To still be upset about mum bullies?

Honestly I thought you’d emptied the actual individual packets out hence the cling film, I didn’t realise you’d actually removed the packets from the main bag and then cling filmed the unopened packets onto a plate. 😃

I get why you’re upset, you’re likely embarrassed by it, and it’s the sort of thing folks do find amusing when someone does something weird, but they need to let it go now. Could you maybe explain to one of the tamer ones you’re a bit embarrassed and want the comments to stop? The one who screamed should obviously be more embarrassed.

As else said, let it go, and try to shrug it off when they make jokes about cling filming packets of crisps

I don’t recognise this breed of school mum - maybe I’ve been lucky. I think your main mistake was not putting the crisps on the plate but leaving the WhatsApp group and maybe being a bit sensitive about it. The best way of dealing with teasing is to give it right back. “ ordinarily I like my hoola hoops on a silver platter” or “ I’m only shopping at Waitrose because Fortnums were out of stock”.... the actual words are less relevant than the tone. People are much less likely to carry on with a tedious joke like this if they think you’re not bothered.

How is calling OP a snobby Cunt NOT aggressive and bullying in nature? Come on now

I bloody hate this... I've been through primary school twice now.,, I avoid them all

I've made a few lovely friends along the way ... but you need a thick skin to get through that shite

I agree they sound awful xx

My guess is you showed them all up and they retaliated. It’s easy to forget that parties are meant to be special and a little effort goes a long way especially with kids, when you’re busy with your own life. I think you did a good thing. I bet the kids were excited seeing crisps on a plate laid out like that - it’s different from home and screams party.

Did you leave off the parsley garnish???

To clarify; you bought a multipack of hula hoops containing eg 6 individual bags of crisps. You then opened the main packaging and took out the 6 individual bags, placing them on a plate, then wrapped it all up in clingfilm.

If so, why? It’s just unnecessary. Schools will be able to source/provide their own plates. It would have been easier for you to carry if you kept it in the standard retail packaging. The crisps could easily have been displayed on a table by the teacher later on.

I don’t think you have been bullied honestly.

The first mum is aggressive, but I can see why she was annoyed. The way your daughter mentioned it to her son made it seem like they made a faux pas by bringing in the multipack alone. In reality you were just being extra.

I can see why the rest of them found it funny too. Again, I wouldn’t say they bullied you. It’s a little joke at your expense but that’s all. Just roll with it and join in, it was a dumb thing to do after all.

You put them individually so they could be reached more easily and cling filmed them so that they didn't fall off the plate.

Literally nothing amusing about that at all.

Nasty bullies.

You have done the right thing not being on the social media groups so that they can't get to you that way.
You need to make sure they can't get to you and try to make sure you don't give them space in your head.
If the end-of-school party is organised by school, then just deal directly with the school on what you need to provide. Don't engage with these parents.
If it is an out-of-school then regard it was optional. Personally the rather posh and rich Mum bullies at my DC school were so horrible and bitchy that I didn't go to their end-of-school picnic so they couldn't get to me any more.

You gotta laugh hun. It’s all water off a ducks back. Don’t trust them but life’s a lot easier if you don’t take it too seriously.

Come on now, that's not bullying. You're being ridiculously sensitive.

I thought at first you had opened the packs, put them on a plate and then put clingfilm...

But you wrapped the closed packs in clingfilm? that does seem a bit excessive, you could have sent the multi pack and a separate place in case the teacher wanted to share them out like that...

still i guess it's a class in-joke now and they don't realise they are offending and upseting you

I wouldn't even give them the time of day.
What I would give to have space in my head to worry about hula hoops and clingfilm.

OP they're being dicks. This is really one of those occasions where it says more about them than you. Who on earth would even notice what someone else brought? And remember?!

I reckon you need to get "juice" next time. Open it. Pour it on a plate. Cling film it. Send it in.

Then they'd have something to talk about! It's your last year. Go out in style I say! 😂

Reverse snobs are far worse than the other kind. It's all a race to the bottom to see who can do things the worst way possible. Step outside of that and do something 'wrong' like use 'big' words or make an effort in anything or wear something that isnt polyester athlesuire wear and they will start. And never stop.

Just make sure her children aren't going to the same secondary school!!!

I understand why you’re upset. You tried to do something nice and it’s been used to mock you. Some of it sounds like bullying.

I think all you can do is a combination of ignoring it and laughing it off. Bullies hate it when you don’t give them a reaction.

Urgh some of our school mum's can be like this. Fuck knows why. It's crisps and a plate not exactly hilarious. School mum's are weird.

OP, the parents in my DDs class were awful and the day I left their bitchy Facebook group was so liberating. You have one more term to go, just grin and bear it. Top tip: I meet my DD down the road from school so never even see them anymore.

Someone that thinks sending a plate along with crisps is ridiculous and then bullying the person that did it is likely to be the sort of person who ALSO doesn't have basic table manners. Or indeed any manners.

If some people are proud of that then that's fine but bringing up your children to have small shitty lives isn't something to be proud of any more than never buying them books. It's just basic life skills.

You've got to be pretty thick to make a fuss about this too. Sending snacks to a school on a plate in their packets with cling film is hardly the height of sophistication. What will the bully do when faced with more than one knife or fork? Or will she simply never go anywhere that requires them?

The first mum I completely get why you were upset, it’s rude and very uncalled for!

However the other mums where just messing around and I think they didn’t mean to hurt your feelings. It was a funny situation to some people and they think it’s banter. I personally would have teased you slightly about it if I knew you enough. If I hardly spoke to you I wouldn’t have said anything.

I’d be made up if you put the crisps on a platter. I think they probably meant it as a joke but took it too far and you were already sensitive from the altercation and were looking for a bit of reassurance which wasn’t forthcoming. Really not weird what you did, quite thoughtful in fact. Not sure what you can do about future party-maybe be brave and get involved and if the jokes start up just call them all peasants and get in on the joke good luck and don’t let it ruin your week!

Ridiculous situation. Sorry you went through it.
I don’t know how you didn’t turn round and ask her who the fuck she thinks she is calling you the C word. Well, I do, as I imagine you were totally in shock at the behaviour. Not only that, but using it in earshot of other DC in a playground. Good god. I’m fuming for you!

Was no staff member present to witness her language? She should be banned from waiting in the playground itself, if she’s been violent before too. This happened with one of my mum’s friends when I was at primary, she swore at a teacher for making her do P.E with ‘dirty’ clothes from the lost property as she’d forgot her kit and she had to wait on her own outside school from then on 🤷‍♀️

DH is from a traveller background, if this had happened to me he’d be knocking on the door offering the (male) family out. If there were none it’d be sorted in other ways. Fire with fire. This sounds like her language. Not saying this is the right approach...but it helps to have a very assertive partner sometimes when you’re lacking in this dept 🤣 I think I’d be the same as you but raging inside from it still.

She’s got a massive chip on her shoulder. No point taking what kids (flippantly) say personally nor taking it out on you, your poor DD too. This would be rattling around in my head too OP and I want for you to get out of there as soon as possible. I hope you have other friendships away from this woman and those weak willed mums in the playground. Adult bullying springs to mind. Vile vile vile

The first mum is obviously just horrible and aggressive so I wouldn’t put too much stock into what she says or thinks about you, and you certainly shouldn’t be worrying about her reaction several years later.

With the other mums though, it’s really hard to tell whether they were bullying you or whether they were just poking fun and thinking you were in on the joke. I’m leaning towards thinking you were being a bit over sensitive, but it really depends on the way in which they were saying it I guess. I think most people would only poke fun at people they are comfortable with and consider friends, so maybe it was just really a sign that they thought you were part of the group. I think you maybe need to learn to laugh at yourself and not take things so seriously.

The mother who gets violent in the playground sounds delightful... and if that's the general tone of the parenting then I think you are well out of it.

Of course you didn't do anything wrong, sticking packs of crisps under clingfilm is a slightly singular choice so I guess people might have found it mildly funny but I guess violent mum has pumped it up to be a bigger joke. It might have been an option to laugh it off, or it might be that the woman is really a bully with her girl gang.

Anyway - sounds like it's over this year, so move on. Violent mum's kids are not likely to end up in a good place, so you will get the last laugh..