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To not expect neighbour to use washing machine overnight

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BornInTheWrongCentury · 17/01/2021 09:39

Just that really. Over the last couple of months our neighbours started using their washing machine/tumble dryer overnight, it was going on on at about midnight and stays on till around 3am.

My husband asked a them politely a few weeks ago when he saw them outside if they’d mind changing the time they have it on as it really disturbs us. We’re in a mid terraced house and they are the end of the terrace. Their kitchen is below our bedroom. The previous occupants took out a wall in their kitchen that separated the kitchen from their hallway so it’s open planned now so all sound from their house is amplified now anyway and noise seems to travel up the wall into our bedroom.

After my husband mentioned it to them they stopped for a couple of weeks but now the noise has started again as they are putting a wash on at about 10pm and it finishes at 1am.

It’s really upsetting me that I can’t go to bed and read/fall asleep in peace until at least 1am now.

If it’s relevant we own our house and their house is social housing. They are the end of the terrace so if I complain to the council or their housing association they will know it’s me. They are the kind of couple who seem ok as long as you’re on the right side of them but they are rather loud and look very intimidating and to be honest I don’t want to make things worse or get into an argument with them.

They are pretty good neighbours apart from this issue as in the only other noise we hear is their children (they have very screechy, door slamming children but I can cope with that during the day!) They don’t have parties or play thumping music - it’s just the issue with not being able to go to sleep when I want to. I don’t know if I’m just being over sensitive where I so tired.

What would you do?

YABU - just be grateful it’s nothing worse than a washing machine and try to ignore it/go to bed later when you know you’ll fall straight to sleep

YANBU - be brave and speak to them again asking them to not use after 11pm and complain to the council if they refuse?

OP posts:
littlepattilou · 17/01/2021 16:47

@BornInTheWrongCentury

YANBU, and it would piss me off too. Very inconsiderate neighbours.

And the first fucking post that replies to you is 'get earplugs!'

FFS, why should ANYone have to get earplugs? Like hell will I ever get earplugs because of some inconsiderate noisy bastard neighbour.

Why does that ludicrous stock response always get spouted on here?!

EARPLUGS. The answer to every problem! FFS Hmm

vodkaredbullgirl · 17/01/2021 16:42

I work nights and next door, most days have their music on loud. Already had a word with them, they said the time is not unreasonable.

Cokie3 · 17/01/2021 16:38

@JinglingHellsBells I find many people who accuse others of being inconsiderate, are inconsiderate themselves, certainly inconsiderate of the needs of shift workers, health workers etc etc. Consideration doesn't only go one way. Certainly, the 'clapping for the NHS' that the UK embraced was quite hollow, when there is no consideration shown on here for shift working NHS staff.

Chimeraforce · 17/01/2021 16:37

We run our appliances overnight because electricity is cheaper for us overnight. Perhaps they're the same.

bruffin · 17/01/2021 16:36

@Kroebero

YABU we put washing on at night too, it’s not loud enough to bother us. I think this is part and parcel of you living in a terraced house and you should accept a little noise.
Not in the middle of the night.
NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 17/01/2021 16:35

Cannot believe so many people still fall for bloody economy 7 tariffs.

Most of your elec usage is the things you can't turn off - your fridge and freezer, for example.

Energy companies love economy 7 as it drives behaviours that smooth demand and means they can operate on a tighter level of capacity (and make more money....) - you dont turn off a power plant at night.

It is rarely better value for a domestic household. The electric storage heaters that people often use on E7 are terrifically inefficient, plus there's usually a higher than average day rate compensating for the cheap night rate. The extra day costs due to the higher day rate often wipe out the savings from running appliances over night.

Cokie3 · 17/01/2021 16:34

@Iknowwhatudidlastsummer That doesn't make sense. You can substitute housing authority/council with 'landlord' which is a neutral term and it could refer to to real estate landlord or council landlord. AGAIN, there is no actual need to say the word 'council' or 'housing authority'. "Report it to the landlord" or "tenancy association" (neither of which make obvious whether it is council or not) suffices. There IS a way around using the term 'council house' or 'housing association', if one simply uses their noggin. Hmm

Carolofthebellies · 17/01/2021 16:34

As I said above, some machines work louder and some are quieter (you can hardly hear them). If the washing machine is very full then it's going to be very loud when spinning (feels like a helicopter flying). Older machines are louder as well.

PaddingtonsSister · 17/01/2021 16:33

Ours is 1/3 of the price on the Economy 7

Nanny0gg · 17/01/2021 16:29

@PaddingtonsSister

Its vastly cheaper at night we run our washer and dryer every night Your neighbours have already tried to change times but its still not good enough for you. Get some sound insulation on your floor and hope you never need them to be understanding about noise like a crying baby
Do you know how much cheaper?
Nanny0gg · 17/01/2021 16:29

@VintageStitchers

YABU. Buy ear plugs.

It’s a washing machine so a normal household appliance. It’s not classed as a nuisance in law.

You should try living in some areas where people think nothing of partying and playing very loud music at 4am most nights of the week.

It's not a normal appliance in the middle of the night!!
user1467048527 · 17/01/2021 16:23

No, finishing at 1am still isn't good enough when we're talking about keeping people awake.

Sometimes reading this site is like dropping into an alternative universe.

Iknowwhatudidlastsummer · 17/01/2021 16:17

You could just hoovering at 2am, batch cooking at 3am banging every pots and pans and see how the neighbours actually enjoy the "normal life noise" when they are the ones who have to put up with it...
I bet none of the posters on here would be so understanding Grin

CF rely on other people not behaving as badly and being the nuisance, not the victim of it.

Looking at the attitude on here, I would keep a diary and keep complaining to the council.

PaddingtonsSister · 17/01/2021 16:15

Its vastly cheaper at night we run our washer and dryer every night Your neighbours have already tried to change times but its still not good enough for you. Get some sound insulation on your floor and hope you never need them to be understanding about noise like a crying baby

Iknowwhatudidlastsummer · 17/01/2021 16:11

@Cokie3

Why can't people say the other couple are 'renting'? It could be privately rented, or publicly rented (social housing). We get the message if you say you own and they rent, we don't need to know it is social housing. Renting is renting, and it's a lot nicer just to say they rent, and doesn't give off any judgement.
AGAIN because the advice will depend on the situation of the neighbours? How hard is that to comprehend Hmm
Soontobe60 · 17/01/2021 16:04

Actually, in lots of flats people are not allowed to run washing machines at certain hours precisely because it does disturb other residents.
I’d speak to them again - ask them if they’d put their machine on spin and come up to your bedroom to listen to it so they can see what this issue is. Also, get a meter to record the decibels, it would give you an indication of how loud it actually is.

vodkaredbullgirl · 17/01/2021 15:56

Surely they can't be doing it every night?

PattyPan · 17/01/2021 15:50

Yanbu, I think it’s really anti-social to do washing late at night as the spin cycle can be loud. We are mid-terrace too and when our neighbour does her washing it rattles our radiator loudly so I am very glad she only does it in the daytime!

Viviennemary · 17/01/2021 15:48

It's cheeky of them. They're probably on that ridiculous economy seven if it's still going.

Shortysoso · 17/01/2021 15:42

YANBU. Neighbour above us did this and we asked them not to and they stopped. People asking ‘how bad can it be?’ have never tried to sleep through it, it makes our Windows and door rattle and sounds awful. Luckily they understood and are very nice and understanding people. Good luck OP, it’s horrible not being able to relax in your own home.

JinglingHellsBells · 17/01/2021 15:41

@Almostslimjim

Yabu. I work shifts. Laundry gets done when I can, and yes sometimes that's middle of the night. I also shower at odd times. I don't expect my neighbours to be quiet when I'm sleeping in the day, I don't think they can dictate when I run my washing machine.
You sound inconsiderate tbh.

It's not about dictating, it's about showing consideration and being a nice person.

JinglingHellsBells · 17/01/2021 15:40

I think the world has two types of people - the considerate, and the rest.

I was brought up in a small semi with thin walls. I was told, as a child, not make a noise because of the neighbours.

My parents still live in that house.

They won't vacuum at odd hours if they think the neighbours are in (he does shift work) and my mum even shuts her kitchen cupboard doors gently to avoid any noise.

The neighbours on the other hand (who are renting!) are some of the noisiest who have ever lived next door. They are nice and kind, but not considerate about noise in the way other neighbours were over the years.

Almostslimjim · 17/01/2021 15:39

Yabu. I work shifts. Laundry gets done when I can, and yes sometimes that's middle of the night. I also shower at odd times. I don't expect my neighbours to be quiet when I'm sleeping in the day, I don't think they can dictate when I run my washing machine.

Persianparadise · 17/01/2021 15:38

Our old neighbour, we ended up moving. Was a mindless idiot of a women. Well known to the police. She used to do her washing, hoovering and I’m not kidding bath her child at approx 2/3am. She didn’t work, plus other things I won’t go into, but for two years it was utter hell. Washing machine was the worst. It was a newish terraced build and our bedroom was at the front and her kitchen downstairs at the back of the house. Well I could feel the house vibrate during the night on the final spin. Hair dryers, hoovers at 3am. Everything is louder at that time as it’s quieter outside, so it seems worse. Anyone saying this is normal has a screw loose. As it isn’t. There was only so much the council could do. We ended up moving. But this was an extreme case of neighbours from hell.

BadNomad · 17/01/2021 15:36

Make sure you have a smoke detector in your bedroom, OP. If their machine does catch on fire, it's you who is right above it.