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to be annoyed at the text my older Sister just set me re; Christmas presents?

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ATortIsForLifeNotJustChristmas · 28/11/2007 17:24

Basically said don't bother to buy xxx (My nephew) a present. Spend it on yours (meaning my 4 dc) and say its from me (herself!)
And on the end- thanks for xxx birthday present, you didn't have to.

Well i am annoyed! For a start i know i didnt have to give DN some money for his Birthday. I did it becaus i wanted to!

And why should i buy something nice for my DC and sayits from her?

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Heifer · 28/11/2007 17:45

Could it be that she doesn't think that she should have to buy 4 presents when you only have to buy 1?

I hated when one of my brothers stated that we shouldn't buy for each other any more (this was a few years ago) but I liked buying for my brothers!

Now we just buy for the children, and one of my brothers do have 4 children and myself and other brother only has 1 but the 4 are individuals and should not be lumped together..

So yes I have to pay more for brothers children then he does for mine - but so what, I am sure that we have around the same budget for each child and after all does they are ALL my nepwhes so it doesn;t matter at all that 4 happen to belong to 1 brother..

So after all this waffle

YANBU, I would talk to her and say that you like buying her DS a present and that your DC look forward to getting from your their auntie....

Swedes2Turnips1 · 28/11/2007 17:45

Christmas gets out of hand for lots of people. I want to to set the rule (for the world) that everyone has to buy their present from a charity shop or source and not spend more than £5. It would make it more fun and the giving part would not be lost. I don't want to sound ungrateful but as a family we receive a lot of crap that is neither appreciated (not really although all our thank you letter would not betray this fact ) nor wanted. It is a huge waste of the earth's resources, money, time etc. I might stand at the next election on the max £5 charity shop christmas present manifesto.

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ATortIsForLifeNotJustChristmas · 28/11/2007 17:43

Flier- That sounds good. I might just put that.
I do enjoy looking for gifts for family. It only her and my Brother near me so its nice to swap gifts but im not bothered if she cant be bothered with mine! They will get plenty from me!

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Flier · 28/11/2007 17:39

If you feel that you still want to give a pressie to your nephew, then I think you should text her back saying so,along the lines of "got your text. sorry, but i really feel strongly that christmas is for the children and I still really want to get something for your ds. I understand, though, if you feel that buying something for my 4 is too much expense or hassle"

HairyIrene · 28/11/2007 17:35

thought the same as maidamess
it does though make it easier for you both doesnt it?..

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ATortIsForLifeNotJustChristmas · 28/11/2007 17:34

totally agree fiofio.

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FioFio · 28/11/2007 17:33

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ATortIsForLifeNotJustChristmas · 28/11/2007 17:31

maidamess- I don't particually get on with my Sister. I know she is only thinking of herself on this one.

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ATortIsForLifeNotJustChristmas · 28/11/2007 17:30

laurie- can't be bother i am sure! I know they have money. Last year mine got a choc snowman and she asked for a dvd for xxx!!

Good idea bubbla. I dont expect her to buy for mine if she doesn't want to!

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Maidamess · 28/11/2007 17:28

Also, if you want to, get your 4 something really little...and say its from her. That might make you feel better!

TellusMater · 28/11/2007 17:28

Oooh - these things should never be done by text.

Phone her up and talk to her. See what it's all about.

NAB3littlemonkeys · 28/11/2007 17:27

Best you ring and ask her what she means.

Maidamess · 28/11/2007 17:27

Sorry, but I think YABU!

She seems to want to make life easier by you buying for your kids, something you know they would like. Rather than telling her, she's got to find it, get it to you etc etc.

Also, 'you didn't have to' is just a turn of phrase! Its not literal! I get the impression you don't like your SIL much....well, I can relate to that, but I don't think she is being a pain now, sorry.

Lauriefairycake · 28/11/2007 17:27

then don't. Guessing the underlying subtext in the message is either she can't afford it/can't be bothered to buy for yours.

Either likely ??

YANBU

SleeplessInTheStaceym11House · 28/11/2007 17:26

the bit about the bday present owuldnt bother me, but the xmas bit would.

i can understand dont get mine a present, but get yours one and say its from me?

what so i spend for 4 kids (your own) instead of 1 (your sisters) and she spends on 1 instead of 4?!?!

bubblagirl · 28/11/2007 17:26

just say ive already got his present im afraid so you will have to choose present your self for my dc