To still be upset about mum bullies?

I think the woman that shouted was projecting her own insecurities onto you. It was more about her than you.
I can see the logic with the plates, so the children can help themselves to a few. I don't understand why the other mums think it's so funny. It's not. However, they probably don't realise how much it upsets you. I think you might be being a little sensitive though. Sorry!

I'm from a tough working class background and have grown up with this kind of mindless crap all my life, still see it now from some of my neighbours. Nothing to talk about but other people, no culture, no current affairs talk, not even a chat about the weather, just bitch and whine.

This is really interesting, puts things clearly.
I did voluntary work supporting people and the spiteful things done ( reporting someone to sw) , constant fall outs, envy, criticism of everyone else etc was exhausting. Hadn't twigged it was lack of culture or interests in anything else in their lives.

Also I think every school has a "the other mums are out to get me" parent like screamy lady.

We had one mum in my son's class kicking off on WhatsApp last lockdown because some of the symbols next to the children's names on Seesaw were their actual pictures and some were just clip art animals. She said it was favouritism that some had pictures on them, thinking the teacher assigned the picture/animal. A few people kindly pointed out that you can upload a picture yourself to replace the wee animal on your child's profile. Did she listen? Did she fuck. Ranted on about how it was "still favouritism". Best thing to do is laugh inwardly at them and avoid them like the plague in the playground

TBF I would100% take the piss out of a friend who cling filmed packets of crisps I'd say it once and move on though. It's not NEARLY amusing enough to be a long standing joke

Who cares what school mums say?! Surely you just drop off the child and leave?! Why get involved. It's very sensitive over a whole load of nothing.

It's possible the ringleader bully feels a bit intimidated by your thoughtful plates etiquette. She sounds like a bit of a thicko, with her puerile and inane group "banter", and the others might be scared of her but intrigued by you in comparison. You could be a threat to her bully group dynamics and control and she senses it

I'm from a tough working class background and have grown up with this kind of mindless crap all my life, still see it now from some of my neighbours. Nothing to talk about but other people, no culture, no current affairs talk, not even a chat about the weather, just bitch and whine. Don't rise to it but don't back down either. Be polite but distant, they sound like massive conversation bores anyway

They sound tiresome but it was 2 years ago OP, you really need to let it go now. I think theres 2 ways of dealing with people like them, either laugh along with them, or just ignore them and get on with your life. I would favour ignoring the idiots.

The first woman was bang out of order

The others.... they should have realised that you weren't finding it funny and dropped it. This is the kind of thing I'd joke about with friends, but only if they joked back.

The most hilarious thing about this thread is the number of posters who seem convinced that the OP took the crisps out of their packets!

@Cam2020

Oh of course... I understand all of that in terms of where this type of mindset stems from. I'm more trying to get my head around the utter lack of self-control one must have to respond to that by shouting that sort of obscenity in a child's school playground? It's just a level of crazy, angry behaviour I've only come across in my work with offenders in prisons. Not mums in playgrounds.

*I'm trying my best to imagine what type of person you have to be, and how insanely angry, when your child saying "mum, my friend says the crisps are supposed to be on a plate" prompts the response: "sick of the snobby cunts here, get to private school!”

I mean. Why? How...?

Surely: "oh that's ok darling, they'll be fine in the bags - your friend's mum has just done something different, which is fine", or similar, might have sufficed?

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Lucky you if you don't know the answer to that! It's clearly not a normal reaction but there were a couple of children at senior school I can think of whose parents behaved similarly. Some people are massive inverted snobs and feel that everyone who is not like them and everything that is different to them is a personal slight to them. Usually stemmed by poor education/opportunities and/or a trauamtic childhood which they then hand down to their own children.

I'm trying my best to imagine what type of person you have to be, and how insanely angry, when your child saying "mum, my friend says the crisps are supposed to be on a plate" prompts the response: "sick of the snobby cunts here, get to private school!”

I mean. Why? How...?

Surely: "oh that's ok darling, they'll be fine in the bags - your friend's mum has just done something different, which is fine", or similar, might have sufficed?

It’s a class party. We leave them in bags and tell children roughly how many to take ( one bag , a cake etc.). Do people really thing it’s the done thing to have a big bowl with 30 children diving in?
It’s not elegant to have individual bags but it works in a classroom. I would have been very happy to receive that tray of bags of hula hoops ready to put out.
Even if not, it wouldn’t have been given a second thought.

This is bonkers. I don't think either form of crisp presentation would have registered with me.

Me neither. It would be as much of a non-issue as a leaf blowing in the wind across the playground.

Bunch of saddos..mums of under 10 year olds( joke btw).

Bit odd that they found it so funny they still talk about it. Surely they have more interesting lives.

This is bonkers. I don't think either form of crisp presentation would have registered with me. Considering in the UK we present oranges covered in tin foil with cheese and pineapple protruding on sticks- I call crisps on a party plate a non-issue!

It might have been 'strange' but was it necessary to even comment in it...NO!

Most normal people would not have cared howyou presented crisps unless they were v bored/ unfulfilled.

So many people don't seem to understand the hula hoops were still in their individual bags which kind of shows it's rather a strange thing to do.

So many grown women trying to justify why it’s ok to laugh at someone, to swear at someone and to bully someone. IT’S NOT OK.

I don't think one person has said the initial women was OK to swear. The two things are getting all muddled up. OP did something a little daft. If I'd done it my friends would have ribbed me too.

It's only the initial women who needs told.

Try to laugh it off. If you can't, pretend you have.

I honestly can't see the problem op.

Do people think that it's ok for for the little packets to be scattered about the table?

Class party food should be sent in so that teachers just unveil and serve. I would not expect the teacher to bring in dozens of serving dishes themselves, or to fuss about arranging food.

When I started to read your post I assumed all the bully mums had whipped up handmade layer cakes and sushi platters, and were going to mock your crisps-under-plastic-wrap efforts.

A very odd bunch.

I can't believe I'm elaborating on this but the crisps could have been taken out of the bags and plated up with cling film over the top couldn't they. At least this way the packets can be opened and placed on the supplied plates instead of staff rooting around for something to put them on. Op didn't know how the party food would be served did she, so this was very thoughtful.

Me neither, and not to detract from OP's feelings and, what happened since, but the party was not a surprise to the teachers, nor the items that were being brought in since they asked for them, so there shouldn't be any rooting around anyway? Or OP could have just brought some party plates too without unpacking the crisp bags?