feel so disappointed - DH was supposed to be going into the office tomorrow and staying overnight due to a very early meeting on Wednesday and crap Southern trains. Now one of the main participants has gone down with covid so it's all going to be online and DH is WFH again. Would have been my first day alone since early November. He's hardly been in the office at all for the last two years.

I have the house to myself; DH and DS have gone to PIL for the day. I feel horribly guilty because DFIL asked so sweetly if I was sure I didn't want to come, and DMIL messaged that she is sorry not to see me. Aaaaargh. They're so lovely, just not as lovely as the quiet...

Does he ever get any time in the house to himself?

Try being a nanny op.