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To think too many neighbours are utterly selfish?

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everyleafy · 26/03/2021 17:18

I moved house last year in the hope of finding some peace. My old neighbour had a surround sound system in a small semi and it used to drive me mental listening to the bass on it. Then there was the constant shouting at his family.

Moved to a new semi (would dearly love a detached but I can't afford it) and have a different set of problems. There's another shouty man, a barking dog and they play loud music every weekend. They know the walls are thin, but obviously don't care and just want to do what they want.

On my walks I've noticed a fair few people blaring their music from their houses and I always feel so sorry for their neighbours.

I wonder what things were like in the past, did people used to blare out their wirelesses? I doubt it, I think people are getting more and more selfish.

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HugeAckmansWife · 26/03/2021 17:43

Music volume is subjective though isn't it.. Your 'blaring' might be perfectly reasonable to someone else. If you live alone you likely do have a sort of base level of very quiet so you notice every little thing. I don't think it's reasonable to expect to live in close proximity to other people and never ever be impacted by their presence. If is that impossible for you, you'd have to relocate to a cheaper area where you could afford a place on its own.

Midlifephoenix · 26/03/2021 17:43

No people have always been selfish (or really just oblivious).

EggysMom · 26/03/2021 17:41

Define "in the past ..."
I have distinct memories of the teenage lad who lived next door, blaring his music out at all hours of the night, much to my parents' annoyance. That was in the mid 1980s.

dotdashdashdash · 26/03/2021 17:38

I kind of get what you're saying, but on the other hand, people also have to live their life.

We're semidetached but our non-detached neighbour has dogs and we can still hear them (yes, from their house to ours). I dislike music in gardens, whether ours or other peoples, I prefer to listen to the birds and over head planes etc, but everyone is different and whilst their music reduces my enjoyment, the lack of it reduces theirs. If you can't talk in a normal volume because of neighbour music that's a different thing, as I playing it late at night or early in the morning. Anything that falls outside of "antisocial noise" though, is just personal preference.

I'm a quiet person and I prefer silence to music or background noise, but I appreciate everyone is different.