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Teenager talking at night

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DollyStardust · 01/01/2022 23:24

I'm laid in bed and about to settle down, I can hear my 18 Yr old DS in the room next door laughing and talking while he plays a game. He can sometimes do this until 4am with friends. Some nights he is louder than others and it causes arguments as it disturbs our sleep- he doesn't realise how much louder his voice is in a quiet house and argues that he isn't being loud.

It's hard to give him a curfew for this because he's of adult age, but equally he's acting like a child not considering others.

I don't understand how his friends can do it to without annoying their parents or waking siblings!?

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MojoMoon · 01/01/2022 23:40

If you can hear him, he is being too loud.

Don't get into an argument. Just state that you can hear him and it needs to stop.

It's the same as playing music.

He can work out how to fix it himself. Be that not playing the games. Or speaking more quietly. Or playing the games at an alternative location - a friend's house. His own flat. A downstairs room in the house far away from bedrooms?

He is an adult. He can be responsible for choosing his solution to it.

You set the boundaries, he figures out how to exist within them.

sadpapercourtesan · 01/01/2022 23:40

My youngest tried this caper when he was about 15. After a couple of polite requests to keep the noise down, I just barged into his room and loudly told him off, to the hilarity of his FIFA mates. He piped down after that.

Honestly, tell him to shut the fuck up or you'll take his stuff away and turn off the WiFi. I adore my teenagers, but there have to be basic rules - people need sleep.

Comefromaway · 01/01/2022 23:39

My 18 year old had a noise curfew at night both when she lived with a live in landlady and in shared accommodation (private halls of residences). Assuming you are the homeowner/tenant then it’s a case of your house, your rules.

LSLLM · 01/01/2022 23:36

Why do you even allow it? Adult or not, it affects the family so much he needs to stop it.

SuckItup22 · 01/01/2022 23:36

Mine do the same. Its very annoying.

elelel · 01/01/2022 23:35

It's hard to give him a curfew for this because he's of adult age

He isn't acting with adult consideration, so I would curfew accordingly.

Detest · 01/01/2022 23:35

I turn the Internet off. My house, my rules. My DS is 15 but, even if he was an 18yo adult, why should the rest of the family suffer while a grown man shouts at animated characters all night?

DrDreReturns · 01/01/2022 23:34

I turn the WiFi off with my 15 year old. I appreciate you may not be able to do this with an adult but you may have to give him an ultimatum - change your behaviour or lose WiFi access overnight.

AmandaHoldensLips · 01/01/2022 23:30

This used to drive me insane. I had to resort to storming into their bedroom and telling them to STFU. My house, my rules, and if you don't like it then move out.

OhLordyWhatNow · 01/01/2022 23:27

Ask him to remove his headphones and use the cpu speaker/ microphone.

He can't hear how loud his own voice is. Once he has experienced it he may alter his own volume.

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