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To find the days in between Xmas and new year depressing?

133 replies

manboywomengirl · 27/12/2021 12:40

I don't mind Boxing Day but today I feel very blah and down in the dumps like I don't know what to do with myself. My daughter is at her dads till tomorrow so I'm going to the shop to get a few bits I need then home for a shower and some wine and dinner later on. However, I just feel like I should be doing something else. I feel antsy and unsure of what I am meant to be doing.

What is everyone else up to?

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Mrsbadger77 · 27/12/2021 16:50

I hear you. I've always felt like that. And this year Omicron and the awful weather where I live isn't helping. Just had my first drink of the day 🍹

mrsbyers · 27/12/2021 16:48

We got married on the 28th - 9 years tomorrow so that’s now something to break up the twixmas period , sometimes go away but this year we have not long moved county so are going to have a day out in Alnwick

dementedma · 27/12/2021 16:47

Of course I read! I have 5 new books at the ready but there are 10 days to fill before I return to work. Sitting on my arse reading for all that time doesn't appeal.
I have a garden, but splashing about in cold, wet mud also doesnt thrill me much either. Exercise classes are all cancelled for the holidays. So my "hobbies" are dull or restricted at this time of year.

SnowdropSally · 27/12/2021 16:47

I love this week. Slow starts to the day, long mid morning bubble baths and reading my books/MN while I’m in there, long dog walks, daylight riding, afternoons on the couch catching up on Christmas tv, no rushing around. We went sledging yesterday and were hoping there would be decent snow for skiing but it doesn’t look likely this week.

Hugoslavia · 27/12/2021 16:46

I can't believe how many people like this time if the year! I love the idea of planning a garden. I usually plan and book my holidays as well and do online sale shopping to stock up on the kids clothes for the year ahead.

Hugoslavia · 27/12/2021 16:42

I loathe them too. Which is why I now take myself away to the coast to a hotel with a pool on the 27th. Have you got a local swimming pool you could go to? Any good books to curl up with? Any nice walks? It's so hard when the weather is so miserable. X

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 27/12/2021 16:34

Twixtmas is the best! A lie in every day, the house is already full of food so no need to go shopping, I can catch up on all the TV I've missed in term time while sitting around drinking tea wine and eating chocolates from the lovely children at school

itsgettingweird · 27/12/2021 16:32

Another loving the nothing to do!

This morning we dismantled ds old bed and it's gone to tip. Moved room around ready for his new one arriving later on in the week.
Another dump run tomorrow.

Doing some washing, pottering, ds back to swim training this morning and training 2-3 days a day all week - so that breaks up day (although it's mostly 7/8am starts!

We will pack everything away Friday and start the new year organised. Shopping for Saturday for last few bits for his bedroom.

Back to work/college and full swimming timetable next Tuesday. So will be disorganised mess again by wednesday HmmXmas Grin

Angel2702 · 27/12/2021 16:27

No it’s my favourite week of the year. Taken all the decorations down today ready for a deep clean. Staying up late reading and watching everything we recorded, no rushing around anywhere it’s bliss.

Hollyhead · 27/12/2021 16:26

Do you not read @dementedma? Or have any hobbies? I don’t understand how people don’t have interests ready to pursue!

HR313 · 27/12/2021 16:21

I agree. My OH has an old friend round and my 4.5 yr old is doing puzzles whilst her baby sister is sleeping in daddy’s arms. I’m shattered after Christmas/Boxing day and am now hiding in DD’s room for some ‘me’ time aka reading mumsnet in peace 🤣

BogRollBOGOF · 27/12/2021 16:21

We're only on the third day of Christmas Grin

Most people I know aren't working so we tend to pace the week with visiting family and quieter days... except I found myself in a PCR queue on Boxing Day so this one will manage to be even more boring than 2020!

dementedma · 27/12/2021 16:20

I hate these days with a passion and my mental health crashes every year, no matter what I do. All the fun leading up to Christmas is over, dont go back to work until Jan 5th( ie working from home which Im already sick of the sight of) and everyone is bored stiff. I force myself out for a miserable trudge in the rain but it doesnt use the day up.

MarleneDietrichsSmile · 27/12/2021 16:20

I get no joy from duvet days or doing nothing. Overeating rich food just gives me heartburn Grin

I am bored and can’t wait for my sports club to go back to normal.

I walked the dogs in the pissing rain and that was my activity for the day. Can’t even go for a swim as the pool is taken over by screaming kids (until school starts again)

I only really enjoy time off when other people work and have school GrinWink

Gosh I’m grumpy Blush

ballroompink · 27/12/2021 16:16

It makes me feel awful saying this but I find it really hard having young DCs during 'twixtmas'. The weather is often awful, I'm peopled out and just want to introvert for several days, DH who is autistic is usually quite burned out and just wants to hibernate, we have one DC who is also probably autistic and doesn't always cope well with the holidays and one very full on pre-schooler. Yesterday and today they have fought and whinged and annoyed each other. To beat the twixtmas slump we are going away for a few days later this week which I'm hoping will be more enjoyable.

crimsonlake · 27/12/2021 16:12

After a hectic few weeks of preparing for Christmas, constant things to do and buy for other people...thenn the big day itself...I am now elated that I can relax, watch tv, eat chocolates and rest.

FabriqueBelgique · 27/12/2021 16:11

@Summersnake

I’m totally lost ,and I don’t know what to do with myself,I want to nap ,but it’s 4 pm ,so I’m likely to sleep through till morning,I can never wake up after a nap if it’s dark I sware I have that SAD
Call it an early night and enjoy it! Now is the perfect time to break the rules Grin
Shebangshebong · 27/12/2021 16:09

For God's sake enjoy the fact you're not at work! Feet up, telly on, midday bubble bath, drink, read, go for a walk, go for a shop in the sales. I don't understand the whining.

FabriqueBelgique · 27/12/2021 16:08

@GoodMorningMillicent

I love this period. It’s still Christmas - good food, lots of TV, no work for me, and a chance to properly relax.

I start getting the dread on NYE, though. I’ve never liked it as a ‘celebration’ anyway, but it also signals going back to work soon and cold, grey January & February with not much to look forward to.

You’re right. We “celebrate the new year” but really NYE is the final binge before a sharp drop into normality and drudgery!

I feel like nothing happens in the first third of the year and I’m just waiting for Spring.

Thethreecs · 27/12/2021 16:06

These are usually my favourite days. We normally do theatre and family visits that we missed over the Christmas but all theatres closed with new regulations here, everyone we had planned to visit has covid, dhs job is down 30 people due to covid (their Christmas party). so he had to go back yesterday to try cover some shifts, I wouldn't mind but he minded himself really carefully so that he could be off work this week and catch up with lots

AshLane · 27/12/2021 16:04

These are my very favourite days. All of the dress and rush of Christmas done. My DC's always went to their dad's when they were little so this has always been 'me' time.

I've the fire on, a good book, some easy food and leftovers. I've enjoyed the radio and some films.
These are my 'get off the world' days.

VodselForDinner · 27/12/2021 16:00

I love them too. Sorry OP!

Off work and my office is closed so there won’t be a backlog of emails to catch up on when I go back in.

Lots of lovely lie-ins.

Happy to have unstructured meals.

Generally just slobbing around a bit.

It’s great.

Invasionofthegutsnatchers · 27/12/2021 15:57

I'm quite happy pottering around , especially as DH is about to take the DCs out to the park when they start whining. Today I've walked to the shop to buy cheese, made toasties, changed a bed, had a nap, tidied up a bit. Going to the theatre later.

Summersnake · 27/12/2021 15:57

I’m totally lost ,and I don’t know what to do with myself,I want to nap ,but it’s 4 pm ,so I’m likely to sleep through till morning,I can never wake up after a nap if it’s dark
I sware I have that SAD

FabriqueBelgique · 27/12/2021 15:56

@2reefsin30knots

I love them! Days when you can just completely do your own thing (if you are off work).

There is a novel called The Book of Dead Days suggesting they are "a strange, a quiet interlude, somehow outside the rest of the year, outside time itself."

Perfect!

Also - calories don’t count!

That’s my rule, anyway.

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