To still be upset about mum bullies?

How would spillage occur when they're individual bags?

I can't believe I'm elaborating on this but the crisps could have been taken out of the bags and plated up with cling film over the top couldn't they. At least this way the packets can be opened and placed on the supplied plates instead of staff rooting around for something to put them on. Op didn't know how the party food would be served did she, so this was very thoughtful.

It doesn't matter though does it, yes op could have tried to make light of it but there are some pretty nasty vile people about...like the foul mouthed women who spoke to op. in the playground.

Argh now I really want salt and vinegar hula hoops. Bloody pregnancy cravings!!

It's things like this that make me glad my dc's are at secondary school and I don't have to put up with playground mum's and bloody class parties any longer. My dd gets the bus to school so I never ever have to see any of my dd's friends parents

Went to Sainsbury's Op. Saw these and thought of you!

@Cherrysherbet
I’m glad someone said it.
With bells on.

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This thread just shows why some kids in school think that it’s ok to be unkind.

The pack mentally is rife in schools....and it’s not just the kids.

So many grown women trying to justify why it’s ok to laugh at someone, to swear at someone and to bully someone. IT’S NOT OK.

I don’t care what you think about crisps on a tray FFS. That’s NOT the point. Who cares? NO ONE SHOULD CARE!!

The point is that this lady was verbally attacked in the playground, then mocked and ridiculed for months afterwards over NOTHING....to the point where she is still worrying about it two years later.

How can anyone defend that behaviour......or even think it’s about fucking hula hoops?????

If anyone reading this thinks what this group of mums did was ok.....then you need to take a look at how you might be making people feel. BE KIND.

@hassletassle she didn't take them out of the bags.

I definitely would've decanted them.

Individual bags makes zero sense for a class party. And after decanting them I would've thought "oh shit, what if they go soft or or fall off the plate/bowl" so I would've put something over it.

Ignore the haters op! Bunch of cunts.

Exactly. Context is so important. One person's "banter" is another's bullying.

I am not bitchy but this did make me laugh a bit. Not that you are upset obviously, but that woman shouting about being fed up with school snobs is quite funny because it is OTT to use a plate and cling film and not just bring the multi pack. She had probably reached the end of her tether after a lot of similar things were people try too hard to make a good impression or have way too much time on their hands. It is a bit mean that they kept laughing about it but it obviously became an in joke that you could have laughed along with. I often laugh at myself when people point out I have done something weird. It is actually a bit of a bonding thing if you join in yourself. But try not to dwell on it. It is quite a minor thing to blow out of proportion.

A lot depends on your relationship pre Hula-Hoopgate. One person's joshing is bullying to another. I don't think they were 'cunts' to joke about it if they thought you were in on the joke or weren't offended by it. I personally don't like making jokes at other people's expense, but have had some made at mine and whether I've been offended depends largely on whether I think I've done something silly and/or my relationship with the people.

The cling film is there to keep the crisps fresh in between the food being plated and kids eating it. Seems totally obvious to me

Yeah I just almost posted the same, you beat me to it

Not really, since tinsel on a cactus serves no practical purpose, whereas cling film stops things slipping off. Presumably this plate travelled in a car.

I also don't get it, why is carrying a plate of crisp packets covered with cling film funny The cling film was presumably to stop the crisp packets from falling on the floor as the plate was carried. It is odd in my opinion to find this so hilarious 2 years on.

Missing the point, but if you bring hula hoops still in the large bags, do you just scatter them randomly on the table or find a plate in the village hall (or whatever) cupboard? But if you kindly bring them on a plate from home, they'd slip off, hence cling film. It all feels very non-hilarious tbh.

I think the posters who haven't witnessed mums screaming in the playground have been lucky/sheltered. I have witnesses several doing so at my kids' school (not at me) and it's a large village, not a city.

I also find it weird that the awful woman's benchmark of "snobby" is Hula Hoops on a party plate. I mean, it's hardly caviar on gold plates ffs. Can you imagine what her definition of "common" is, if that's snobby?

You know, probably it's one of those things that has passed into their conversation and no one remembers actually where it came from except the OP.
Like "Cancel the cheque" or "are you on glue?" on here-I can remember where they came from but not who said it.
And my family has expressions we use that mean something to us "my aunt's a catholic too" means the speaker is going off topic or saying something irrelevant to the matter in hand. I have no idea how that actually came into the general usage in my family.

I suspect that the group is using it as a similar in joke and has no idea that the Op feels upset by it.

Two choices for the OP, tell them they're feeling got at when they use it and ask them to avoid using it. They may well apologise and move on, but if they've forgotten where it came from it could be awkward.
Or run with it, make the jokes too, turn up with every individual crisp double wrapped, and grin with them. if they're trying to be nasty, then the joke will run out quickly, if they're not, then they can laugh with the Op rather than at her.

I'd do the latter.