To not want my 19 year old moving to Canada alone?

Do your own research on the company PRIVATELY, and then get behind her 100%. Do tell her that if things go awry, you'll do everything in your power to assist, but you are expecting great things. Keeps lines of communication open. If you try to talk her out of it, there will be resentment, she will almost certainly do it anyway, and she might not be willing to tell you if something goes wrong.

When I was 19 and told my dad I'm moving abroad, the ONLY thing he said was 'where's the money coming from?'. That was literally it. He never asked, never offered any help, never got excited for me. Nothing. So I definitely recognise your dh's attitude. I'm 40 now and lived in a few different countries and visited many more. I was the only person to move away and I loved it.
Some of us just have the hunger for adventure and there's no way stopping it. My dad got used to it after some years and even flew to a different country by himself to attend my wedding. He'll come around..

Not sure if someone else has suggested this,( too many posts to nread but ask her to talk you and DH through her plans showing you on details , explain that you don't want to rain on her parade but obviously this is a lot for you both to take in and a lot different to your lives so if she gives you all the details it will be easier for you to be excited for her. Try and save some cash as a " get out of trouble " fund or even a trip over midway through her stay to put your minds at rest. Get familiar with face time of zoom so you can keep in contact.

I moved to NY when I was 19. Stayed with my cousin for a month then she threw me out so I was literally on my own. I’m pretty stubborn so I refused to go home. Ok I had tough moments, I found people took advantage of me when they realised I had no family, but I learned so much and became so independent it has stayed with me to this day.

We are parents from the minute we know we've conceived and no matter how old our children get we worry. My vet you g for her age 20yo daughter is leaving a week on Friday for around 2 years. I'm worried but supportive. I'm hoping it helps her grow, I think it will. I'm already planning my visits.....!

Wow what an opportunity! See the world with fresh young eyes, learn some independence, take a few knocks. She'll be ready for anything.
And if she wants to study later, she'll be streets ahead of the conveyor belt.
You'll miss each other but most likely end up closer.
Good luck and update is in a year or too.

I did something similar at the same age but to Mexico and back in those days there were no emails or mobile phones. It was such an amazing experience at that age and I'm so glad I did it. These days staying in touch is so much easier.

Canada is very civilised, ski resorts in Canada are much more respectable than in european places so it is a good choice.
If she has the confidence to go, it would be a great adventure; she will probably be heavily worked, of course, but she will come back professionally experienced and ready for responsibility.
As long as she always has the fare to leave and return home in a hurry if she really wants to, you should consider not spoiling her chance. Try and visit her out there if you can, when there is a lull in her duties.
I did BUNAC in the US and it was unforgettable and a real adventure when I was young. I did travel coast-to-coast by bus, and did get homesick sometimes, but really did not have any negative issues.

Your daughter has not dreamed up a hairbrained scheme - she's done her research and has a plan. Give her the support she deserves! As an adult she gets to make her own life and parents' role is to clap from the sidelines.

It sounds brilliant for her. Like you, I was pregnant at that age although in my first year at university, but I'd much rather my child was doing what yours is than being pregnant while doing a degree. Far less responsibility even though it might seem scary to you. Also she sounds really sensible. Having saving etc. is so mature at that age. You've obviously raised her so well for her to be able to plan for this and be so independent.

Both of my kids have been on courses abroad and worked abroad it has given them confidence and understanding of other cultures. We visited my son in Thailand when he was teaching English and throughly enjoyed it. The people he worked with were charming and interesting.

Hi op, my eldest daughter did a round the world trip on her own when she was 19, for similar reasons to yours. Mine is dyslexic and asthmatic and I was really scared for her. But she worked hard to afford it, got jobs on the way round and really enjoyed it. It did wonders for her confidence. I did make her take a written card with I am asthmatic and need a doctor on it in several languages to help me with my fears. ( she never needed it).
The only bit of this I’d be cautious about is the ski chalet work. She also did this in France, can’t remember the resort now. The young people are worked really very hard with little real care. Make sure she has medical insurance. Other than that my advice is to show a confident face to your daughter, so she can believe in her ability to get by the world on her own merit. Bloody well done to her for researching it etc…by all means talk through stuff and let her know it’s ok to come home if it does not work out for her. Go for it! Who knows what this world is going to be like in the future…get out there while she can!

Sounds great. I’m pretty envious.
I did Eurocamp for the summer when I was 18, Camp America again for the summer when I was 20, and Australia at 21, and ended up there for 18 months, then NZ for a year. All alone. I was fine - mostly.
Going through an agency will be pricier, but would give her some organisational back up. Sounds like she’s got it all planned. Be there for her, support her, encourage her - and be in the end of the phone about 4/5 months in, when the homesickness kicks in.

its called "crab bucket" My lovely Mil and her son, my husband got ostracised from her family for wanting to better themselves.

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My youngest went to India for 6 months aged 18..... She worked for a magazine in one city and for a newspaper in another city, then she worked in an orphanage. Was I worried? Not in particular - until she came back and told me about her very substandard (and dangerous!) accommodation! I did have concerns that she might get ill and we'd take for ever to get to her, but sometimes you have to grin, be encouraging and let our children get on with it. And if she was confident before she went away, she was drowning in confidence when she got back. But, and she'll never know this, I really missed her.....

Your daughter sounds amazing OP, I would be so proud of my kids if they had a plan like this, never mind put all the thought and research into it your DD has

Sounds fab. I went at 19 but only fir 8 months. Just check out that it’s all legit.

Both you and your daughter are amazing people - you because of your open-mindedness and the ability to look at things from her perpective, and she for all the careful thought and planning she put into it. It also takes a lot of guts to pull something like that off, especially if the attitudes like your husband's are prevalent in your community.

He'll just have to learn to live with it. Your DD is grown up, he can't dictate what to do with her life. I have a feeling that one of the reasons she needs the faraway adventure is the suffocating local atmosphere that you've described. Your husband's grumbling will only make her more determined to go away, not less.

I hope she has an awesome time there and puts her great skills to good use. I think a lot of "proud mum" moments are awaiting you. And Canada is a great country, I hope you'll get to go there!

Good luck!

Hi, look I think that as long as you do your research and check on the resort etc and you have the finances to get her home if she needs it, then let her go. I am now in my late 40s, and was a year younger than everyone else in my school year so I finished my a-levels at 17. I promptly up and left, travelled out to HK, got a job in hotels for a year, came back home to uni but only did 1.5 years of it before I decided I preferred working, went at 19 back out to Asia and had an incredible 15 year career doing something I absolutely adored, I loved being overseas, and I would recommend it to any young person that honestly has done the research and has some spare finance in case things dont work out.

I get that you are worried and will miss her beyond belief, but she'll learn so much about herself and about life having this kind of adventure. Who knows where life will take her and consequently take you! How exciting, I wish her all the best!

Please don’t stop her from going! It is real and it is an amazing opportunity to make new friends and connections across the globe. My dad stopped me from going at that age and I regret not going anyway.

Sounds amazing - I wish I had done something like that and hope my kids do. Agree with PP - would much rather they spent their 20s having experiences like this than having babies!!

I went to Hong Kong at 18. Best thing I ever did. I would be far more concerned if she was pregnant living 5 mins down the road

I did exactly this when I was 18. Best decision of my life. She will love it - don’t let her miss this. Get a holiday booked to see her after she’s been there 6 months.
PM me if you want, I’m now old and have my own kids but can 100% give advice from both sides xxx

My little brother sounds very much like your daughter. He went to Australia with bunac and honestly it was the making of him. He had the best time and made lifelong friends and experienced things he would never have done at home. I can understand why you would have concerns but she is also an adult and she will leave one day. Support her and once she's settled book a holiday to go see her. My parents came back so happy seeing him thriving in a new environment.

ooooh… i would be scared shitless to. i know we have to start letting go, but round the corner to start with would suit me best. especially at that age. this hard for you because if you oppose and she still goes ahead with the trip she may not feel comfortable calling on you fir help while she there as she may feel that it would be the ‘ i told you so’. so you need to know that should she go ahead she knows that you will always be there with help support etc. good luck