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Lovely day, neighbours playing music in garden

315 replies

WilsonMilson · 30/05/2021 12:15

Live in a detached house, so it’s not as though we have anyone too close, and reasonable sized gardens, but we do have other houses around us, so don’t expect silence.

Neighbours over the back are in their garden as it’s a lovely day, fair enough so are we, but they have also got their music playing. Loudly.

Aibu to think it’s the height of rudeness to have music blaring in the garden knowing full well others around can hear it too? It’s Christian easy listening type of music.

Tempted to put a bit of Motörhead on the Sonos, but that would be a bit passive aggressive. So I’m just stewing in silence and posting here instead - it’s certainly not making me feel very Christian!!

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MaMelon · 31/05/2021 10:11

Presumably she doesn’t practise outside for hours on end when people are trying to have a quiet afternoon in the garden?

Motherof3dogs · 31/05/2021 10:07

Dh listens to radio 2 constantly in the garden when working or relaxing, Its not loud and we only have 2 sets of neighbours as it's rural. I hope they don't think we're the neighbours from hell!

motogogo · 31/05/2021 10:01

You should all be glad you aren't my poor neighbours ... dd has an audition soon and is practicing a lot, she's very loud (but very good thankfully) I hope they love operaGrin

Rosebel · 31/05/2021 10:00

Yes it's annoying and I'd probably put music on too. People behind us have been cutting their grass for an hour now and that's irratating too (especially as they only have a small garden so don't know how it's taken an hour).
Thankfully we're going ou in a minute.

motogogo · 31/05/2021 09:59

@BadgeronaMoped

That made me smile! Dp had music on when he was fixing his motorbike Saturday and next door but ones toddler was dancing (he always wants to come and see the bikes)

cushioncovers · 31/05/2021 09:59

Nothing wrong with music but not all day long.

motogogo · 31/05/2021 09:56

What's wrong with playing music outside? As long as it's not all day or late (after 11) at night

TheBullfinch · 31/05/2021 09:43

It’s extremely rude and akin to anti-social behaviour in my book.

Those who do it leave others around them with no option but to listen, if they play it loudly. Very selfish.

If you want music, play it quietly, indoors or on earphones.

I feel the same way about people shouting, darks barking, incessant drilling or banging, singing or engine revving. There’s just no need to subject other people to your noise. Some people seem oblivious though or think it’s perfectly normal. It’s not.

user1471538283 · 31/05/2021 09:41

The thing is if you live close to people you need to be more considerate not less. It is not for those not playing loud music to be more tolerate.

People know they are being noisy. They also hate having it pointed out and hate other peoples noise.

You cannot underestimate the impact this has on people and we are still in the middle of a pandemic.

gurglebelly · 31/05/2021 09:30

I wouldn't expect anyone to wear headphones while listening to music in their garden, but it is perfectly possible to have it at a volume where you can hear it but it doesn't intrude too much on the neighbours. Unfortunately a lot of the 'it's my garden I can do what I want' brigade are incapable of listening to their music at anything less than full volume

CandyLeBonBon · 31/05/2021 08:48

Hah yesterday we had the neighbour's loud music, screaming (and I mean high pitched, constant screaming at each other in anger type of screaming, not the ebb and flow of play kind of screaming) and dog who barks CONSTANTLY every time I am in my garden.

It was joyful.Confused

This is why I wine! 😭😂

Pottedpalm · 31/05/2021 08:47

@Auldspinster

I remember when I lived in a tenement near Edinburgh University and about 30 students were having a sing song with a guitar in the shared drying green - quick blast of Sonic Youth at their most dissonant out of my window sorted out the singing studes in no time and peace was restored.
I quite like the idea of the singing students, as long as it was at a reasonable hour!
Tossblanket · 31/05/2021 08:36

I'd go with the motorhead option as they're awesome.

If you hate them give them a dose of Pitchshifter 👍🏻

KarmaStar · 31/05/2021 08:35

They are insufferable idiots who play loud music not giving a flying fcuk if anyone else wants to quietly enjoy their garden after a difficult week,or on night shifts,have young children sleeping.or just want to be.none of these things irritate anyone else but entitled egos who think they can do what they want in their garden.well they can,but when it stops other people doing what they want because they are intruding,then it's no,don't be a selfish fool.Yanbu at all.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 31/05/2021 08:35

We should start having loud sex in our gardens😁

I mean, it's our garden, during the day, so we have a right to do whatever. Innit.

OverTheRubicon · 31/05/2021 08:24

@fearfulfran because music really carries. You are making multiple neighbours listen to music they didn't choose, and it's ongoing and regular, in a way that even construction or child noise or dogs aren't. How would you feel if your new neighbours felt the same about playing their Black Sabbath or grime or just singing loudly outdoors on a sunny day?

Their quiet doesn't disturb you at all. If you want to listen to music regularly in your garden, than the neighbourly thing is absolutely to use headphones or move somewhere with fewer neighbours.

MaMelon · 31/05/2021 07:34

*Headphones while you’re listening to music

MaMelon · 31/05/2021 07:33

Because frearful if everyone decided to play music in their garden, or rev their car whil they’re tinkering with the car, or let their kids scream endlessly or let their dog bark for hours without telling it to be quiet or bring it in just because they could the neighbourhood would be a really unpleasant environment to live in. People who inflict their noise on others generally expect others not to do it to them so they can hear their perfectly curated choice of music otherwise they wouldn’t be able to hear it over the din of everyone else’s perfectly curated choice of music. Just wear headphones ffs.

fearfulfran · 31/05/2021 07:03

@StoneofDestiny

How is it rude & offensive to play music in your own garden?. I was lucky enough to buy a house with a garden & I will bloody well use it. I will play some music, my kids will have nerf wars out there & camp out with their friends. I will have friends over for drunken bbq's, hell I might even get a hot tub this year. All of that is OK because it's MY garden

Moronic behaviour. Everybody has the right to enjoy their garden - that means decent people need to keep the noise and music within their own boundary - not inflict it on others. So, if you want to listen to music, wear headphones. If you want drunken louts yelling through the night, keep the, in your house. Having a garden doesn't give you the right to annoy everybody else in the neighbourhood.

Exactly - EVERYONE has the right to enjoy their garden. For some thats with music for some it's without. Why can't the two live together and get their way sometimes? It doesn't have to be all or nothing either way. All the "I deserve to be able to enjoy my garden in silence and anyone who disagrees is an inconsiderate twat" brigade REALLY can't see how hypocritical is it to expect things their way or the highway? Really? Why do your needs trump all else?

Unbelievable.

Nanny0gg · 31/05/2021 07:03

@Crazycakelady17

Oops DH is outside with his friend laying a new patio with music playing I don’t think it’s rude it’s just as annoying as our local church bells chiming every hour of the local school kids playing out we have two within 100 metres Put some headphones in or go inside
It's not the same at all.

For a start, the church and school were there before you moved in.

And music as such is not a problem. It's the volume

Nanny0gg · 31/05/2021 07:00

@Imapotato

I think during the day people can do what they want in their gardens. It’s only really annoying if very late at night and it’s keeping people awake.

If you feel you want to put on your own music, go ahead, it’s your garden.

Yes, because if everyone did that...

Why can't people be considerate?

JesusIsAnyNameFree · 31/05/2021 06:56

How is it rude & offensive to play music in your own garden?. I was lucky enough to buy a house with a garden & I will bloody well use it. I will play some music, my kids will have nerf wars out there & camp out with their friends. I will have friends over for drunken bbq's, hell I might even get a hot tub this year. All of that is OK because it's MY garden

You really don't understand how it's rude? You are taking away the enjoyment of other peoples gardens with your SHITTY music.
The people around you were also lucky enough to buy a house with a garden but massively unlucky to have a selfish prick for a neighbour, i.e YOU.

It is not OK because it's YOUR garden if your horrific choice of music spills into THEIR garden. Is it fine for me to pile my garden high with horse shit because it's MY garden? It would whiff over to your Garden of Hell, but surely that's okay as the shit is just in my garden? I was lucky enough to buy a house with a garden, I will keep 6 tonnes of actual shit in it if I want, thank you very much.

JesusIsAnyNameFree · 31/05/2021 06:46

@Notimeforaname

Had a great time in my garden yesterday listening to my neighbour blasting the Beatles. He's making a habit of it recently as his wife just died. He gets out to the garden every day and puts on her favourite musicSmile I dont find it rude. People are enjoying themselves. Ive heard him and other neighbours sing along to my garden music at times.
Well of course you don't find it rude, you are very much the fucking problem.
Gothichouse40 · 31/05/2021 01:36

Sinkgirl, Im the same. Three different types of music. Also the never ending bloody barking of their dogs. My immediate neighbour, their dog barks at every mortal thing, even when there is nothing there. I would ban music in gardens, it is selfish and inconsiderate. What makes people think you want to listen to their music?

StoneofDestiny · 31/05/2021 01:16

How is it rude & offensive to play music in your own garden?. I was lucky enough to buy a house with a garden & I will bloody well use it. I will play some music, my kids will have nerf wars out there & camp out with their friends. I will have friends over for drunken bbq's, hell I might even get a hot tub this year. All of that is OK because it's MY garden

Moronic behaviour. Everybody has the right to enjoy their garden - that means decent people need to keep the noise and music within their own boundary - not inflict it on others. So, if you want to listen to music, wear headphones. If you want drunken louts yelling through the night, keep the, in your house. Having a garden doesn't give you the right to annoy everybody else in the neighbourhood.