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To live without a dining table??

263 replies

inmyshoos · 05/12/2020 12:07

Can't fit in a dining table in our new house. We have a massive corner sofa and it barely fits in itself. Aibu to just sit there and eat? I really love a table, feels weird not having one. Have even considered weird coffee tables that convert to dining tables but they look weird as heck.

Will I desperately miss a table? Aibu to think we can live without one?

Our dining table is old and cost 50 quid second hand, our sofa was 3k.Confused

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Grapewrath · 06/12/2020 14:27

lol can’t believe people are doing property searches to prove that houses can fit a table in. Goodness me.

NoPainNoTartine · 06/12/2020 13:42

@SquareEyes3523

Wow, some of the replies are so snobby and SO mumsnet. We have a drop leaf table in the kitchen but no one liked eating there so we eat on the sofa watching Pointless as a family. Funnily enough my kid can still hold a conversation and eat properly at restaurants and other people's houses. We like it. But apparently it's 'yuck' and 'grim' according to this thread.
manners are like a sense of humour: everybody believes they have them!
Tw1nset · 06/12/2020 13:41

@CountFosco

You've chosen a cheaper area of the country to search in there. I've seen 'flats' in London that are one room, a separated tiny bathroom with the bedroom put above it in like a little loft. And people do rent them.

For families? Maybe in that case they should 'get on their bike' and move somewhere they can afford enough room for their family.

Yes because that is sustainable- only rich families living in London so everybody can have a dining table.
CountFosco · 06/12/2020 13:28

You've chosen a cheaper area of the country to search in there. I've seen 'flats' in London that are one room, a separated tiny bathroom with the bedroom put above it in like a little loft. And people do rent them.

For families? Maybe in that case they should 'get on their bike' and move somewhere they can afford enough room for their family.

randomsabreuse · 06/12/2020 12:57

I know that my small kids eating on the sofa would be grim, especially the toddler. He's bad enough on the fully wipeable wooden dining chair with no nooks and crannies - was secretly pleased when he gave up on the high chair!

SquareEyes3523 · 06/12/2020 12:29

Wow, some of the replies are so snobby and SO mumsnet. We have a drop leaf table in the kitchen but no one liked eating there so we eat on the sofa watching Pointless as a family. Funnily enough my kid can still hold a conversation and eat properly at restaurants and other people's houses. We like it. But apparently it's 'yuck' and 'grim' according to this thread.

ScrapThatThen · 06/12/2020 12:28

It's your house, see how you get on? It will evolve into useable space. Any room for a narrow breakfast bar and stools?

blowinahoolie · 06/12/2020 12:23

Another vote here for a gate leg table, so it can be folded away when not in use.

CakeRequired · 06/12/2020 12:19

@Hellotheresweet

You've chosen a cheaper area of the country to search in there. I've seen 'flats' in London that are one room, a separated tiny bathroom with the bedroom put above it in like a little loft. And people do rent them.

Lived in a 2 bedroom terraced house myself that didn't have room for a dining table even a fold out one without meaning you couldn't walk around properly and would be constantly bumping into it. It only had room for one 2 seater couch too because it was that small. Thankfully only rented that.

You can find small houses that you can fit a dining table in, but not all can. Ops house is one of them, and why should she get rid of an expensive sofa in replacement of a £50 table just because a bunch of people online tell her to? That will be fun, she gets rid of that and those old chairs are all she has to sit on. Very comfortable. Hmm

Maybe rather than people saying it's grim, disgusting etc you should appreciate what you have and stop looking down at others and maybe just be thankful that you can afford better. You might find at some point, your luck ends and that precious dining table will have to go. How will any of you cope then? Grin

TripNeeded · 06/12/2020 10:44

I love eating around a table and I have a dining room but I got rid of the table when my kids were late teens.

Sweetsforsweets · 06/12/2020 10:33

@Graciebobcat

We don't have a table in the dining room. Used to, but decided it was wasted space. We eat round the kitchen table.
But you have a dining table. It’s just positioned in the kitchen
Graciebobcat · 06/12/2020 10:28

We don't have a table in the dining room. Used to, but decided it was wasted space. We eat round the kitchen table.

kowari · 06/12/2020 10:26

We have room and have a table in the corner but rarely use it. I bought some spartan stools when we moved in and I have a bony bum. We were lucky to be given two second hand sofas so we have one each and can make eye contact while using the spartan stools as side tables.

Hellotheresweet · 06/12/2020 10:19

www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/86232067#/

This one

Under £100k tick
New build tick
Very very compact tick

STIL room for a fold up dining table!

Hellotheresweet · 06/12/2020 10:16

No space no space no space

And posters are snobby if they question this.

This house. Couldn’t get a much smaller two bed. Under £100k. Clearly there would be room for a fold up table

www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/69592240#/media?id=media1

CakeRequired · 06/12/2020 08:33

So literally, your room is smaller than the size of a modest table? Or, as I suspect, you’ve chosen to furnish the room with other furniture that doesn’t leave room for a table?

More like no doubt with the way smaller homes are designed, doors are in the way so even if you put a small table in, you've made navigation around the house more difficult.

Not everyone can afford big houses. Can we all understand those simple words or do we need to go over the alphabet again?

FinallyFluid · 06/12/2020 01:23

We have always prioritised eating at the table, all food goes in the middle and people serve themselves, surely if your plate is pre plated then there is a chance that if you are watching TV you will just keep plugging away regardless of whether you are full or not.

Crumbleandcake · 05/12/2020 23:34

It's really not great to have children eating meals on their laps. Also where do they do homework?

Meal times are where children learn about how to use a knife and fork politely, about dinner table etiquette and social skills around conversation maintenance and turn taking.

Not having a table really isn't very classy.

KleinBlue · 05/12/2020 22:51

@Planty13

Yikes. Wish I hadn’t opened this thread! In my circles we don’t have homes big enough to accommodate a table (small lounges and alley kitchens) nice to know us folk are uncivilised
So literally, your room is smaller than the size of a modest table? Or, as I suspect, you’ve chosen to furnish the room with other furniture that doesn’t leave room for a table?
Planty13 · 05/12/2020 22:28

Yikes. Wish I hadn’t opened this thread! In my circles we don’t have homes big enough to accommodate a table (small lounges and alley kitchens) nice to know us folk are uncivilised

dementedma · 05/12/2020 22:23

We used to have a table where both leaves folded down and the chais folded up and slid into the table for storage so we could eat at a table. Now we have a bigger flat with a big kitchen table and dd and ds never eat at it!

NoPainNoTartine · 05/12/2020 22:23

My kids all have a desk in their bedrooms, but even so, we had to use our bigger table so I could work and homeschool at the same time. It's hardly pearl clutching to prefer eating sitting around a table and preferring a dining table to make your life easier Hmm

Bluntness100 · 05/12/2020 22:12

@cardibach

I’ve always had a table, but I think a lot of the horror on here is from people who don’t think about people who live alone. You may find it ‘grim’ to eat on a sofa but if you live alone setting the table can feel really sad. I live alone and, despite table, eat on my knee unless I have visitors.
But that’s because peoooe are making it about them. The op doesn’t live alone, she uses the words we and our.

If she lived alone rhe responses would be different. Folks have to remember the comments are aimed at rhe op not at them.

Bluntness100 · 05/12/2020 22:11

@Diddlysquatty

A huge corner sofa that’s really took big for the room is not a good look I’d consider selling the sofa and trading in for something more appropriately sized for the space and also a table
Any furniture to big for the room isn’t a good look. It dominates.and no one piece of furniture should dominate a room becayse it’s too big. It just also makes the room look smaller.

People stop seeing it as a massive sofa and start seeing it as a tiny room you can barely fit your sofa in.

cardibach · 05/12/2020 22:08

I’ve always had a table, but I think a lot of the horror on here is from people who don’t think about people who live alone. You may find it ‘grim’ to eat on a sofa but if you live alone setting the table can feel really sad.
I live alone and, despite table, eat on my knee unless I have visitors.

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