To still be upset about mum bullies?

How very odd. I can understand one or two comments but to still be banging on about it much later is really rather scraping the bottom of the barrel isn't it. That said, you must have been used to a bit of this nonsense over the years if the kids are now nearing secondary school?

@CagneyNYPD omg yeeeeeessssssss a hula hoop pyramid. Multiple tiers of hula hoop plates. Tell them you'll bring your specialty.

I know I'm howling grin who eats crisps with cutlery?

someone who never got taught basic table manners

Who would serve crisps for diner anyway? That poster is having a laugh!

No it really doesn't. Food goes on plates. Clingfilm goes on top to hold it on said plates. You might eat directly off the floor but most people don't. If you want to shit your own life down fo so but being able to eat properly at a table with multiple pieces of cutlery when needed is a skill your dc will need if they want to go anywhere decent

Wtf

It is all a bit strange. But, I would recommend doing one thing. If there is an end of year party, you must make an elaborate hula hoop bag mountain. On a party platter. Complete with little decorative items.

Erm... wrong thread somehow

I would take it as warm hearted laughter and an in joke. It means I have to give them less head space, and if they are being twats that is their issue and not mine.

Tbh, I probably would have gently teased for this, if I thought we were friends - if not, I would have ignored it. I would have seen it as a lovely, if not slightly old fashioned, affectation to be so thoughtful as to think how the kids could share.

The shouting woman is separate, she obviously has other stuff going on if a paper plate and some cling film causes such an outburst. And possibly as she hasn't thought beyond bringing crisps, has a lot in her plate or a self absorbed view of the world. She's insecure, is not your problem, ignore her, it wasn't personal etc.

As for leaving from the WhatsApp groups, you were maybe a bit sensitive. Very few people are total arseholes...

I would have done the same re plates so all children could share.

Re the other mums, it’s highly likely they are followers/wary of shouty mouth mum so of course all laugh when she does and all see it as odd if she does!!! I’d ignore and I would most def not go to any gathering where said group of sheep with shouty mouth leader were in attendance!

You did nothing wrong but unfortunately bullies live to pick on people. Move on and thank God that you don’t have to laugh/smile/agree with shouty mum as part of this group anymore :) you’re free xxx

They sound awful OP, don’t blame you at all for how you feel.

Anyone who cares about party plates is to be pitied. It's not normal.

You are just unlucky OP.

An adult woman ‘flung her head back and screamed’? How massively odd. Does she have mental health issues? Or are you ‘misremembering’?

God, yes, the primary school Mum bullies.

It get a lot better in secondary. Hang on in there.

Those bullies actually feel at a loss when they no longer have anyone to bully. I see them sadly meeting up and wonder who they are bitching about these days and how they are managing to exclude others without the school gates/playgrounds to hang out in.

Honestly do these mum women do anything else during the day?! Who has the time to give a shit about chips on a plate FFS! They sounds like absolute losers. I wouldn’t ignore them, I would tell them that they are boring losers.

The irony is you wouldn't get away with that at private school either. It would be all, "excess plastic, oh my gosh".

My advice, avoid idiots. I adopted one mum on the first day who takes no shit and hates most people. We've adopted a few mums who don't fit in or people don't talk to. Now we're the cool clique. Which is odd considering no one wanted to talk to us initially!

I guess the thing is, you told your friend separately to the woman shouting at you. So you had just had an awful traumatic experience, but your friend didn't see the aggression and just heard 'I put a packet of crisps on a plate with cling film on top and got called out for being snobby' and the image it creates is quite funny. Its the kind of thing I could imagine teasing a friend about.

BUT, not if it upset them. I think the problem is tone - its possible that not all of those mums understand the backstory, or that its unwelcome, and think its like an in-joke. Or maybe they really all are terrible. Nothing you could have done would have justified the screaming and swearing, and I guess only you can tell if the other mothers were all piling on or if it was meant in good humour with some of them.

I think it might have been better. to let some know you didn't find it funny than leaving the WhatsApp group, or to just mute it. But its a real shame its causing such stress.

They must be sorely lacking in any other entertainment if they think that’s funny. It wouldn’t even have registered with me. I realize it’s easy to say, and not so easy to do, but honestly: ignore them. Mute the group, and don’t engage. You don’t need the approval of these people.

I think it was really nice of you to make the extra effort for it to look nice and party like for the children. Those women sound like idiots tbh if they banged on about it for so long- clearly nothing better to do or think of.

Blimey,

I would be petrified I chose the wrong school for my kids and would be very worried he's have to stuck with people like that.

Rise above. They are insane. It so doesn't matter either way

You must have fallen onto the worst possible bunch of reverse snobs with a massive chip on their shoulder, it makes absolutely no sense. Who the heck can care and be still on it 25 seconds after seeing the plate.

That's just me, but I would go completely over the top for the next party, buying some gold and silver party bowls or something and laugh at the laziness of the others. They truly are insane.

I'm afraid you will always be known now as the partyplate woman.

You tried to make things look nice for the party - I get it.

They have nothing better in their lives to worry about than crisps?! That says more about them than you OP

It was strange to do a partyplate (word of the day for me) and clingfilm since somebody probably had plates as their contribution. However it's not as weird as the mums teasing you over it.

I would have just laughed it off at the time ‘yeah, i’m a bit extra sorry!’ And they would have forgotten about it.

The other mum sounds vile though.

Nasty cows, I wouldn't want to be friends with any of them.
If I did similar my friends would celebrate the extra effort I had made and I would glory in their praise. Like real friends should.
I'm sorry it's stayed with you all this time. You sound much nicer then them anyway.