I just feel so pissed off! My partner went out last night after work to meet some family at a pub. Said he wouldn’t be too long. He has not bothered coming back. I found a message on my phone at 3:30 saying “fell asleep at moms”. This isn’t the first time this has happened. Every so often he’ll go out with family or friends and just not come back until the next day. Most of the time I don’t receive a message until the next day. I don’t begrudge him going out for a drink, and it’s not like he does this every weekend. It’s probably once a month or more likely less. My problem is with him staying out all night and not telling me where he is, that he’s ok or even that he’s not coming back. I have told him that I don’t mind him going and that all I want is to know what’s going on but it just keeps happening. I don’t know of any other men who would even dream of doing this to their partners! I feel like a doormat and like he has no respect for me. We have a 2 year old son and I just feel this is unacceptable behaviour for someone with a family waiting at home..
I’m not an argumentative person, I hate confrontation so I’m thinking perhaps I’ve been making too light of this?.. We’ve only got into a full fledged argument about it once and he got very defensive and didn’t think he’d done anything wrong. He does normally apologise the next day for not letting me know but I just don’t feel it’s good enough..
Is it just me? Am I being too harsh? Is this normal behaviour for a 40 year old man with a family?..