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To think sleeping in the living room would be fine?

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Adskps · 15/02/2021 18:12

Live in a 2 bed flat, both bedrooms are double but not huge, eldest DS (7) has autism and adhd and really needs his own bedroom, he doesn't tend to sleep much and he also encourages his little brother to do stupid things and it's a bit chaotic at times, he sleeps in my bed at the moment because he kept getting the younger one up at night and it was just dangerous as the little one is only preschool aged. Even if he stops that, younger DS will need a full single bed soon and in either room fitting two single beds would leave hardly any space for playing/toys/stuff
Bunk beds out of the question because it would be too dangerous.
So sleeping on a sofa bed in the living room and giving the boys a bedroom each seems the most logical idea?
I'm a single parent so it's just me and I really dont use my room for anything other than sleeping atm anyway so seems a waste.
Storage wise I have enough space for storage elsewhere in the flat where I could keep clothes and bits.
Has anyone done this? Was it ok or did it drive you mad? Is it really annoying having to pull the bed out every night?

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HighSpecWhistle · 15/02/2021 18:27

You could also get a sofa that has storage. Our sofa bed has a chaise lounge style bit that has storage when you lift it up - like this (but we didn't pay as much!).

www.johnlewis.com/john-lewis-partners-bailey-5-seater-rhf-chaise-end-sofa-bed/p3757206?fabricSku=237736028

HighSpecWhistle · 15/02/2021 18:24

It's your home to work with as you need. It sounds like a good solution to me and if I were in your circumstance I would do the same for now I think. I'd rather sleep in the lounge than sleep with a child.

Rewis · 15/02/2021 18:22

I would get a proper bed in the livingroom instead of having to make up the sofa bed every night. I know quite a few families that do this. Some have put a little curtain/room separator thing to create a bit if privacy for the bed area.

biddybird · 15/02/2021 18:21

And as PP said, sofabed will do your back in if you sleep on it all the time.

biddybird · 15/02/2021 18:21

I've done this in the past with a partner as well, and it's fine. If you do it get one of the bi-fold futons that converts to a bed just by pushing on the back.
The tri-fold ones are a real PITA to unfold every night, and aren't that great as sofas either.

YoungBritishPissArtist · 15/02/2021 18:18

Can you have a proper bed? I think sleeping on a sofa bed long term wouldn’t be good for your back.

Girlwhowearsglasses · 15/02/2021 18:17

Does the ADHD one go to bed ok- and safe in his room by himself? If so I'd just have the little one in with me for a while - keep their stuff in the kids bedroom but let him sleep with you. When the little one is a bit older he may be fine on the top bunk. My oldest has ADHD and now 14. He'd never have been able to do top bunk but his younger sibs were fine from 6 as they weren't liable to jump off Confused🙄

chitofftheshovel · 15/02/2021 18:17

I do it at the moment but have a full on double bed in the sitting room, in hindsight I wish I’d gone for a fold down sofa bed.
It does do my swede in being cooped up in the one room (tiny kitchen), I eat, sleep, sit in the same room.

But needs must and the children’s need for their own rooms outweighed mine.