Never get house to myself and throughly fed up, anyone else

I feel bad for you. The lockdown last year destroyed my MH because everyone was here all of the time and I felt completely suffocated. Everyone needs time alone sometimes.

The benefits of having him home far outweigh any disturbance - he'll chuck on a bit of washing etc, which he could never do when he was office based!

I really dont get it but it's obviously just me!

I'm mostly really busy working or if not working have 2 year old at home so I literally don't notice DH at all except when he sometimes stops for lunch at same time as me.

He would never dream of interrupting me on a call or something.

What would he say if you put music on? Or is he working in your sitting room etc? Because that isnt on - if you have got a dining room or study etc where he can work there needs to be a desk in a bedroom, it's not fair to dominate communal areas.

I think the problems many of you describe are DH problems not wfh problems

• if your partner works in a separate room with door shut, normal volume music/tv/shower elsewhere in house shouldnt be a major interruption and they should be being decent about tolerating normal household noise if working from home
• it shouldn't prevent you doing what you want when you what! I'm off every friday with our youngest and I don't tell DH every time we go out! He's working so I don't disturb him, he gives me the same courtesy when I'm working.
• he shouldn't be coming bothering you asking where keys are etc when you are working
• both home workers should get equal dibs over whatever the is the "optimal" working space. Taking turns.

I dont understand why you couldn't pop some music on and clean with him wfh?

Because he is working! Trying to concentrate, or on zoom calls all bloody day . He gets annoyed, and heaven knows what his colleagues would think of me singing along to everything!

Like there isn't really anything I would do in my house that I wouldn't do with DH there!!

It's not that. It's that fact that someone is always there and the loss of the ability to do what you want when you want. Silly things like letting them know when you go out (we always do - just manners I suppose), but takes the fun out of a spontaneous shopping trip etc. Not being able to have a random shower because he is working in the room next door and he can't hear his zoom calls over the noise.

I don't know any women who work from home who mind their husband being there working all the time too

I do - I have always worked from home since the DCs were small, 10 years or so. Part time. I had my routine. I've had to change everything - start time, lunch time, housework time. I have to work downstairs - during term time I get the dining room table as DH is in uni son's bedroom, holidays I'm on the sofa. DH has lunch earlier than me, but I have to stop earlier now because he makes so much noise getting his. The racket he makes just getting a cup of tea is unbelievable!

He gets plenty of alone time - I do the taxi service for the kids, the shopping and I have hobbies. He never leaves the house apart from an occasional half hour shop!! Recently he has had whole 2day breaks as I have been doing uni open days with overnight stays with DD.

everyone needs and deserves time where they can do what they want even if it’s just laying on the sofa for a couple of hours binging a box set without having to make conversation or a bath in peace

Why can't you do this

If I want to do either of those things I just say that to DH and tell him I'd like some time for myself, no prob?

I'm sitting here now as DH is doing the school run and enjoying a rare 20 minutes of silence and empty house!!

I agree with you - it's extremely wearing.

It’s posts like this that make me so glad that I’m single - after nearly 5 years I couldn’t imagine having to live with someone constantly under my feet like that so I really do feel for you 😩 I get the house 8am-4pm Monday to Friday whilst DD is at school and then in the evenings when she’s asleep and it is bliss, yet people have the cheek to ask if I ever get bored?! 🙄 no I bloody don’t is the answer to that! 😂 everyone needs and deserves time where they can do what they want even if it’s just laying on the sofa for a couple of hours binging a box set without having to make conversation or a bath in peace. I also agree with PP, if you have a garden and the money - build yourself a little outbuilding where you can get away and breathe when you need to! Xx

Hell yeah.
DH and I both need solitude and time alone.
Pre pandemic, he WFH once a week, I didn’t work on one of his office days, so we both got it.
Now, I’m back in the office 2 days a week, he’s still WFH, he gets time alone and I don’t. He’s so Covid anxious that it’s a struggle for him to go out at all.
I relish my commutes!!

I see a lot of men these days, wanting to be around the home all the time, wanting to dominate the home, and refusing to go out without their wife... YET the women are wanting their own space and getting irked by their man being stuck underfoot, getting in the way, and being loud and intrusive. A lot of women want time away from their man. But the men think being together 24/7 is just brilliant.

I don't actually think its about men vs women. I think it's about people who woh/have a job, vs those who don't. I don't know any women who work from home who mind their husband being there working all the time too? In fact they mostly love it as they get to see far more of their family.

Like there isn't really anything I would do in my house that I wouldn't do with DH there!!

I don't understand this.when does your DH get the house to himself?

I dont understand why you couldn't pop some music on and clean with him wfh?

I expect he feels the same about you going out & giving him some space.

Op I hear ya - YANBU. It would drive me crazy having Dh at home on my days off.

Sitcoms that should be

Even before covid my hubby stayed in, drives me mad. He sits on the sofa watching sport or crappy sit come, all day long. Never moves or does anything. I am an active person and I hate staying in. So I do everything I want on my own.

And I never get the house to myself.

And am I the only one who can't do housework with him just sitting there? No idea why

Mine is going into work today for the first time in two years (has been WFH). It’s my day off. I am ecstatic!

WTF has happened to men? confused

I don't recognize this , how many men do you know like this ?

Oh yes. DH is begrudgingly returning to the office next week. He told me yesterday and it was all I could do to stop myself pinning him down and forcing exact dates out of him.

I've worked in the office twice a week all the way through, so he's had loads of time alone. He hasn't so he is always here. Always.

It's particularly annoying when he insists on taking calls in the kitchen so I can't make lunch or put the kettle on. Or decides he will come upstairs and start talking to me despite the fact I am working..

I can't wait.