Anyone dislike where they live???

I love my house and I love that I’ve only got to walk one minute from my front door to get to a huge area of woodland and a common which is wonderful for long dog walks.
I don’t feel like I fit in though, our street is very sociable and it’s great that people are friendly and I’m happy to say hello and have a quick chat to neighbours in passing but everyone knows everyone else’s business and I’d prefer to just keep myself to myself. My husband’s the opposite, he thinks it’s great and will happily attend the regular street bbqs and other events.

@lisaandalan - yeah the kids probably won’t go, I’ll probably end up back and forth as my ex lives in Surrey and we get along so the plan is I’ll kind of live in both places. I wouldn’t move my daughters school etc, schooling here is much better so I will have to wait. Planning to buy soon anyway and then I’ll have a base there too

Me . Moved three years ago for various reasons and now really regret it. I don’t feel at home here and want to move somewhere else. I spent my teens here but it doesn’t feel like home anymore.
Unfortunately OH is settled now and doesn’t want to move away. I feel trapped. Every day I think about selling and he has agreed to it, but I feel really guilty about causing more disruption. Don’t know where to move to either and don’t want to go into rental. So basically feel trapped.

A little self awareness wouldn’t go amiss

My town is a bit of a shit hole. I live a 10 minute and 25 minute drive away from two beautiful cities though and a 10 minute drive from the beach which i love and we’re surrounded by countryside. So it could be worse, just saving to move to a slightly better area (with less crime basically)

I live in Bucks too OP & I also hate it. I grew up in Cornwall & am desperate to go back but the grammar schools keep us here (DD in year 10 & loves it)
Where I live is soulless, massively over developed (it wasn’t that bad when we moved here but has got progressively worse), full of wankers in Range Rovers & really boring people who have never moved away & never will & think it’s nice still, even when it’s clearly just a shit hole full of housing estates, cars & pylons.
4 more years and I’m off!

You never know, though, do you? It's a risk whenever you move somewhere. I live in a busy, "exciting," cosmopolitan city with loads to do but haven't met people I've felt on the same wavelength with at all. It's definitely down to me in part (I fell out with two different groups of friends - long story), but I've kept trying, all sorts of different things, and just found it impossible. I think one of the reasons I've stayed so long is the fear that it will be the same anywhere I go, that it's all down to my personality or some terrible flaw. But I have loads of friends all over the world - just hardly any where I live!

Currently living in a soulless small commuter 'town' on the outskirts of London, because this is where DP bought his flat before we met 4 years ago. We're next to a loud, busy, congested main road and I have asthma, so it's not ideal. The flat is small and there is nothing to do in the area, which has made working from home quite stifling. But since house prices have gone crazier than ever, we can't afford anything better. Can't complain really as I'm paying about £300pm less than I would be renting in a house share, and I have my own room and bathroom. I've lived in lots of interesting places with great communities, in the UK and abroad, and just can't believe I've ended up settling in total suburban dullsville. Could be worse though.

Moved back to the UK from somewhere I loved to look after my parents, ended up in the same small market town. I have really tried and it has a lot going for it, but I have never found it so hard to make local friends wherever I have lived (and I have lived in a lot of places). Lots of small minded people and although I like my house and the country side, the lack of like minded people is really a drag. I guess I will move in the future but until the second parent dies I cant really see that option.

I used to hate where I lived
One was a two bed,miles from anywhere with the most nosey neighbours ever
My abusive ex lived round the corner
Second house-tiny,lived next door to my old school bully,rough area and miles from town
Third house-massive,tiny garden,posh area but we didn’t fit in
Fourth house-we love it-it’s big enough for us,garden is not too big and only downside is it’s a fair walk to work
I’ll never move from here

I've been there. I really really hated where I used to live. I obsessed over Rightmove and was paranoid that we'd get stuck there. I thought I was wasting my life.
We moved last year to a really different area and it has made the world of difference.
We're all happier.
If you can change it, do.

@beastlyslumber I agree it seems more normal than I thought to stay in your home town/ move back home. I can see the appeal. Both myself and DH would have an hour commute if we moved there to do our jobs as they are city based. The lack of opportunity in my home town feels stifling!

I live in the second city and don't like the volume of traffic and amount of people that live here . It was ok while I was young but had enough now . We live really close to a lovely park with lots going on and it is a nice area but I would like to move to the north Wales coast or by the sea at least .

Yes, I really, really regret moving to the town we now live in! I'd move to so many other places, but dh isn't arsed. It's been the source of a few arguments actually.

But, on paper it's nice here and is good for the kids in terms of safety and schools, amenities etc. We've been here 7 years and I still hate it.

I really relate to this. I also live in a ‘nice on paper’ town - excellent schools, lots of amenities, very commutable etc - and housing’s really expensive for those reasons. But I just have no affection for the place whatsoever.

But it is actually the norm to stay close to family and friends, especially for working class people. Plenty of people I know have the same group of friends they made at school, see family regularly, have their mums babysitting their kids and so on. That's not to say everyone in that situation is perfectly happy and feels at home, obviously not. But it is certainly normal. It's only relatively recently, in the last few decades, that it became more common for people to move far away from family - mainly people going to university and not coming back. It makes no sense from an evolutionary point of view to have family dispersed that way, and I do wonder what we as a society lose through that.

Anyway, I absolutely do think it's normal and fine to want to have friends and feel at home in the place where you live. It's not a longing for some weird thing that doesn't exist. It's a basic human need.

I absolutely hate where we live small village everybody want to know your business, newbies are not really accepted, where near a major company head quarters and a theme park🙄 and although the place is lovely to look at and where in the countryside, the villagers are horrible! We have been here 4 years!! And still regret moving, dd has 1 year left at primary school before she heads of to middle school so will hopefully move in that time frame!

I did. I hated our last neighbourhood. We did a full-on relocation - from inner city to small, quaint market town - and its been like a lottery win, I love it so much!

Yes I don't think like it and never have.
It's so incredibly dull and boring and has the world's worst council for taste. Beautiful old buildings were yanked down and replaced with Vile harsh 60s nightmares...
We have to travel but it's close to London and pretty towns and villages. I'm not sure where I would move too that's my problem. We have a good sized house and garden.

I struggle to feel at home anywhere. Where I live now is rural enough that we don't have loads of traffic, crime is very low even on the estates, cleaner air and the schools are excellent. But we are also close enough to several major northern towns and cities that I don't get bored, and there's a direct train to London that passes through. On paper, it's ideal but I can't settle and find myself constantly looking on rightmove.

I hate my town too. It used to be a small town, now it is not. Its had stuff built on every square inch of land but no one has made any of the roads bigger, getting through town is a nightmare. My once quite road is not wicked busy all the time always noisy.
My taxes are 4 times higher than they were when I bought here and my water and sewer bill has gone up 300% town serviced suck and are basically non existent.
Only plus side is the house prices here are through the roof right now and its a very desirable place to live. I have a ton of equity, just cant move till Dd2 graduates high school.

I am 48 and have lived in the same Essex village since I was 2. I now hate it. It’s not the lovely place I grew up in. Like many placed in the South East it has seen lots of new builds in the last few years. We have had two big estates built with even more smaller clumps of houses being built. Until a few weeks ago we had a lovely view of fields which is now a building site with 9 very expensive houses being built on, its noises now every bloody day. People are spilling out from London as we are only an hours train journey into the city. The problem is that it’s pushed house prices into the extremes. 3 bed bungalows are selling for £500k+ and the new build 4/5 beds around here are going for £800k +. It’s getting ridiculous, buddy, noisy and We are soon just going to be a suburb of our nearest town. Hate it but can’t afford to move further into the countryside as we extended our house and to get something similar in size would cost a small fortune.

I like the area I live in and love the house, I don't like the actual street though, there are some houses from the 1800 and early 1900's so are straight onto the pavement and a fair few terraced again with no drives so there's always a lot of parked cars in the street, we're lucky to have a huge driveway so don't need to fight for space but it's a pain driving up and down, once we're inside I love it again.

We had it valued a few years ago for 450k, I asked the agent what it would be worth in one of the better roads in the area and he said 550k, I don't know whether to feel peeved that the street is knocking 100k off the value or lucky that the street made it affordable for us.

I like the village I live in, but the nearby town is suffering (although that’s not unusual for town centres nowadays). However, there’s a lot of building work going on and a lot of new estates built.

Have nice neighbours and can walk in the countryside. Also several beaches are within an hours drive if here.

Hmmmm. I see an awful lot of unfriendly locals/no friends/not belonging threads on MN.

A lot of people seem to be under the impression that it’s the norm to live in the place you grew up, surrounded by close mates & that everyone else is in on some kind of social secret that they’re not.

I really don’t think that’s true for the majority of people.