Anyone dislike where they live???

I wouldn’t say ‘hate’, but a couple of years ago I moved from a beautiful area in zone 2 North London to zone 3 South London and it was a real eye-opener. Although my area is supposedly one of the nicest parts of South London!! Saving up so we can move back to North/Central in the next few years.

My small town is being used as a dumping ground for all new housing by the Local Authority. They don't have a 5 year housing supply identified so even the massive estates they turn down are granted on appeal.
I wouldn't mind - as someone else pointed out, my house was a new build 72 years ago, but there is zero thought given to infrastructure, public transport, roads, cycle routes etc. We can't get a GP appointment, schools are all full, roads jammed and still they are approving hundreds of extra houses almost every month.

Also the area seems to have become a playground for people with very loud illegally modified cars and motorbikes to race around being as antisocial as possible.

I aim to move but I plan to do a lot of detailed research so I don't end up jumping out of the frying pan into the fire.

I am starting to wonder if the whole country isn't turning into an overcrowded anti-social shithole TBH.

I too hate where I live - in what I consider to be the worst part of Kent. Have never liked it; much of it is urban and run-down - there is no interesting town to visit - and the rural parts are being swallowed up by soul- sapping, new-build housing estates. There is nothing here that interests me - it’s a cultural desert - and I have to drive at least 20 miles in any direction to reach anywhere interesting.

i love my house in a pretty country lane but not the traffic that goes past: HGVs, buses, tractors and speeding cars - unbelievably we have a 60mph limit. I feel very unsafe if I have to walk in the road (there’s no pavement) and, as another contributor has identified, a nice house can’t fulfil you.

i feel isolated and lonely here because people are reluctant to engage with you; in the village shop they sometimes do not utter a word as they scan your shopping!

My only hope is that my husband is going to retire in the near future but it’s uncertain when exactly as he has to sell a business.
My problem is, he doesn’t want to move - he comes from the area - and he says we can’t afford to move; this is ridiculous - if he wanted to go, we’d be going - I know how determined he is when he sets his mind on something.

i don’t know how I can carry on feeling so trapped and imprisoned and miserable; my husband doesn’t want to know because he counters anything I say with the words, ‘Well,, I’m still working and I’ve had enough of that’, so he’s therefore telling me to shut up and put up which I’d be happy to do if he were to say we’d be moving once he retires; that would sustain me!

i know from this thread that I’m not alone but it frightens me that I’m obsessed with getting out but I can’t see how it will happen and I feel so unhappy and unable to talk to anyone about it. I’m not a young person now - although I’m not yet retirement age -and I’m in good health and still feel youthful ; I just constantly feel I’m wasting my life mired in an environment I loathe.

@JesusInTheCabbageVan

You did make me laugh.

Seriously though, I was only being semi flippant. If someone doesn’t like where they live, I think they should change it.

Moving house and not liking it is financially risky and might hurt you, but doesn’t hurt anyone else like flinging yourself into a bad relationship might.

I like moving house and area. Going somewhere new doesn’t worry me, because it doesn’t have to be permanent.

Moved here (former mill town north of manchester) to be with now ex partner. Kids are in decent school/college, house in a nice area close to countryside, lovely garden, ok neighbours but the local town is a craphole. Thoroughly depressing, sadly many beggars and homeless people, no decent shops anymore, pockets of affluence mixed with extreme deprivation. Can't wait til youngest goes to uni then we can hopefully consider moving back over the Pennines.

In a way, I feel better knowing that are other people who don't like where they live : )

I'm also glad I have grown to like the city and country I am in though.
Its just the local area I live in I don't like now. I can change that one day without having to start over somewhere new : )

We just moved from somewhere we grew to hate. Lived there 13 years and never really felt at home. It is horrible feeling trapped somewhere. Thankfully DD was young enough to move and then everything kind of fell in to place.

afternamechangefail let's put it this way - I listen to what's said in the shops and the streets. I see the homophobic abuse my kids have had to put up with. I know how this town votes. I'm not projecting. And unless you know who I am and live here too, you can't know that I am. Not all places are pleasant.

You're probably projecting

@Chikapu ugh, me too. I’d love to go back to the Uk but I’m stuck here. Hate pretty much everything about it

Plus its all very well complaining about houses being built for other people when you already have one yourself. I find it quite mean spirited & ‘im alright Jack just don’t ruin my view’.

[quote Toadsinholes]@Glassofshloer actually I live in the old part of town which has been there since the 1800s. I’ve also been there 20 years and the development has been since we lived there - and has increased exponentially in the form of huge housing estates that go on for miles & miles.
Moving back home after 30 years away is not the same as never having left.[/quote]
Yes but my point is you haven’t been there since the 1800s, and the town is building new houses to accommodate people that want to move there (like you once did). It’s like the lady on the news complaining about all the people on the beach… when she’s sat on the beach…

Yes, moved to suburb of Bournemouth from London when we retired.
We are now near where wife and I met and worked.
Oh! the dullness of it. Pre Covid could not find people willing to try anything new. Cannot strike up conversations in pubs with anyone sensible or intelligent. They all seem to be in their family and work based groups therefore we have nothing in common.
Decided to move to somewhere with transient population like an established University City.

@userxx I had to leave my previous rented houseshare because the landlord sold up. DP asked me to move in, so I did.

I also live in Bucks and love the area but I don't really like my house that much. It was only supposed to be a stop gap and then house prices went INSANE so need to save quite a lot more to be able to move to anywhere I'd actually like to live long-term! I hope to move at some point but am now self employed so will probably have to stay where we are for a few years.

We moved from a village and house we absolutely loved to another one about 40 mins away, in order for our children to attend a better school. The new house, on paper, is incredible, but neither of us feel settled at all and pine desperately to go back to where we moved from. We keep telling ourselves we’ll go back when they’ve finished school, but 12 years is a bloody long time 😭

@Glassofshloer actually I live in the old part of town which has been there since the 1800s. I’ve also been there 20 years and the development has been since we lived there - and has increased exponentially in the form of huge housing estates that go on for miles & miles.
Moving back home after 30 years away is not the same as never having left.

Why didn't you move into your place then if it's so dull ?

I used to really hate where I lived. We bought the only house we could afford in SE London, and we're surrounded by so much crap. Literally and metaphorically. Had to endure the shithole for 6 years whilst actively hating it every day. It's hard!
Now I love where we live. Make plans to move if you can.

I hated Eastleigh in Hampshire. Lived there 5 years. It's awful. Just thought I'd actually name a town 😂

Really mixed feelings about where I live.

Love my house, nice area, two teens in a good school, great amenities. Kids happy.

But I moved back here after living abroad for many years and just don’t feel I fit in. Like a pp, it’s very parochial and I haven’t met many like minded people.

Am here until the kids leave for uni, in 4 years. Then wondering what I’ll do. Worry sometimes that it’s just the grass seems greener elsewhere, and actually if I did move, I’d be equally unsettled.

Living in rural Sweden with Swedish DH and the kids. Moved from London for a better life - property is really cheap and no commuting but It's hell. Frozen hell. -19 on Friday. Local schools are shite. Nobody talks to each other or socialises but priced out of moving back to the UK now