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Brother in law’s new partner after sisters death

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germinal · 04/04/2021 05:55

My sister died less than 9 months ago. My brother in law has a new partner who he has been seeing for at least 4 months. My nieces and nephews (his kids) know her now, she stays over. She’s the opposite of my sister but she shares her first name. I can’t stop crying

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joystir59 · 04/04/2021 06:19

My bil was in a new relationship six months after my sister's death. She was ill for a long time before she died and they both had such an awful time of it. She had told him to go and find happiness with someone new, that he'd be rubbish on his own. He really loved my sister but he chose to get on with his life and I don't blame him.

Wriggleout · 04/04/2021 06:14

Please don't fall out with him over this. It's not an insult to the memory of your sister. He might have been feeling completely lost. For some, ithe easiest to cope is to move straight into a new relationship as they feel best in a partnership

CateTown · 04/04/2021 06:04

Losing your sister must be unbearably painful. Some people just cannot bear to be alone, could your BiL be one if them? Or could it be that he was lucky enough to meet someone who brings him joy amongst all the loss and pain and the timing was (understandably) bad for you?

MinesAPintOfTea · 04/04/2021 06:01

Would it comfort you to hear that most widowers who get into a new relationship after their wife's death, do so because they had had a happy marriage? It's the unhappy ones who don't look for someone new.

And sorry for your loss Flowers