People who are very chatty, outgoing etc are usually seen as favourable and something to strive towards, I find. There are people who prefer quieter personalities but I feel like it’s in the minority.
I’m labelled as quiet/shy/reserved by virtually everybody, which is fine in itself but it’s often seen as something to have to improve and almost to cure.
My partner is fairly chatty and good at talking to people. I met an older female colleague of his the other week for literally a minute, and we made some very brief and insignificant small talk.
Apparently she then said to him, “She’s just so much quieter than you, you’re so different.”
I had seen her very briefly in passing, she hadn’t herself said anything of interest yet she apparently knows what I’m like.
I’ve had so many people refer to me behind my back as nervous. I do have a slightly nervous disposition but there’s nothing I can do about it, I try my best.
A male colleague has told me several times at work to ‘not be nervous’ despite me repeatedly telling him that I am not, and that I’m doing fine. Despite it surely coming from a good place, it’s just not helping me at all having it constantly commented on. I would never tell him to just stop being whatever.
I find that I’ve started to not bother trying to meet new people and just shut myself off from those I already know, it just seems easier.
I just feel picked on, constantly commented on and I hate being seen as having something wrong with me, what can I do ?