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To think DH should know you don’t wash dirty bed linen at 30 degrees?

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BasinHaircut · 23/02/2021 08:31

I know it’s not the end of the world but honestly, he is 38 and now it’s probably going to have to go on again. He has a sweaty head and pillowcases are unlikely to be clean after this wash. I already have to do our bedding in 2 loads as it’s so big and we don’t have a spare set so it all needs to be dry and back in the bed tonight.

I’m so irritated!

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Middersweekly · 25/02/2021 11:40

I wash everything at 60 degrees because I have dogs and they are long haired. Even if I didn’t have dogs I would still wash bed linen and towels at 60!

Lol just realised how old the thread is.....

SurpriseOzzy · 09/08/2024 08:50

my DH is very particular about the washing! I do leave him to it but the bedding I do lol

Twinklefloss · 09/08/2024 08:47

Grew up in house where the washing machine wasn’t even connected to to the hot tap and everything washed in cold water. Many (most?) of NZ washes their clothes in cold water (and properly cold, not 30). “Cold Water Surf” is one of the most popular washing detergents.

My family think I have airs and graces and am generally a princess as I now wash things at 30.

Gowlett · 09/08/2024 08:44

So many husband laundry problems out there…
It’s the one job I keep for myself. He can do the bins!

DiscoBeat · 09/08/2024 08:40

Sheets and towels are the one thing I ensure to wash at 60.

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Bleachmycloths · 06/08/2024 19:11

Bloody hell!! How OLD is this thread?? I feel really daft now. 🤣🤣🤣

Bleachmycloths · 06/08/2024 19:10

A couple I know are very smug that they only wash at 30 degrees maximum, keep their heating either turned off or at 18 degrees in cold weather, only use basic soap and refuse to buy shower gel etc etc etc..
Their house is fucking freezing ( the salt is clumpy), their clothes, towels etc always dull and a bit grimy and they both smell musty!
Someone should have told them years ago that a warm house is more comfortable and that washing some things at 60 is better(ie 60 degrees gets rid of bed bug eggs) and some personal ‘smellies” is much nicer for the people who are in close physical contact.
The bloody misery of it all!
Yes, your DH needs to do as he’s told!!!

vodkaredbullgirl · 06/08/2024 12:07

SurpriseOzzy · 06/08/2024 11:15

I wash at 40 degrees but we have a biological (Ariel) I’m hoping that’s ok!

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SurpriseOzzy · 06/08/2024 11:15

I wash at 40 degrees but we have a biological (Ariel) I’m hoping that’s ok!

Lampzade · 27/02/2021 14:37

If you use biological powder 60 degrees would be too high. The biological enzymes work better at about 30 to 40 degrees

dysongirl · 27/02/2021 14:34

I wash all my bed linen at 60Wink

bluebluezoo · 27/02/2021 14:12

Oh for heaven's sake. Just tell him what temp you want used. Probably 60°?

What if he thinks it should be washed at 30, like many on here?

Who gets to overrule the other?

Or perhaps the one who’s loaded the washer decides?

Or are you putting the domestic decisions back on the female because they “naturally” know better Hmm

Temp is really only important if it’s too hot. If her dh put a load of wool or delicates on a boil wash and ruined stuff then that’s worth bringing up. Washing on 30? That does for nearly everything.

TrailingLobelias · 26/02/2021 18:09

@Hereiam2

I wash sheets and towels on 60 wools on 40, silks or delicates on 30 I never buy non bio, I still have my baby burco boiler which on occasion I do a boil wash in ( especially if someone has been ill) I'm the first to hang a washing out when spring arrives. I know it's old fashioned but I'm fine with doing it, but my question is why don't you have another change of bedding it must be a pain to have to wash, dry,and iron all that on one day.
There are enzymes in biological detergent that break down protein so you shouldn't wash wool or silk in it.
Runnerduck34 · 26/02/2021 16:00

I wash all our bed linen at 60 degree cotton wash, just feels fresher and cleaner, DH sweats loads plus sometimes there are cat pawprints, period blood, or make up on pillow case etc so 30 degrees doesnt cut it, so Im with you OP, although if there are no stains and it comes out clean it will be fine

Singlenotsingle · 25/02/2021 20:27

Oh for heaven's sake. Just tell him what temp you want used. Probably 60°?

caspersmagicaljourney · 25/02/2021 19:03

I wash bedlinen at 40C on a quick wash. That's usually sufficient, and I change the bed weekly.
I would recommend you get a spare set of bed linen though. What if one of you is ill in the night, what would you do then apart from panic?

Hereiam2 · 25/02/2021 13:20

I wash sheets and towels on 60 wools on 40, silks or delicates on 30 I never buy non bio, I still have my baby burco boiler which on occasion I do a boil wash in ( especially if someone has been ill) I'm the first to hang a washing out when spring arrives.
I know it's old fashioned but I'm fine with doing it, but my question is why don't you have another change of bedding it must be a pain to have to wash, dry,and iron all that on one day.

Mittens030869 · 25/02/2021 11:47

Everything here gets washed at thirty degrees too. Never been anything that wasn’t properly cleaned at that temperature. Confused

Middersweekly · 25/02/2021 11:40

I wash everything at 60 degrees because I have dogs and they are long haired. Even if I didn’t have dogs I would still wash bed linen and towels at 60!

Storey1964 · 25/02/2021 11:11

Is it really worth arguing and you being stroppy about it? Is it going g to kill anyone? No. Just put it on and say next time put it on 60!

smilingontheinside · 25/02/2021 09:27

All my washing goes on a 30 degree wash even kids clothes. YABU for only having one set of bedding, who does that? To be hoped one of you doesn't throw up or anything else happens during the early hours and you need to strip the bed, put clean on and get back to sleep. I've had to do that when kids have decided our bed was the place to be sick, my period decided the middle of the night was the time to be really heavy and my senile dog thought 3am was the time to decide my quilt was her toile All stripped off, clean bedding put on and problems dealt with then back to sleep while dirty laundry was in washing machine. (I probably have 8 sets of bedding just for my bed 😬)

Gmom · 25/02/2021 08:46

I feel your pain on the sweaty head. My husband's pillowcases are yellow after a week - I think it's because he doesn't have hair to soak up sweat and he exercises late at night so his metabolism is high even after he showers. I wash my white sheets at 60. I'm grossed out by all the people recommending 30 degrees. I never wash anything at less than 40 degrees (I don't wash silk or wool in the machine).

On Which? it says the main benefit of 30 degree wash is saving energy and money. Nothing about actually getting it clean. It says "The 60°C program generally delivers slightly better cleaning than the 40°C program, especially when it comes to greasy stains, and is ideal for bedding and towels."

Which? says that on the NHS website it says you should wash "underwear, towels and household linen at 60°C to prevent the spread of germs... It also says that you should use a bleach-based product, such as a bio washing powder, combined with your washing program. This combination is the key to killing germs, as some bacteria will withstand 60°C temperatures."

Read more: www.which.co.uk/reviews/washing-machines/article/washing-machine-temperature-guide-aLiyf2p96y4d - Which?

TangerineGenie · 25/02/2021 07:34

I have relatives in the Northern Territory, their tap water is around 20 degrees! Sister in Melbourne has around 14 degrees, ours is normally around 6. ( I know this in the context of heating water via solar, nothing to do with washing!)

SimonJT · 25/02/2021 07:26

@TangerineGenie

Omg I’m Australian & have NEVER used a hot wash! Cold all the way!! I assure you our clothes are clean

Cold water in Australia is normally warmer than cold water in the UK. So doing a cold wash in the UK isn't directly comparable to a cold wash in Australia

Cold water is often 10 degrees in Australia, in New Zealand where cold washes are also the norm tap/cold water is a very similar temperature to the UK.

On our machines the water very rarely gets to the stated temperature, it also rarely stays at that temperature long enough to have any benefit on the hygiene of clothes.

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