To wonder if anyone has used a male prositute

With men, it's very easy for good looking/rich/confident men to get sex, but may be a struggle for the average man or physically unattractive and that's where using a sex worker might tempt some.

It's not something that should be encoruaged.

@user1471565182

It quite clearly isn’t rape if it’s consensual. The women I’ve known all offered their services just as consensually as my plumber.

fed up of this whole when women do it its a laugh' portrayal. IME the male sex workers are even more messed up than the women

[quote CutToChase]@MsJaneAusten
Tinder is just a load of horny randomers. OP is talking about paying a professional. Would love to read an AMA from a male prostitute![/quote]
Men who go to prostitutes are extremely frowned upon on here (and rightly so). Why should it be any different the other way?

Depends if you think fixing a boiler is as distressing as rape

What about hiring a male professional cuddler instead?

Most are called 'Fluffy', 'Oscar' or 'Tiddles' and are far better value than any man.

@Awalkintime

My plumber wouldn’t mend my boiler for free in real life either. Is it coercive that I pay him?

Nope, just another legitimate job.

I actually think there is something more honest and less exploitative about paying someone than going on Tindr for a quick shag.

No one talks about whether people on are Tindr for the right reasons...

Also a suspect you’d end up with a much better service.

While I have no desire to be a prostitute (or many other jobs for that matter), it is a legitimate job for those who want to.

Id be put off by the fact that id know they didnt actually fancy me and were only pretending.

So basically, they wouldn't consent in real life to sex with you so therefore it isn't fully consensual. It is abusive and I agree with user1471565182

What about hiring a male professional cuddler instead? I feel many women would be more interested in hug and attention therapy than a 'scratching an itch' sex session.

Go for it. Life's too short.

Its as sick and exploitative as the female business. Im sure that makes me a spoilsport but I dont give a fuck.

Fabswingers is not a bad call actually, you might have fun

I find this interesting. I never would and dont not know any women who have. I do however know of a few men that have and will do so again.

I can't imagine ever wanting to, although I can kind of see the attraction if you're going to stray to use a professional that won't "kiss and tell" or make it super awkward if you ran into each other if you're looking for purely no strings attached shagging.

A friend of mine used to do a bit of escorting work. He said male clients mainly hired him for sex, female clients wanted someone to attend functions with then first but then sex after.

This is interesting. A lot of threads on here about men who have used female prostitutes get very heated.

I would never pay a man to have sex with me. In theory, I wholeheartedly support people’s right to do as they wish and have no problem with anyone male or female selling sex provided that there is no coercion or other factors like that. However, how can you ever know that this is the case? How do you know that the person is doing it of their own free will and not out of fear or someone else or desperation? I couldn’t be part of that.

Also, I don’t think you are going to get the mind blowing experience you are after OP. You need to find someone you have true chemistry with.

No way. Paying someone to use their body is inhumane, regardless of their sex.

For anyone who wants no strings sex with a stranger look at fabswingers. You'll find plenty of men there with reviews from previous partners so you can try to find someone who a) you like the look of b) who fancies you c) has good reviews of their sexual skills and d) is likely to be safer than a random from tinder or a club.
Don't pay someone. That's disgusting on about 50 levels.

Id be put off by the fact that id know they didnt actually fancy me and were only pretending.

I think there are plenty of men out there you could get a decent sexual connection with but surely fancying each other and both being into it for the pleasure of it is pretty important regarding arousal

Expert? Are you for real? Sex is about chemistry, passion, attraction.... You will not get that with a prostitute. You will be a business transaction

No way in hell would I hire a gigolo, hell I might get David Lee Roth, but plenty of men get off, repeatedly, on hiring women.

Go to some sex work review sites and read what they say. It will be an education.

I'd imagine that being a male prostitute is, in some ways, more difficult performance-wise than being female. As a woman, you don't need to maintain an erection

Nah - you need to be wet and slippery though - but judging from the infections and injuries experienced by women oppressed through the commercial sex industry most men just bang on in anyway.

Tennis: For me it's about intimacy - I couldn't have sex with someone who I wasn't 100% comfortable and secure with. For me, that means someone with whom I was in relationship with.

The fact that I was paying would strip away any modicum of comfort or intimacy that would be possibly be present with a stranger.
...
That's it exactly. Women usually have a different attitude to sex than men.

I expect some have; homosexual men without a suitable partner will have and some women. I doubt any woman will admit it on here though. I've never knowingly known a woman who has hired a man for sex and can't imagine it; it's less common than the other way around because it's generally easier for a woman to find an uncomplicated, casual sex partner, but does happen sometimes.