To wonder if anyone has used a male prositute

Straight male prostitutes tend to be punters themselves. For some bizarre reason they think that although they can't obtain sex without paying for it, somebody might like to pay them. You won't get a "sexpert" OP

God the hypocrisy on this site is breathtaking at times. I had a couple of posters laying into me the other day about how a lap dance was a ‘sex act’ but it seems many are absolutely fine with this far more intimate, personal act.

how is it not true. It happens all the time but 'isnt true'?

[quote RhubarbAndRoses]@formerbabe considering men account for 25% of human trafficking victims I would say you are wrong. Very wrong. www.apa.org/monitor/2017/04/sex-trafficking[/quote]
@rhubarbandroses

I didn't deny they could be trafficked. I do not think they are being trafficked to service the needs of women in the main. The number of women willing to pay for that is vanishingly small.

ohhhh its all fun sex and the city shit with men doing it as a part time job to support their fledgling west end acting career. Its a bit of fun for you and the girls to talk about over contrived brunch.

Men are trafficked for sex work for both men and women. It degrades the user and the worker.

Wholeheartedly agree with the second sentence, but not the first. It is just not true that men are trafficked for sex work for women. At least not in any way even beginning to approach women being trafficked for men. Just not true.

Give me strength no, men are not being trafficked just to have sex with other men, why would you possibly imagine the traffickers have qualms about who they sell it to? i can think of 4 different drug addicts ive worked with whove been forced into male prostitution. They sleep with more women than men, men dont tend to have to pay for it with other men.

No but I used to work with a male prostitute. Respectable public sector job, in HR, but he was also an escort and did voice over work and modelling for porn films and magazines. Silly prat got found out when we all had to create LinkedIn profiles as part of a new initiative at work and he added his website to his, where his credits and contact details were...

Supposed to say sex live 🙄

Are you in a relationship OP?

The best thing my DH and I did for our seed life was to explore Tantric. We’ve been to workshops in the past and they were amazing

People using the plumber analogy are missing a point- plumbers are not part of a trade where they can be trafficked across the world at a young age, raped, beaten, drugged, and tortured.
Sure, you’ll more than likely end up hiring a man who is in it for the money, but why support such an industry?

Ick.

The hypocrossy on here. Men are trafficked for sex work for both men and women. It degrades the user and the worker. It leaves both open to exploitation and violence. I read a cosmopolitan article about 3 women who used male prostitutes they all thought it was ok, like men think using women is ok. It really isn,t. I watched a programme about a dominetrix. (male) He serviced men and women but you could see the damage it had done to his own life and he had been abused as well. (hence why he bcame a dominator.).

Yes thank you to the posters who understood my comment.

I don't believe that men are being sex trafficked to service the needs of women...or if they are, it's a staggeringly small number.

If it's wrong for men, it's wrong for women

I don't understand this comment...I think either way, its abhorrent. Nothing I said, suggested otherwise.

Have you ever been out on the town and just been looking for a one night stand? If you haven't done that you really might as well before turning to a sex worker. At least they will be horny and attracted to you if they want to go home with you. You make sure he isn't too drunk!

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being a sex worker if it’s a choice.

But I couldn’t pay a man for sex. Knowing he was there because of money and not because he was really attracted to me wouldn’t work for me. I just wouldn’t feel like it.

considering men account for 25% of human trafficking victims I would say you are wrong. Very wrong.

I think you misrepresent that. As much of that is about child sex trafficking. Boys, being raped by men. Not the same at all.

It doesn’t appeal at all to me but I can imagine one of the attractions of paying for sex is being in control of the experience (or feeling that you are). And not feeling you need to give pleasure back but can receive ‘care’ fully without feeling selfish. Which works for massage, hair styling, nail care and dental treatment - but not for sex, I think. I’d hate to have sex with someone who would much rather be home with a glass of wine and a good film but it sticking with it for the money. It would be humiliating.

[quote user1471565182]Just like a few years ago nobody in cosy middleclass land would believe female sex trafficking was a thing to protect their conscience

justaskprevention.org/news/males-the-silent-victims-of-human-trafficking/#:~:text=Like%20women%20and%20girls%20trafficked,a%20place%20foreign%20to%20them.

apnews.com/article/a7d41311016c415390477750e369f8f9

www.theguardian.com/global-development/2020/feb/21/a-step-away-from-hell-the-young-male-refugees-selling-sex-to-survive-berlin-tiergarten[/quote]
Those links are about boys/ men trafficked to service the needs of men

former babe was saying they're not trafficked to service women sexually and, by and large they're just not.

Regardless I haven't and wouldn't use a male prostitute because I'd be a massive fucking hypocrite and I don't believe paid consent is true consent, would have no way of knowing if the man in question was not vulnerable or coerced in some way, and wouldn't find it even vaguely sexy that someone was only having sex with me for money.

I've never heard of it happening in real life though of course I'm sure it does.

Even if you took ethics/ consent out of it- why would it follow that the man was an expert at sex? Its not like we all like the same things or theres a set number of 'moves' you just have to work through that are guaranteed to work on everyone.

[quote BounceyBumblebee]@user1471565182

But those articles are about men being trafficked to have sex with men. The other poster said men arnt being trafficked to service women. She's right isn't she? They're being trafficked to service men.[/quote]
This.

I saw a programme about them once, The most successful one used vibrators on the women. i did think - what's the point of him then?

These men and boys are not being trafficked for sex with women though.